I never really liked myself as an individual. I have always been really shy and never had much of a personality or opinions on any matter. I realized that I don't know a lot about anything or have any passions. I never feel like I have a presence anywhere, I just merely exist. There isn't anything I am really known for, I am not charismatic, talented, smart etc. This also hasn't helped me make friends so I have always been a loner. I also don't think I can make a change as a Christian because I don't have anything to offer. I know that God made me who I am for a reason, however, it hurts being so unremarkable. My question is can God change me or do I just have to accept myself?
Everybody has a niche (i.e. somewhere that they can shine).
It's just a matter of finding it.
So ... you start with your inclinations ... and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of them. Some of the most successful people are those that became known for doing something that noone else thought to be valuable.
I'll give an example. For the last 15 years or so, I've made muffins (from various Betty Crocker mixes) for our church's Sunday School attendees. It's gotten to the point that I am called the "muffin man" ... and people express to me that they really miss it when I am not able to bring muffins.
But, more than that, every one of the members of my church KNOWS that I love them ... because I am willing to make muffins for them every Sunday.
Certainly making muffins isn't remarkable ... anyone could do it. But it touches the hearts of people.
Another way I've set upon to touch people ... is to make it a point to smile at them when we meet. It doesn't have to be someone I know. I jut know that, often, when I am down, someone's smile at me will, generally, lift my spirits.
I try and do things that I believe will lift the spirits of people that I encounter. Sometimes it's just a matter of asking them how they are doing ... or paying a bit of attention to them if they are being left alone in a gathering.
There are lots of things that we can do for one another. And most of them are not spectacular. But when you think about it, ... none of the ingredients in a cake is particularly spectacular, in itself. Not the flour, or the milk, the sugar, the eggs, the butter, the flavoring. But put them together ... and you can have something spectacular ... and each of those ingredients is absolutely necessary to make that cake.
The key is to find your own God-given ways ... to make a positive difference in the lives of those around you. Everybody's not a soloist ... but an prestigious musical director once told me ... that every voice in his choirs ... added something to the quality of the singing.
You've got to get out there ... and get involved. To some extent, ... that's what churches are there for ... to give you opportunities to use your God-given gifts to make a difference in the lives of others.
I have a son ... who, like you, yearns to be seen as significant. But he doesn't yet understand, or perhaps is just learning, that you can't really be significant ... unless you are willing to invest in the lives of others. Nothing else really matters.