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It's ok to upset people sometimes, Ann.And I wonder if it would ruffle anyone's feathers here if I made a comment. I hope I can express this well.
I had the benefit (30 years ago) of being befriended by a "gun guy" who owned a range and gun shop and was a trainer. He was very helpful in giving me tons of time in private instruction when he wasn't busy. And he didn't make it easy on me - time and again he set me up to "fail" just so he could come down on me with both feet (berating me severely I mean) for any tiny mistake. But you know - I appreciate that. I REMEMBER every mistake I made (and he made sure I made just about all of them), and so I also learned NOT to make them. And I feel I could shoot in my sleep, perfectly automatically. That's the way I learned and maybe I'm prejudiced and feel that's how people should be taught. Maybe not with that exact method, but what I'm getting at is - maybe not to that degree, but to some reasonable degree.
I took the required concealed carry class yesterday. The instructor was quite good IMO. He was a trainer in the military and I think for police iirc, and later civilian. He's been doing it for decades. And he covered everything. He took extra range time with people who had never handled a gun before, which is good (I didn't watch the whole time but one lady I happened to notice was at least 30 minutes). The entire class instruction was 3 hours.
Of course they are probably hoping people will practice more (the range gave cards for a free extra hour). And they offered a book that contained all the info that folks could study more I guess.
But what's bothering me is ... I know what I know. It's like in my bones. My husband, who is fairly experienced with guns, but never formally trained - I kind of trust him, but I have had to remind him more than once of things like "don't EVER point a gun at anyone, even in sweeping around the room, etc - and don't just tell me the safety is on or that you know it's unloaded". And he doesn't seem to truly understand how basic and important that is. (At least he's listening now, after the class.) I'm not saying that to insult my husband, not at all. Not at all. My point is, if he's been hunting, he knows some safety stuff, yet it's not ingrained in him fully to ALWAYS ALWAYS know where the muzzle is pointed ...
It's a bit scary to me to think that the average person who never even handled a weapon can be carrying one in the supermarket with no more than 3 hours' lecture (and I saw one woman on her phone part of the time).
I'm 100% for the right to bear arms. And not to make it impossibly difficult for people to do so legally. But I have real concerns about this.
Maybe I shouldn't even post this. I'm afraid I may upset folks on both sides.
Opinions?
I have to say I am partial to revolvers. And I've found a couple - one in particular - I especially like.
But always there are trade-offs to consider. I need some experience firing the one I've got my eye on first off because it's a heavy trigger and a very light gun with a very short barrel. The instructor said he didn't think I'd have a problem with accuracy (based on the short barrel), but I'm honestly concerned about the recoil. It probably wouldn't matter much in actual use, but I am thinking practice won't be fun. And I would insist on practice.
Thank you. I'm trying to digest a LOT of information quickly (though it will take time to actually get the permit and I'm not rushing my choices).As I mentioned before (I think), my daughter settled on a steel-framed .357 magnum snubbie revolver with shrouded hammer that she loads with .38 spl.
She went with the steel frame magnum because those extra few ounces make a world of difference in felt recoil, but don't make that much difference in a purse or coat pocket.
She went with a shrouded hammer revolver because it can be fired repeatedly--if need be--right through a purse or coat pocket, and in direct contact with the assailant.
Here is the tactical problem to deal with:
The overwhelming likelihood for a woman is that you will be at arms length or actually in contact with an assailant before you have a chance to draw your weapon from concealment. There are a couple of reasons for that likelihood:
Law and social convention require you to keep your weapon concealed until it's too late to shoot from a reasonable distance. A man can cross 20-30 feet faster than you can draw a weapon from concealment. In fact, test show that even if you're carrying openly and looking directly at the assailant, he can still cross 20 feet faster than you can draw and aim.
Yet, you can't so much as brandish the weapon until he has made himself a clear serious danger to you. So what do assailants do? They disassemble their intentions as they get as they work their way as close as possible to you ("Do you have a light? Do you have the time? Do you have some change?") They won't reveal their intentions until they are within arm's length.
Ideally, you need to be taking serious defensive steps while a suspicious man is 30 feet away. Move to keep your distance, maneuver around a vehicle or some other obstacle. Or give him the command voice "Stay right there, don't come closer to me" while he's still 30 feet away.
Women are taught to be polite, so almost anything you do to protect yourself while the assailant is still far enough away for you to be able to draw your weapon will look and sound like you're the crazy one. And even then, you're still vulnerable to a sudden attack.
So my daughter carries a weapon that can be fired while still concealed. She often leaves or arrives at work before sunrise or after sunset. She can walk with the revolver in her pocket and her hand upon it. Or she can put her hand into her purse as she walks. If worse comes to worse and someone is actually upon her before she can draw, she can just press the muzzle against him and fire.
And I wonder if it would ruffle anyone's feathers here if I made a comment. I hope I can express this well.
