What's on your mind?

[bèlla]

No ma'am, no Scotch needed to speak the truth. That was straight from the heart.

Yeah I know. You’re a special hermit. But if I say it too loudly you’ll start making faces as the attention grows. You like to stay hidden.

 

[DragonFox91]

For those single & are confident a partner's coming, what do you think God is waiting on??

These are my two latest drawings, using my new shading and lighting style.

Those look like Digimon. Are they?

Wishing things were simple and I could be like so many of the locals here that end up marrying their high school sweetheart or reuniting with someone from their younger years. I never had a deep connection with anyone in my hometown before I left at 18yrs old.

My 30-year reunion is coming up. I think I'm the only one that lived abroad for an extended amount of time. I want to say 50 to 75% of my class doesn't live in this area anymore. It'll be my first time that I will possibly be able to make it to an official reunion. Unless the pandemic gets in the way.

Most of the men from my high school class joined the military. Many married their high school sweethearts.

Just happened to catch this, I was about to post something in this thread. Yes! When I discovered that back in 2006, everything made so much sense. And that's when I could start understanding my coworkers. What surprised me is how many people I have worked with that have been INFJ as Maintenance workers and Engineers.Not a field that you would expect to see them. And that's the reason that I've had a handful of guys that I really connected with, most of the guys until last year that I've liked have been INFJs. The T preference is more dominant now than it was 10 years ago. And I think that's because INFJs in their midlife switch over more to learning thinking more so than feeling.

Oh good you were about to post something. I had got a notification you posted here & was afraid I ruined your fast!

It's not surprising Engineers or maintenance workers are INFJ. More & more, careers are putting emphasis on customer service.

I think I used to be INTJ. Growing up. I think I made the switch in college. The F parts were always there tho.

Do you think that 1% 'fact' is accurate? I'd guess it's a small %, but 1% seems miniscule.

The social media fast begins the 17th.

Thanks for putting up the reminder. The Daniel fast will start the Saturday after the 17th. I will be off of the internet and all media also for 7 days after.

Let me know if there's anything I can pray for during that time?

What do you want to focus on? What do you want to use the time you'd be on social media for?

Why?

Current job unfulfilling. I've been there 5 years. Time to move on. I hate applying for jobs tho.

 

[bèlla]

Current job unfulfilling. I've been there 5 years. Time to move on. I hate applying for jobs tho.

Ugh. Ditto. I hope the process is swift and you find a good fit.

 

[sampa]

Most of the men from my high school class joined the military. Many married their high school sweethearts.

I think from my school there was a lot of guys that went into the military also, but then there were also the women that you never would have thought of would have went into the military like myself from my high school class. Our class president became a weather channel person for Fox. I also know one person not for my class that I hung out with that is now a talk show host. I think I even heard one person went off to work for MTV in California. There's quite a variety of different people for my class. I went to The unofficial 25th reunion and since then connected with a lot of people through social media. Some people I don't think I knew back in high school but we come out a lot on each other's pages. I really hated high School and pretty much did not want to remember anybody from it. But I came to terms with it when I went to the informal 25th get together.

I think I used to be INTJ. Growing up. I think I made the switch in college. The F parts were always there tho.

That's interesting I wouldn't think that you could ever be anything else. I am a far cry from what I was back in high school but the infj description describes every part of my life in every change that I've gone through decade by decade. There are a percentages that are assigned to each the last time I took the test I am 12% introversion, 28% intuition, 28% feeling and 47% judging.

Do you think that 1% 'fact' is accurate? I'd guess it's a small %, but 1% seems miniscule.

I do think it is a small percentage just because I was so confused why people could not understand me or would not do the same things as me. After finding out what the majorities are, it all makes sense. I sort of came to a piece once I started understanding what people were thinking and why they would never understand my way of thinking. We are a rare type. Just look at Gandhi he is supposed to be an infj.

What do you want to focus on? What do you want to use the time you'd be on social media for?

when I began food fast or just social media fast in 2008, I had some kind of focus. Since then I have no focus but to draw myself near to the Lord. Pray for others. Strengthen my relationship and get my focus reset. It's kind of like if you were thinking about beauty treatments, not that you can relate to that, and needing a refresh and a reset. It is my spa time with the Lord. Not always the easiest but it is a retreat away from most things of the world. My faith and who I am now has grown stronger over the years because of these times of solitude with the Lord. I've also loved it when others have joined me in the Daniel fast and they have seen amazing breakthrough in their lives and sometimes those around on them.

Cutting out social media, is just one way of cutting out a distraction. It gives me time to focus on the Lord and also figuring out how to make everything from scratch. Cooking is not my best suit, and this time is about the only time that I actually learn good healthy cooking. I've also noticed because I cut out coffee, that there is some kind of piece. And the closer that I draw to the Lord, others from work have come to me and said that there is a glow about me. And others I have worked with that are kind of hostile towards me, I have a peace that doesn't react in Christ's love comes through. So continuously I've probably been doing the Daniel fast for Lent for 4 to 5 years now. And I only choose the Daniel fast because my Systemic Lupus is doesn't allow me to do a full fast. Otherwise the Lord has really blessed me healthwise.

Thanks for taking interest. Is there anything that you would like me to pray during that time? Work?

 

[Single Dude]

God has blessed me beyond what I could have ever imagined at this stage of my life.

 

[bèlla]

For those single & are confident a partner's coming, what do you think God is waiting on??

He isn’t waiting. I asked myself a question recently. I wanted to discover what compels my commitment.

