Keeping people down, who could climb up if you'd leave them alone

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Hello everyone. Thank you for your responses in this thread. Something came to my mind and I wanted to dust the thread off a little and clarify what I meant by some things.

It’s the part about being “good enough.”

Please understand I am under no delusion whatsoever that God’s blessings on me have anything to do with me earning it, or because I am in any way worthy. He has blessed me because He is good, not to reward me for whatever semblance of good there might be in me. And I certainly am no more deserving of anything He has given me than anyone else is.

Also, the lifestyle we live isn’t all that lofty. Don’t be picturing mansions, servants, yachts, limousines, and country clubs, because that’s not the way we live. Nor do we want to. A cozy little house in a middle class suburb. That’s all I was describing that day to my mother, when she essentially told me that owning and living in one of those was not an attainable goal for me. My lot in life was apparently supposed to be a government funded subsistence with no hope of improvement. Even daring to dream of something else meant I was getting a swelled head and needed to be brought back down to where I belong.

My husband likes to remind me that he is nothing spectacular. He’s just a plain, ordinary man. After a lifetime of dysfunction and abuse, he has no idea how grateful I am for just plain ordinary. I never wanted fancy. I wanted normal and healthy, and don’t give me that line about normal being just a setting on a dryer. And I was told in no uncertain terms that I was not eligible for that. It was out of my reach.

So, even though the life I have now is not a matter of me being “good enough” for it, I suppose my point is this. No parent should ever tell a child that they’re NOT good enough to rise above their situation. Nor should any social worker try to hold a client back. And if anyone has ever tried to convince you of any such thing about yourself, please, don’t believe it.

 

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people wanted me to stay in it and not get out of it.

I was going to ask who these people were and why they said that. May be ones into the Bible could say, stay with a husband. But I see the reasoning was not related to what certain Bible claiming people say.

I have diabetes and my eyesight is failing.

I have been told someone with adult-onset diabetes can lose weight and that removes the fat which is ordering the body not to use sugar.

But I understand every person is the only one like that one; so I am careful about telling a diabetic what to do.

My stepfather had adult-onset, and my mother made him exercise and eat what she gave him. He lost weight until he did not need insulin any more. However, among other things, a person had better know what he or she is doing, losing weight. And have a **sustainable** lifestyle developing for if you lose weight. With God, whatever you do will be enjoyable and He will make things even easy, in His wisdom and how He blesses. He is creative

We are now in a position to help others, and we do.

As we do what God guides, there are all-loving benefits . . . not you alone getting blessed and prospered. Because . . . God is all-loving.

It’s true I married into this,

If you have trusted in Jesus, there are a lot of goods that you "married into", with Jesus and His people. When God knows you are ready, He can already have a lot of things ready.

For background, I have dealt most of my life with complex PTSD and chronic major depression after suffering childhood and later marital abuse. I also have some permanent physical injuries from a car accident. (I wasn't driving, by the way, and it wasn't my car.) Currently I cannot commit to an outside job, and I am minimally functional around the house. I have to do housework in spurts until the pain becomes so great I have to stop and rest, then I do a little more. I cannot complete tasks such as vacuuming or cleaning the kitchen in one go. As mentioned before, I am also diabetic and losing my eyesight.

Yeah, that sounds disabled.

I have not suffered like you have, maybe, but I have found it helps to trust God to get rid of anything which is negative and cruel in my emotions and imagination. And trust Him to change me so I am pleasing Him and all-loving.

I've been homeless a few times in my life,

Be at home with God.