Why I was bummed out.

[Ariel]

Spring, I got very hurt at GE+ last year. I almost left, more than once. You saw some of what I went through.

When you started the stars thread in GE+ I was skeptical at first that it would do any good. But then I saw that I was wrong. It became apparent that we were building each other up as we repped each other. The difference was enormous.

Then I got bummed out myself. I tried to tell people how to grow by giving multi reps, and I received some comments that hurt. So I withdrew.

Could it be that you are watching me and not understanding why I am not there much recently? I go there to pray still, and to help. But I don't know how to react to people who think I should rep them just because I'm there.

I'm not willing to give out endlessly, which is what it was starting to become for me. NOT FUN, especially when I received reps with snide comments.

 

[twob4me]

I'm hoping I don't have to post my mod hat. I wanted to ask that we be mindful of our words here. There are people getting hurt in this thread. One of CF's rules is this one:

Use the brain God gave you. Think before you post. Think about how your post may affect someone else.

Please think about how your words are effecting others.

 

[Nadiine]

thanks Two. my husband is pushing me out the door LITERALLY to go eat some late lunch - he's cranky at me, but I love everybody here & will start another thread if this will help bridge any gaps.

I will try anything to help.

Thanks for the support I've gotten from some of you, & Ariel too.

I needed it badly.

 

[Watchman4hm]

thanks Two. my husband is pushing me out the door LITERALLY to go eat some late lunch - he's cranky at me, but I love everybody here & will start another thread if this will help bridge any gaps.

I will try anything to help.

Thanks for the support I've gotten from some of you, & Ariel too.

I needed it badly.

You know where I stand

 

[drstevej]

RD,

When you started this discussion, you obviously were upset. Have we addressed the issues you were upset about?

Upset is not the right word. I was not upset at anyone and am not now. I was just feeling "bummed"... kinda blah personally and had not known why. The OP explains what I figured out as to why.

I thought it might be helpful to others who were where I had been (and it turns out that such was the case... several have told me it was helpful for them to get perspective.

I am not on staff but as the one requesting this forum and as one who has found this a neat place I wanted to share my thoughts.

I am a pastor (35 years) and the shepherding role just is wired in.

 

[Ariel]

I'm hoping I don't have to post my mod hat. I wanted to ask that we be mindful of our words here. There are people getting hurt in this thread. One of CF's rules is this one:



Please think about how your words are effecting others.

Two, I do not mean to hurt anyone. RD opened up a sensitive topic.

I'll just leave, if you think that will help.

 

[drstevej]

Ariel. I do not want you to go. I think there is some healing going on.

We just need to discuss a sensitive topic with sensitivity.

 

[drstevej]

twob4me, I appreciate your reminding us to think before we type.

Wise.

 

[Ariel]

I am trying to be sensitive.

Please understand, this has not been easy for me, either.

 

[twob4me]

Two, I do not mean to hurt anyone. RD opened up a sensitive topic.

I'll just leave, if you think that will help.

Hon, I wasn't directing my post at anyone in particular. It's addressed to everyone to be careful of the words they choose. I'm trying to keep this thread from going down the path it's going and that's south. I don't want anyone to leave.

 

[Ariel]

I am here to talk.

 

[twob4me]

twob4me, I appreciate your reminding us to think before we type.

Wise.

James chapter 3 talks about taming the tongue. I think it's a pretty important thing for everyone to learn. Not just on this MB. Words can hurt. Once said you can't take them back. The same applies in our posts. Yes you can edit your post but if the person or others have already seen the post the damage has been done.

A lot of times I type out my feelings in my notepad. I read and re-read it to see how it sounds. I leave and come back later and read it again when I'm a lot calmer. 98% of the time I end of just deleting what I typed and letting it go.

WWJD

 

[drstevej]

I am trying to be sensitive.

Please understand, this has not been easy for me, either.

 

[drstevej]

wwjr

Who Would Jesus Rep

 

[.faith.]

wwjr

Who Would Jesus Rep

I had a couple of posts I could of commented on and was going to, until this post.

That says it all!

 

[MMXII]

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“Could I give up my repps/stars…zero out my account and continue fellowship for Praise and Glory of God? I am considering this may have to be my action.

I've done this before, not this screen name but in another life here. I used to have the most reps but it meant nothing, just like these stars mean nothing. I could turn them off and have just as much fun, fellowship and church that I do with them. To each his own.

 

[drstevej]

I had a couple of posts I could of commented on and was going to, until this post.

That says it all!

You might be making this more profound that I intended.

Interesting.

Bet there are a variety of answers to the question.

Bet Jesus gets more than 40 reps per day!!!

 

[MMXII]

wwjr

Who Would Jesus Rep

I would hope all of us. Thank God He sees me better than you all can/do.

 

[drstevej]

I've done this before, not this screen name but in another life here. I used to have the most reps but it meant nothing, just like these stars mean nothing. I could turn them off and have just as much fun, fellowship and church that I do with them. To each his own.

As for me I like the rep power, it's fun to bump people up.

 

[twob4me]

wwjr

Who Would Jesus Rep

It would be HIS choice and not influenced or pressured by others to do what they are doing.