Why do people come here to have arguments that nobody here is having? So weird. I had that happen recently in my PM box. Everything was fine until I told my friend (who had written to me; I did not write to them) in response to their question of if I could commune in an RC church while waiting to go to the nearest OO church that this is not possible; then it was all about how terrible we are for not being more open...or something... it's like, okay, that's how you feel. On the other hand, these are our principles, so it shouldn't be a surprise that they win out over whatever you, the person who is not a member of the Church to begin with, thinks or feels. If we were not dedicated to them, then I suppose we could do whatever, but that's not reality, and we are not bad people for not living in un-reality with you, no matter how nicely it may be phrased at the outset. (Out of common Christian concern or whatever.)
Anyway, David, I think it's a good thing that you have a sensitivity to this now, knowing that it's not all the same (as you can see from the conversations in this thread or the above short anecdote, the pressure from people outside of the Church is to think that it is) -- but at the same time, realistically, you're not in the Eastern Orthodox Church yet. God willing, some day soon you will be, but until then, I can't imagine the standards being the same, especially with all of the intervening issues you are dealing with that are specific to you (coming from another country where Eastern Orthodoxy is not very present, being of the age to rely on your parents, etc).
It's definitely something to talk about with your priest when you can talk to him. I had the same discussion with my priest as I was preparing to leave New Mexico to come back to California; that's how I learned it was not acceptable in the Coptic Orthodox view that we should go to the nearst EO church, even though that does sometimes happen (as it does back in my home area of Sonoma County, so I was not entirely clear as to whether or not this is okay). No doubt your own priest will be able to sort out details like this for you as well, in addition to giving you guidance regarding things like what you have already done. So I wouldn't beat myself up about it too much, if I were you. Again, it's good that you see there is a problem with this, but it is not an insurmountable one.