I had the benefit (30 years ago) of being befriended by a "gun guy" who owned a range and gun shop and was a trainer. He was very helpful in giving me tons of time in private instruction when he wasn't busy. And he didn't make it easy on me - time and again he set me up to "fail" just so he could come down on me with both feet (berating me severely I mean) for any tiny mistake. But you know - I appreciate that. I REMEMBER every mistake I made (and he made sure I made just about all of them), and so I also learned NOT to make them. And I feel I could shoot in my sleep, perfectly automatically. That's the way I learned and maybe I'm prejudiced and feel that's how people should be taught. Maybe not with that exact method, but what I'm getting at is - maybe not to that degree, but to some reasonable degree.
I took the required concealed carry class yesterday. The instructor was quite good IMO. He was a trainer in the military and I think for police iirc, and later civilian. He's been doing it for decades. And he covered everything. He took extra range time with people who had never handled a gun before, which is good (I didn't watch the whole time but one lady I happened to notice was at least 30 minutes). The entire class instruction was 3 hours.
Of course they are probably hoping people will practice more (the range gave cards for a free extra hour). And they offered a book that contained all the info that folks could study more I guess.
But what's bothering me is ... I know what I know. It's like in my bones. My husband, who is fairly experienced with guns, but never formally trained - I kind of trust him, but I have had to remind him more than once of things like "don't EVER point a gun at anyone, even in sweeping around the room, etc - and don't just tell me the safety is on or that you know it's unloaded". And he doesn't seem to truly understand how basic and important that is. (At least he's listening now, after the class.) I'm not saying that to insult my husband, not at all. Not at all. My point is, if he's been hunting, he knows some safety stuff, yet it's not ingrained in him fully to ALWAYS ALWAYS know where the muzzle is pointed ...
It's a bit scary to me to think that the average person who never even handled a weapon can be carrying one in the supermarket with no more than 3 hours' lecture (and I saw one woman on her phone part of the time).
I'm 100% for the right to bear arms. And not to make it impossibly difficult for people to do so legally. But I have real concerns about this.
Maybe I shouldn't even post this. I'm afraid I may upset folks on both sides.
Opinions?
I'm thankful my friend took the time and put in the effort to train me. I realize now what it would cost (a fortune really) to hire a trainer and the range and all the anmo if I just wanted that experience. I owe him a great deal. He wanted to make sure I was safe.I'm glad you did; there are a lot of people who think that they know everything; these are often the most dangerous people at the range! There is no substitute for training and drilling!
I can't give proper advice as I'm from the UK and have never even shot a pistol but hickok45 has some well recieved videos on the subject if that's of any use to you
I had the benefit (30 years ago) of being befriended by a "gun guy" who owned a range and gun shop and was a trainer.
So is a pick handle or a pillowcase full of door knobs...Something that was pointed out in the Concealed Carry course I just took (8 hours scheduled but lasted 9 ½) was that the .22 or .25 in your hand is better than the .45 at home.

What made you think I'm 34 lol?Back when you were 4 years old??!!
So is a pick handle or a pillowcase full of door knobs...![]()
You don't act your age!What made you think I'm 34 lol?
No, I was adult. But my grandfather took me out and taught me from the time I was about 7.
I can't decide if that's a compliment lol!You don't act your age!
I have a few suggestions as I am the son of a WWII First Sgt. who taught me and was a by the Book teacher with Zero tolerance for mistakes. As well as Army and post Army instructors.
1st. There are quite a few purses designed from the ground up to carry and conceal firearms so you can check them out.
2nd. There are fanny packs for every day carry if that might fit into your wardrobe also designed for gun carry and a few even offer body armor options.
3rd. I'm a semi-auto man as I can shoot them much faster and much more accurately than a revolver. They also can carry more ammo.
4th. While I am a .45 ACP guy because I have been shooting one since I was around 10 years old and I am turning 69 this month one should shoot what one shoots the most accurate. That said there are quite a few small concealable 9MM semi-autos that when loaded with the best most reliable one shot stop HPs are good choices. Glocks, Springfield Armory, Sig Sauer, and others meet the standard. I prefer single action autos or the safe action autos both with a combat action trigger job. I have been shooting custom trigger jobs so long a factory trigger feels atrocious. Check out one shot stopping power charts for your ammo choices then find which one your gun likes the best. Put fixed "Night Sights" on your gun and practice with the actual ammo you will use.
5th. If you do choose a revolver. I would go with a large bore like a short barreled .44 Special or 45 ACP with half-moon clips and have the hammer spur removed so it does not catch. That is just my 2cents.
What made you think I'm 34 lol?
No, I was adult. But my grandfather took me out and taught me from the time I was about 7.
Sometimes we joke and say we are "34 with ten year's experience" at 44. And I was also told a lady doesn't reveal her age (notice I haven't been specific lol).I thought all women were in their early 30s.
My wife has been 32 for the last 14 years.
She used to buy brown hair dye to cover the little bit of gray.
Now she buys gray hair dye to cover the little bit of brown.
I think I am going to be in trouble now.
