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Are you referring to psychological manipulation?
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Are you referring to psychological manipulation?
In your opinion, what drives the behavior?
And how do you address it as a Christian?
Machiavellism is one of the possibilities.
They are calculating and want something from you. If they give (whether it is personal information, compliment, or help), they expect the same favor in return, except in a greater amount. It is said that they will never give more than they could receive. They tend to speak in nicer tones or get closer to you when they want something.
Especially when the person engaging in mind games is within your community of believers. It's delicate. But at the minimum, a step backward in the relationship is necessary. After that, it depends on the unique situation and what God reveals to you in your prayers.
I’m going to fast and deal with it hands on.
I probably need to do that too.
Mind games. We’ve heard of them and recognize the damage they cause.
In your opinion, what drives the behavior?
And how do you address it as a Christian?
Regarding the situation you previously mentioned or another?
And how do you address it as a Christian?
In my experience, the best way to deal with a narcissist who insists on playing mind games, is to not reveal too much information about yourself. It's a good idea to keep your counsel, not to tell them anything about your plans or about how you are feeling, to only tell them the very basic things they need to know and not everything that they want to know.Mind games. We’ve heard of them and recognize the damage they cause.
In your opinion, what drives the behavior? And how do you address it as a Christian?
In my experience, the best way to deal with a narcissist who insists on playing mind games, is to not reveal too much information about yourself. It's a good idea to keep your counsel, not to tell them anything about your plans or about how you are feeling, to only tell them the very basic things they need to know and not everything that they want to know.
I've mentioned it before.
In one sense it's a huge blessing as a Christian to have been manipulated, bullied or burned in the past. It trains you, empowers you, allows you to pick up the signals that point to the person not being quite right. You grow as a Christian. You are able to warn others so they don't go through a similar experience.
My advice would be if you don't see several of these in a 'believer's' demeanour. Run!
It's a good idea to keep your counsel, not to tell them anything about your plans or about how you are feeling, to only tell them the very basic things they need to know and not everything that they want to know.
If it is with a personal romantic relationship... if not married... RUN. Well, politely end the relationship...Mind games. We’ve heard of them and recognize the damage they cause.
In your opinion, what drives the behavior? And how do you address it as a Christian?
Sometimes the person really hates you because they know that they are much more bad person than you are and wishes to bring you down to their depraved level,
But yeah, It's made me not trust or want to be around anybody anymore, so, and since I have the liberty to, most of the time I just don't anymore...
I feel like these "mind games" are a great, great, great deal supremely responsible all around for the "downward spiral" morally, etc, of the whole world right now...
I avoid a lot, A LOT, because I can... But many people can't though...
It's tempted me to go off and fly off the handle plenty of times, although most of the time I didn't, just got out of the situation, and stopped associating with any of the people anymore...
I consider it a kind of "sorcery" or black magic or dark arts, even "evil" I would say...
Of course, I have to extra careful and cautious as I can be extra-sensitive to it, and have to go to great lengths to protect/shield myself, due to a mental condition I have that makes me extra sensitive to that kind of thing also...
Many years ago, I worked for a line manager who had a very narcissistic personality. One of her tactics was to set an impossible task for me to complete within an unreasonable timescale and then scrutinised what I did to try and make me feel like I wasn't doing well enough.
My answer to her was "well, you didn't really expect me to do it properly, did you?". She gave a nervous laugh and I don't think she knew quite what to say!
I feel like my ex used to do it to me, but I don't know if she really knew it or not, as that was just kind of how she was raised, and was a part of her personality and behavior with everybody, not just me... still don't know for sure down to this day, but, I'm on my own now, and am much better off for it I think...If it is with a personal romantic relationship... if not married... RUN. Well, politely end the relationship...
If married... Lord help you..No, seriously... You will need to do a lot of research and council yourself.
Read the book "Telling Yourself the Truth"...
Telling Yourself the Truth
by
William Backus,
Marie Chapian (Contributor)
Prayer, support from loved ones and prayer.. more prayer...
I know, I have lived it... For the first decade I thought it was me... then... I found the book and a site called "Out of the Fog"
If it is with a personal romantic relationship... if not married... RUN. Well, politely end the relationship...
Prayer, support from loved ones and prayer.. more prayer...
I know, I have lived it... For the first decade I thought it was me... then... I found the book and a site called "Out of the Fog"