Ack, it didn't let me finish typing. I was also going to say about the male thing, you understand from a womans perspective what its like to be a woman. Likewise from a male perspective I understand what its like to be a male. So while I am not like most men, I still notice the hate growing for men from various groups. Just as women noticed the hate from men for decades upon decades.
I am not an expert on women because I have a vagina and they have a vagina too. I understand men and the male perspective way better than I understand women, always have, and since I spend 95% of my time surrounded by men, I always will most likely.
And, FWIW, maybe it’s because of what I said above, but I have never, ever noticed “hate” from men for “decades upon decades.” Even considering most of my jobs were in male-dominated fields (as in there were 200 employees and only 3 women) and I had men tell me to my face they didn’t like me or trust my work because I was a woman. I have noticed some men aren’t tactful or are too lax, I guess. I don’t know how to describe it. And I have noticed a few men enjoy taking or trying to take liberties. I’ve come across a small number who are predators.
We hear about the predators and the liberty takers the most, the untactful ones sometimes get lumped in there too. Most men I’ve dealt with (including the ones I don’t like and who don’t like me), however, will probably say something to the untactful guy, save you from the liberty takers, and downright massacre the predators. Maybe my experience with men isn’t the norm, but that is what it is.
I mean sure, maybe it doesn't really go cause a guy to go shoot people. But one never knows. When people feel cornered or trapped they do unbelievable things. I mean I don't have any urge to do said things of course.
It’s the “but” that kills you. There is no “but.” School shooters or mass shooters aren’t victims. They aren’t guys who were told they had to be tolerant of minorities and stop harassing women and aren’t taking it well and venting in an “unpredictable” way. Mass shootings aren’t caused by weak white men who can’t take hearing no.
But I do feel pressure of having to walk on egg shells about everything currently because I am a white male. Especially since things have gone from "Turn the other cheek and walk away!" to "If someone hurts you, hurt them back!. The politics is a good example of this. Now both sides do bad things back to the other side based on what the other side did when they were in office.
Walking on eggshells? No. Women aren’t crazy creatures who accuse people randomly of things just because. I’m not teaching my kids to walk on eggshells, just to be conscientious. Being aware isn’t hard. And, per my experience above, most men won’t have to change their behavior at all. The only men who should be nervous is the tactless ones. The harassers and predators, however, they should be paranoid.