The answer is readiness. I value a man who doesn’t require me to bring him up to speed. I don’t have to teach him how to dress. He’s well coiffed. I don’t have to instruct him on poise or manners. He already knows. I don’t need to show him how to converse or work a room. He’s aware.

He didn’t wait on me to fill the gaps. He did it himself. I respect that. Investing in your betterment is an act of love. If you don’t love yourself enough to learn and grow of your own volition. Why would I expect you to do it on my behalf?

The person I was most attracted to did that and more. He didn’t require a woman to tell him to eat healthy, exercise, take care of his skin or keep his house clean. He wasn’t a half seeking a half. He was whole. He didn’t need a woman to survive. He was complete.

That’s incredibly appealing. He feels like a partner not a job. That’s what I want. Singleness allowed me to distinguish between what moves my heart and what I can live with. I’ve encountered suitors with potential. But the price was too high to pay and I couldn’t do it.

Loving God doesn’t mean I have to give someone a chance or overlook things I’d never accept if he wasn’t a believer. He must meet my standard. I’m looking at a composite of qualities, lifestyle, family, etc. That’s what I’m considering.

Jimmy Evans made an important point in The Four Laws of Love that really hit home. He said when you marry, there’s no longer yours and mine. You take on everything that comes with them. The problems, debt, family, everything. You can’t say you don’t want to be bothered.

Clarity was the turning point. Maybe we’ll cross paths at an event or on the course. It will happen.

 

[Single Dude]

I believe coming from a man who is confident being a single the odds are very unlikely that I will get a date especially with the COVID still making people sick.

 

[SarahsKnight]

I had to look up "bespoke." What you're doing is impressive.

Good word, by the way. Naturally a knight like me would think it's good, I guess.

 

[VanillaLion]

it’s the weekend. hope you all have a nice day and weekend this week.

 

[Single Dude]

it’s the weekend. hope you all have a nice day and weekend this week.

Thank you. God bless you.

 

[Multifavs]

Those look like Digimon. Are they?

They are actually creatures called Charaboms, but they are similar to things like Pokemon and Digimon.

 

[DragonFox91]

He isn’t waiting........The answer is readiness

So he is 'waiting'. By 'waiting' I mean God thinks you aren't ready. So my question therefore was, where does God want you to be that you are not at yet?

 

[sampa]

Been working on a Shutterfly calendar for my sister and her boyfriend for christmas. I've been integrating different unusual holidays. And I will make one for myself. I have been doing this about every 3 years as a way to use pictures that have been taken instead of photo albums. it's a lot of work I've been doing since January 1st. And quite challenging since I don't have internet at home and limited data.

During the pandemic I created Wacky Wednesdays as a way to bring cheer to my friends and their kids by dressing up with a theme and sending photos by text. By Fall I ended it because it was a lot to keep up with. But I think I'm going to bring it back again this year. It's a nice way to exercise my creativity and photography. I'm hoping to use a real camera this year. This is the first winter that I've only been called out once and I've been able to enjoy seeing the snow stack up and keep up with my running routine and housekeeping. I have been very blessed. It is a loss of income but it is a gain and health.

 

[bèlla]

So he is 'waiting'. By 'waiting' I mean God thinks you aren't ready. So my question therefore was, where does God want you to be that you are not at yet?

To propose He’s waiting would validate the notion of soulmates. Every relationship is a snapshot in time. We encounter people who resonate with the present iteration. Turn the dial and you’ll meet people who fit the bill for your newest state. Like a forest we grow, change, and evolve.

God wants me to go deeper in Him. Who I decide to do it with is my choice. Viewing marriage as wholly sanctifying may lead me to a partner who nurtures my holiness. But it isn’t a guarantee of happiness. Pruning is rarely pleasant.

Some are led by love and yearn for passion and a deep connection. Emotional fulfillment may require practical compromises. Others are driven by mission. They seek a partnership that allows them to do a work on God’s behalf. Romance may take a back seat in these relationships. They appear more like friends than a couple.

The question isn’t whether I’m ready. Its why I’m playing it safe.

 

[DragonFox91]

To propose He’s waiting would validate the notion of soulmates. Every relationship is a snapshot in time. We encounter people who resonate with the present iteration. Turn the dial and you’ll meet people who fit the bill for your newest state. Like a forest we grow, change, and evolve.

God wants me to go deeper in Him. Who I decide to do it with is my choice. Viewing marriage as wholly sanctifying may lead me to a partner who nurtures my holiness. But it isn’t a guarantee of happiness. Pruning is rarely pleasant.

Some are led by love and yearn for passion and a deep connection. Emotional fulfillment may require practical compromises. Others are driven by mission. They seek a partnership that allows them to do a work on God’s behalf. Romance may take a back seat in these relationships. They appear more like friends than a couple.

The question isn’t whether I’m ready. Its why I’m playing it safe.

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I'm so confused but ok.

 

[bèlla]

I'm so confused but ok.

What are you confused about?

 

[DragonFox91]

Tomorrow's Valentine's Day

What are you confused about?

All of it

 

[Single Dude]

Valentine's day is just other day for business to make a killing so to speak.

 

[DragonFox91]

Hurting tonight

 

[SarahsKnight]

Tomorrow's Valentine's Day

If only you'd been here the two previous years, man. Someone here hosted an entire thread dedicated to each of us guys (who wished to be involved, anyway) a chance to treat a lady here who we were randomly matched with as someone special on V-day. All in the spirit of well-meaning friendship, of course, but still, it was awesome.

Good times ... and pretty ladies. ^-^

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