I don’t know what you experienced. But I know that cruelty is never the Lord’s response. Some people have experienced pain to a depth where normal relations are difficult. Discerning the truth takes time.
There are those who seek to harm, punish, or exact vengeance through covert means. Their intentions were never good and were undertaken with our injury in mind. This is not of God and is wholly evil.
I feel like the Lord was telling me to get out of it plenty of times, but I guess I thought I had something to prove maybe, etc... But, no, definitely wasn't healthy, and I have some "scars" from it for sure, but doing pretty good now actually. I'm happy for the most part, and I'm happy with myself and by myself, which I don't know if I would have been as much had I not went through that...
I might have still been looking to other people, or a spouse, etc, to meet and fulfill my needs instead of God, along with some "other lessons" as well, I might have not learned to not let go of or not trust and not allow toxic or destructive people in my life, which might have been to my detriment now, etc...
I used to have this thing with picking people, or I just attracted them IDK, who were toxic and destructive people in my life, mates, friends, etc, and I don't so much now...
Little lonely at times, but it's really not "that bad" and really not that bad at all, really, and I don't know that I would have had that perspective before...?
Anyhow,
God Bless!