What's on your mind?

[Multifavs]

I have no idea where to go with my career. I've been seriously considering quitting my job, but I don't think there are any other jobs I could possibly get right now. And sadly I'm going to feel heartbroken no matter what I choose. If I stay I might have more problems that I don't need and will continue to feel uncomfortable. But if I quit I might feel like a failure and will have no way to support myself again. I want to do the right thing but I don't want to regret my choice later.

 

[bèlla]

When doubts arise send them packing!

 

[cara-mia]

That's true. I've just never had that happen.

You really don't think 2 years is rushing it? I WANT to get married but think 2 years would be rushing it. I joke w/ my friend 'I want to be engaged within a year!!!' but I'm not serious about it.

I knew within a couple of months. I have specific things I look for in someone and either they match or don’t. Our engagement will be approximately a year and a half total from proposal to marriage.

I really do believe you either know, or you don’t once you start learning about a person. Maybe I’m odd but I didn’t want to waste someone’s time if I couldn’t see being with them for the long term, nor waste mine.

 

[DragonFox91]

I knew within a couple of months. I have specific things I look for in someone and either they match or don’t. Our engagement will be approximately a year and a half total from proposal to marriage.

I really do believe you either know, or you don’t once you start learning about a person. Maybe I’m odd but I didn’t want to waste someone’s time if I couldn’t see being with them for the long term, nor waste mine.

Probably not something I really need to worry about.

Even talking about it on here seems like I'm crossing a Forbidden line, like it's not something I should be talking about, & I'm not welcome to talk about it.

 

[Niels]

I knew within a couple of months. I have specific things I look for in someone and either they match or don’t. Our engagement will be approximately a year and a half total from proposal to marriage.

I really do believe you either know, or you don’t once you start learning about a person. Maybe I’m odd but I didn’t want to waste someone’s time if I couldn’t see being with them for the long term, nor waste mine.

There's something to be said for that. Beyond a certain point, it's better to end things. I think people can tell pretty quickly whether there's potential, but it's just that. Potential. Time is needed to get to figure out whether that potential has long term promise.

On the other hand, if the relationship drags on for too long without being able to figure out whether they're right for you, they probably aren't. Dating the same person for many years without meaningful progress is likely wasting everyone's time. If you still have doubts after a year or two, there's probably a reason why.

Sure, if both partners truly want to date for 5 years before getting married, that's their choice to make. They might right for each other. However, one partner usually wants to tie the knot more quickly while the other isn't particularly interested. In my opinion, that dynamic should cast doubt on whether it's meant to be, but some don't seem to mind the heartache.

 

[Rigatoni]

I have no idea where to go with my career. I've been seriously considering quitting my job, but I don't think there are any other jobs I could possibly get right now. And sadly I'm going to feel heartbroken no matter what I choose. If I stay I might have more problems that I don't need and will continue to feel uncomfortable. But if I quit I might feel like a failure and will have no way to support myself again. I want to do the right thing but I don't want to regret my choice later.

 

[bèlla]

I knew within a couple of months. I have specific things I look for in someone and either they match or don’t. Our engagement will be approximately a year and a half total from proposal to marriage.

I may have shoved you a bit.

N's my guy. Intelligent, geeky, nerdy, passionate, and in your corner. He's crazy about you. That's my brother.

I really do believe you either know, or you don’t once you start learning about a person. Maybe I’m odd but I didn’t want to waste someone’s time if I couldn’t see being with them for the long term, nor waste mine.

I can be a little slow.

 

[bèlla]

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That's adorably cute!

 

[bèlla]

There's something to be said for that. Beyond a certain point, it's better to end things. I think people can tell pretty quickly whether there's potential, but it's just that. Potential. Time is needed to get to figure out whether that potential has long term promise.

I agree. I shared the same with @DragonFox91 yesterday. You see situations like that often. They've been together for years with no end in sight. No marriage or proposal. Just time. It usually ends in pain.

 

[DragonFox91]

I agree. I shared the same with @DragonFox91 yesterday. You see situations like that often. They've been together for years with no end in sight. No marriage or proposal. Just time. It usually ends in pain.

Probably useless advice for me but may benefit someone

 

[bèlla]

Probably useless advice for me but may benefit someone

If you're giving up it is.

 

[DragonFox91]

If you're giving up it is.

i'm not giving up

never ever

 

[bèlla]

i'm not giving up

never ever

Good. So eliminate the negative talk. If you're all-in that's it. The only road you have is forward. Period.

 

[DragonFox91]

Good. So eliminate the negative talk. If you're all-in that's it. The only road you have is forward. Period.

What about circles?

 

[DragonFox91]

why is it so quiet here lately

 

[bèlla]

What about circles?

Nada. You need a 30 day fast from negative self-talk.

 

[MehGuy]

why is it so quiet here lately

Been posting more in the kitchen sink.

 

[SarahsKnight]

One more confession and I'll hit the deck!

Then here's another. ... I went and tried getting a facial the one time I met a lady friend for a dinner date (however casual in intent) ... you know ... thinking it would help to that ensure I was looking fresh and formal.


.... I don't know, though, maybe I should start making a habit of doing that again ... maybe once a month wouldn't be too expensive? But ... eh ... so many expenses as it is with constant GI doctor visits, chiropractor, and now elctrolysis done.

 

[bèlla]

Then here's another. ... I went and tried getting a facial the one time I met a lady friend for a dinner date (however casual in intent) ... you know ... thinking it would help to that ensure I was looking fresh and formal.

Mercy! I should clone you.

.... I don't know, though, maybe I should start making a habit of doing that again ... maybe once a month wouldn't be too expensive? But ... eh ... so many expenses as it is with constant GI doctor visits, chiropractor, and now elctrolysis done.

You can do them at home. Helloglow has nice recipes. You may want to wait for a facial until the electrolysis is done. Ask them first.

 

[MehGuy]

I like growing my facial hair out. Makes my chin area look larger.. although I can't grow on the sides.. but I have a decent jaw line always.

I do moisturize and whatnot.. nothing too fancy. While not a woman or a guy who swings that way.. I prefer men who embrace their masculinity. A little rough skin and some hair can make a man look good. If I was a woman that'd probably be my type, lol.