abusive boyfriend...

[Metal Minister]

Im staying with my aunt right now....im haveing thoughts on if i should get an abortion...

Oh kiddo, right now you should just concentrate on getting safe, and getting your life back in order. A decision like that isn't something you should make in the state you're in right now. Take care of yourself, and let God help you. He'll guide you to the right decision if you let Him.

May God Richly Bless You! MM

 

[PassionFruit]

Im staying with my aunt right now....im haveing thoughts on if i should get an abortion...

As long as you're in a safe place, that's good. I also understand why you have thoughts about getting an abortion, but I want you to know that you do have other options. There's help out there for women and their who are experiencing domestic violence.

Here's another link for you

Domestic Violence Resource Center

 

[rowantree]

<edit> I haven't replied before but have been reading and feeling so for your situation. I so wish I could help, and know that there are people in here who truly care and who want to help. Please go on reaching out. Please!

Don't listen to anyone who tries to put you off. Please keep in touch here.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

Im gonna move back in with him.

 

[Metal Minister]

Im gonna move back in with him.

Kiddo, if you do, you're lost. He will own you. If you think things are bad now, wait till he thinks you won't actually leave. Talk to your aunt, call one of those hotlines, anything. Just don't give him that power over you!

May God Richly Bless You! MM

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I jsut feel so alone all the time...im having suicide thoughts tonight....im crying so much i just wish someone would love me and my baby..

 

[Metal Minister]

I jsut feel so alone all the time...im having suicide thoughts tonight....im crying so much i just wish someone would love me and my baby..

Sweetie, there are people who love you and your baby. Your aunt must if you're able to live with her. I'm sure you must have other family, and friends. Suicide is not going to solve your problems and forgive me if this sounds crass, but it means he wins. Remember, no matter what, God loves you. He is always there for you to give your fears and sadness to. He won't ever turn you away. True, sometimes He let's us go through transfixed times, but its only to make us stronger when we come out the other side of the trial! I'm reminded of a lovely story I once heard:

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky. In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand. Sometimes there were two sets of footprints, other times there were one set of footprints.

This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints.

So I said to the Lord, "You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there have only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, you have not been there for me?"

The Lord replied, "The times when you have seen only one set of footprints, is when I carried you." Mary Stevenson.

Hold onto that. Jesus will carry you and your baby through, if only you'll let him.

May God Richly Bless You! MM

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I feel like God doesnt even love me or care about me...I feel so alone in this...i just wish i had someone to talk too..

 

[Metal Minister]

I feel like God doesnt even love me or care about me...I feel so alone in this...i just wish i had someone to talk too..

Sweetheart, God always loves you. It's hard to grasp sometimes because He doesn't have warm arms to hug you, and to fall you everything will be ok, but please believe me, He's there, and He loves you.

Psalm 34:17-20

When the righteous cry for help,the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.

May God Richly Bless You! MM

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I have to go back to him...no one else wants me...no one else loves me...i feel so alone..

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

Big Big 's

Though it may not feel like it right now, your pregnancy hormones will have you feel like this sometimes in the first trimester. It can be like one lengthened PMS. Plus you're going through and have experienced some significantly high stress situations. It might be worth chatting to your doctor when you next go for your pre-natal checkups.

But ore importantly, hold onto the truth that you're loved by the God as His precious daughter and you're being prayed for by your family of believers worldwide. We're in this for the long haul together.

Were you able to contact the domestic abuse helplines, yet? In the UK they have Women's Aid where they arrange a person who is available to talk, encourage and help you 24/7.

Still praying for you, sis.
LP

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I havent been to the doctor yet and no i havent called them yet..

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

I havent been to the doctor yet and no i havent called them yet..

Big 's Would you like to pm me. It's currently 9.30am here my little one has had his bottle. I've just prayed for you also.

I'm here if you need to talk.

 

[Lotuspetal_uk]

I have to go back to him...no one else wants me...no one else loves me...i feel so alone..

I know this is so hard right now, little sis. But please know that for the safety of yourself and your child it is better for you to remain separated from your partner. I went back 3 times - it didn't get any better.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

Metel Minister its not letting me PM you anymore it says your inbox is full.

I was just gonna say that i dont want this baby.....

 

[Metal Minister]

Metel Minister its not letting me PM you anymore it says your inbox is full.

I was just gonna say that i dont want this baby.....

Oh sweetie, now really isn't the time to think about that. Let's get your heart right first, and then worry about the rest. You can pm me again. Sorry, I really need to do some cleaning in my inbox!

May God Richly Bless You! MM

 

[somescarsneverheal]

I have to think about it cause if i wait it may be to late...

 

[Catherineanne]

Metel Minister its not letting me PM you anymore it says your inbox is full.

I was just gonna say that i dont want this baby.....

My dear sister, please find someone to talk to about the abuse you are going through. They will understand; many of us have been in the same situation, and we know what it is like. We know the confusion of wanting to go 'home', while being afraid of what might happen there. Home for you now has to be where it is safe for you, and safe for your baby.

You may think you don't want your baby, but really you do. You want it enough to have left your abuser twice now, and that is really, really strong of you; I have to commend you for that. But every time you go back it will be harder to leave the next time.

Your abuser will not change; I am sorry to say that just does not happen. What happens is that they get worse and worse over the years, until someone gets seriously hurt - you or your child - and they end up in jail. The way to prevent any of that is to stay away.

Please, listen to what others have said here and get in touch with your doctor and with a women's refuge. Your aunt may be able to help you to do that.

God be with you, and your precious little baby. You are the only chance that baby has of life, and if you allow it to live it will repay you in love and blessings a million times over. Don't do anything to put it in any kind of distress or danger; it is early days in this pregnancy and you are already unwell, but there is a chance, God willing, that you are going to be a mother; be the best mother you know how even now, and protect yourself and your child at the same time.

Don't go back.

 

[Catherineanne]

I have to think about it cause if i wait it may be to late...

I promise you, if you keep your baby you will never, ever regret it, from the day the baby is born for the rest of your life. I am a mother; I have one daughter, and she is more precious to me than I can put into words. She is the whole world to me. As I am writing to you, I am saying the same as I would to her; protect yourself because you are very special; you are irreplaceable, and so is your child.

You need to talk to someone about this; you cannot do it alone. Please, go to see your doctor and ask for help, or ring a women's abuse helpline.

 

[somescarsneverheal]

but i keep thinking that he will love me and he will want to be with me...i just i have to go back and find out if he wants me...he said he is sorry i just want him to love me an the baby so we can be happy together...