How's your 30 something going?

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My thirties have been... awkward. I feel trapped, wishing I knew 10 years ago what I finally know now. 36 years old, stable but kind of bored with my job/career, brainstorming ways to adjust career or go back to school and change entirely to what I've become more passionate about, in the process of converting to a new religion (protestant/evangelical >>> orthodoxy), finally into the dating world after being an oppressed/shy/late bloomer/ugly duckling male in my 20s, had 2 romantic relationships between 30-35, single now for 1.5 years, not sure if I can (or care) to still get married/have kids, still technically a virgin when "saving myself for marriage" hasn't been my conviction anymore for years, hence sexually frustrated. A bit Lonely. Conflicted between if I should move for a scenery change/better lifestyle, or take time off and live abroad, but wanting to stay close to at least a few old friends/family and feel rooted and "settled down". The 30s are chock-full of conflicting interests between personal realizations/aspirations and societal pressures of what you're supposed to do once you're over 30. It is an awkward age, if you're a single man, has been my experience. Anyways, I'm just happy to be finally discovering the Church that works for me, investigating options for my next job/school move, enjoying my family/friends, working on new friendships, working to liberate myself from those societal pressures while still self-improving and asserting myself towards the things I still want to do in life.
 
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You know what? My first year in the 30s Has been a blessed mixed bag. I’ve had some health (stomach related) and anxiety issues that have made seeking full-time employment a bit more challenging – which I get anxious about and it weighs on me at times. However, my wife and I have gotten an amazing puppy, we bought our first home through God’s blessings on my wife work and financial wise – as well as an incredibly loving and supportive family. I’ve also been able to buy and run my own website, start a podcast that I love doing, and get work at an organization (that while part-time) I really enjoyed being a part of. But through it all God is amazing and I’ve been so thankful for his grace and love. Looking forward to for the years in the 30s and entering my 4th year of marriage. God is wonderful.
 
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Thirties has been tough for sure. I lost my best friend last year whom I was going to marry. Then two days before the one year anniversary of my best friends passing, my dad died. Lost two career opportunities and trying a third time. Tired of being single. Doesn't mean I am not happy being single but I have been doing so many things by myself, tired of doing things by myself.
 
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Children change everything; more than moving states, more than new jobs, more than even getting married. While the freedom to come, go, and do is limited, I'd trade it all for the joy and love that comes with having kids. My wife and children are not the center of my universe, and rooted in Christ.
 
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I turned 30 just a few weeks ago. I don't feel any different. It's refreshing and haunting at the same time that my age no longer has a "2" in front of it. I've officially joined the "lost cause" group of forever single though so there's that!
 
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I turned 30 just a few weeks ago. I don't feel any different. It's refreshing and haunting at the same time that my age no longer has a "2" in front of it. I've officially joined the "lost cause" group of forever single though so there's that!
Basically this except for the last sentence. I've been 30 now for a few months, but I still feel like a 20 something.

Basically nothing much changed. Just the same realization every year, that I still have a lot to learn on every area of my life.
 
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My 30s are just life. I go to work, come home, hang out with the wife and kids, eat, put the kids to bed, and retire with a TV show or some Breath of the Wild (after Breath of the Wild, I'll have to wait for the sequel. But after that, then what?!) The weekends are house/yard work (more house work and less yard work) and church.
 
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I see myself getting older. The years fly by. There's thing I dream of doing that I'm holding back from out of fear. I feel the clock ticking. I have to take that step. I have to write the stories I yearn to write, regardless of how they're received. That criticism won't destroy me. That I believe in my own writing. My own stories. That the things I believe in are right. That I won't be toppled by dissenting opinions.
 
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So far the second half is going MUCH better than the first. 36 now. Completely changed careers last year, from being a special education teacher to doing video production and photography for The Boeing Company. No more dodging staplers and scissors!
 
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I see myself getting older. The years fly by. There's thing I dream of doing that I'm holding back from out of fear. I feel the clock ticking. I have to take that step. I have to write the stories I yearn to write, regardless of how they're received. That criticism won't destroy me. That I believe in my own writing. My own stories. That the things I believe in are right. That I won't be toppled by dissenting opinions.

Always go for your dreams. My wife is a 3-time published author... it's a tough journey, but it is so worth the risk. As The Great One said, "you miss 100% of the shots you don't take."
 
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I am 32 years old. You guys sound like you have had some problems in your lives that I have never had. I think God has given me a pretty good life. I was raised by loving Christian parents, had a fun childhood with lots of playtime, but now that I am an adult I look back on some things and wonder what I would have done differently if God had allowed me to live my life over once again.
 
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35 here. It's not too bad! A lot of the drama associated with one's 20's is gone. I'm more comfortable in my own skin. I try to take care of my appearance and dress nicely and smell good (yay, Old Spice!), but don't care about being prettier than anyone else. I have a husband and a home and a little car, and life is simpler. I feel thankful for what I have.

And the music I grew up with is now retro. :D
 
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I had some great adventures in my twenties, sure. I went on a tour through Turkey, I took a few trips to Disneyworld, I made some great friends, I lived in a major city for six years, went to a ton of baseball games, and even went to my first NFL game. I also struggled a lot. I went through a couple of different jobs, I went through a horrible divorce at an age when most of my friends were getting engaged (talk about trying to find someone to relate to you), and I was basically homeless for three months where I would sleep in Walmart parking lots in the back of a GMC Jimmy. My thirties weren't as adventurous but much more fulfilling and stable. When I realized that I wasn't able to find a decent roommate (I have no idea why people around here are so flaky) and couldn't muster up enough income on my own to provide for my small child with an absent dad, I packed up and moved in with my grandmother. I upgraded my car and started working for myself as an uber/lyft driver, and put my nose to the grindstone. I had money in my pocket and provided for my little girl, even if I had to sacrifice time with her and leave her at her grandparents for a couple days. I was determined to turn it around. It did. I met someone worth my time, we got married, and had another girl. I have stability now, I enjoy life a lot more than when it was my adventurous 20s. I'm only 33 and I have to say, I can't believe how awesome this season in my life is.
 
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I turn 35 this year (next month actually). I have to say that on a personal level 2019 was probably one of the worst years of my life. At the same time though I have done a lot of growing a lot of learning especially about gratitude.
 
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My thirty something is going so-so. I have learned a lot, still have much more to learn, and will always be a student of something. I even have a picture to share with you all that my uncle posted on FB.

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I turn 35 in September; I have honestly loved my 30's. Best decade so far. I don't think I even knew what I wanted until I was about 28. That said, turning 34 really hit me; the 20's are in my distant past, 40's ahead.... life is kind of weird that way!
 
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I feel quite content most of the time, of course I would like to meet my partner finally which God has chosen for me but it´s not my priority number one. Being almost 35 im good but im terrified about 40´s. That´s natural to be afraid something you haven´t experienced yet. I´d like to think though that life gets better when aging because you get more confident and peaceful about little things in life because you have grown wiser.
 
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Well, here we are. The third recession in the adult life of upper spectrum Millennials. In the plus column, for once the Boomers don't seem to be to blame for the economy tanking. Two out of three ain't bad though.

We had a good run, I guess. Seven years of economic stagnation, ten years of recession, two years of solid growth and now we're bordering on a depression. Yay, lucky us.
 
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