My boyfriend is Muslim and he is making me doubt my faith...

YHWH_will_uplift said:

After reading what you wrote sister the main message I got from what you wrote is this:

Islam------------Nika Yermakova------------Christianity

You are stuck in the middle and not sure what to do, who to speak to, where to go, when you'll get out of this mess, why you're here, and how you'll get out. But you do know that:

• Christianity and Islam conflict with one another.
• He tried to convert you through debate and argument.
• You're lost and scared.
• The relationship is toxic and you can't seem to leave it.
• You love one another.
• You don't know what to believe in.
• You haven't prayed in weeks.

During chaotic times like this the Enemy is able to get in when you are lost in doubt. Before making decisions about Christianity and Islam get yourself to higher ground so you can breathe and see everything from a bird's eye view. The reason for this is that it is very difficult to see exactly what's going on when you're in the middle of everything therefore your focus becomes skewed:

Focus > Time > Energy > Life

Wherever your focus is determines where you spend your time, energy, and ultimately your life. That being said focus on Holy Spirit for Christ said that He will guide you into all truth. And because the Holy Spirit will not lead you into error and falsehood you can trust Him fully if you let Him lead your spirit: for where the spirit leads the body will follow. And because the Holy Spirit will guide you into all truth, remember the words of Jesus Christ:

"And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free."

In order to know the truth you must be able to see with your eyes and discern with your mind. When you don't know the truth you are in bondage to ignorance: therefore to be free of the darkness call out to the Light which is God and allow His Light to enter into your eyes and your mind and, you shall be free once He reveals the truth to you about what you need to do.

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Awww thank you!! I really appreciate it

FireDragon76 said:

It's like Tevye in Fiddler on the Roof, when he rebukes his daughter for falling in love with a gentile. "A bird may love a fish, but where could they make a home together?"

In this case, the fish will want the bird to be a fish, and the bird may drown.

As @Monk Brendan said, this is not love, this is loving the idea of being in love.

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That was a beautiful way of saying it thank you!

YHWH_will_uplift said:

Gentleman, gentleman, the issue here is not about marriage, dating, nor about the controlling issue:

Islam------------Nika Yermakova------------Christianity

Our dear sister is struggling with her faith as it is being called into question. And if you read her responses carefully then you would see that she has issues with depression and used to cut herself in the past. And right now she's struggling to not go back there. Where's the love and encouragement?

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Awww thank you ^^ yeah I've been struggling with depression for a while and I still do. I also overthink a lot and experience severe anxiety which has made me afraid to go to church and I skipped many days of school which led me to failing many classes and it took a lot of of effort to get my grades back up. But this relationship made it so much worse, i skipped school so that I could talk to him and that made my mom always go to court because of so many absences. I even skipped church for him. It is so hard and I experience pain all the time and fighting for him drained me so much. I lost everything. I lost my faith, I pushed away many friends and even went against my family. I gave up on all my dreams, plans and goals and I had so much hope for him but all of this ended up bringing me down and making my mental, physical and spiritual situation worse. I would stay up all night for him watching religious videos because otherwise he would be upset and say "you are making up excuses and running away from the truth" he talked bad things about pastors and my Christian friends saying that they are ignorant and they changed the bible for their own good and such. He called God fake and.. honestly his words really hurt me. And when we talk about religion I end up crying at some point because I can feel a war inside me. He calls me ignorant and egoistic and selfish and I feel like it's all my fault.. I've even experienced more and more suicidal thoughts which never happened so much...

royal priest said:

The counsel of this sermon may be instructive in pointing you to freedom:
Above All, Guard Your Heart, Pt.1

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Thank you I'll definitely listen to it ^^

Foxfyre said:

I think that should be a huge red flag that this man is most likely not good for you. We can't help who we are attracted to and I have known quite a few VERY personable, likable, and yes really attractive Muslim men. I can see how they could turn a woman's head. And I can see how one might come to love a man if a relationship developed.

But judgmental? Controlling? Dismissive or insulting to you and your religion? Not good husband material my dear. I am not you and I am not there, but my instincts tell me that you should swallow hard, accept the grief of loss of the relationship, but run, don't walk, to the nearest exit and don't look back. Even if this man was a highly respected Christian, with the other qualities he is exhibiting, he would be pure poison for you.

And then confess your doubts, feeling of estrangement, and inner turmoil to God and leave yourself to be healed by him. You will be.

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Thank you... its taking a lot courage to let go because I'm scared that no other guy would accept le after this if they found out...

Lost4words said:

Is there any way that he would convert to Christianity? Pray about it.

God bless you

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I tired.. for months and it only seemed to bring me down.

danbuter said:

There have been many news stories about western women marrying Muslims, where after they are married, the man beats her and treats her as a slave. He may not be like that, but from what you've said, it's certainly a possibility. I recommend you get away from him for at least a while and think about your life.

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I really want to to be honest but I'm scared of hurting him.

Basil the Great said:

I think I will depart this thread. All I will say in summation is, God bless you, Nika.

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Thank you I appreciate it ^^

Oscarr said:

Run for your life from that man. I was a court victim advisor for 10 years before I retired, dealing mainly with domestic violence. We had Muslim wives coming to our office saying that if they were disobedient to their husbands they got a beating. They said that it was the Muslim way and that according to Muslim principles it was quite okay to beat their wives if they didn't do what the husband required of them. This is what you may be looking forward to if you make any marriage commitment to this man. You will be required to go through a Muslim marriage, and he will totally control you.

Don't just pray about it, whether it is right for you or not. Disregard your feelings of love for that man. They don't come from the Holy Spirit. The Scripture says to flee from evil. Obey that Scripture and run for your life!!!

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I want to I just.. I guess I'm just scared.

Foxfyre said:

You've done nothing wrong other than perhaps made a really bad choice. Who among us has never done that? The important thing is that you were wise enough to see the danger signs and are letting go. And any man worth having will honor that.

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Thank you that made me feel a little better