What's on your mind?

[MehGuy]

Although you’re not attracted, her forwardness isn’t helping. If she had a different temperament and was more agreeable she might have a chance. She may not have the looks, but if she made your work experience more bearable and enjoyable, you’d notice. Especially when you’re separated.

I have to disagree there, she wouldn't have a chance with me no matter how aggregable her personality is. She doesn't check off any of the feminine boxes for me. I'm not expecting a supermodel, but if there is zero physical chemistry there is zero chance of any romantic feelings developing.

We'd also look silly in public together, and I'm pretty sure my family would be disappointed in me if I were to go out with her much less marry her.

I like seeing people happy. It bothers me to see many struggling to find companions and questioning themselves. At one point I wondered if I was expecting too much and not giving others a chance.

It’s probably subliminal guilt from societal programming. *lol*

I agree. I don't like seeing people feeling hopeless in finding a partner. Her attitude isn't doing her many favors. Part of her probably thinks it does, because she thinks she is acting "spicy" or something.

She seems to throw everything at the dart board to see what will stick. Acting like "one of the guys", putting on a sad face and just being plain aggressive. She switches between these when one doesn't work and the cycle just continues seemingly forever.

At the end of the day today I thought I heard her tell me "I'm going to go to your house tonight". I'm not sure if she was saying that to me or someone else. She has said this to me in the past.. playing it off in a "ha ha" kind of way.. and I'd always roll my eyes.. now it's just getting creepier and creepier.

Your nearness might inspire her.



Yeah. She’s probably lonely.

Well I advice her to actually stick to a diet.. it won't help with me but her being skinny will probably make a world of difference for her dating life. She may have had somewhat of a dating life in the past but she's getting older now and she needs to start taking care of her body if she ever wants any hope of attracting a man.

 

[MehGuy]

I've been pretty tired all day.

 

[Isaiah 2:22]

At the end of the day today I thought I heard her tell me "I'm going to go to your house tonight". I'm not sure if she was saying that to me or someone else. She has said this to me in the past.. playing it off in a "ha ha" kind of way.. and I'd always roll my eyes.. now it's just getting creepier and creepier.

This is very creepy behaviour for sure. Have you told her off for saying that? Making unwelcome "jokes" like that is not acceptable at all. Next time you should just tell her with a straight face that she is coming across as stalkerish. Maybe that will put a stop to it.

 

[bèlla]

I have to disagree there, she wouldn't have a chance with me no matter how aggregable her personality is.

Might doesn’t equal would. The bigger point was providing a source of comfort and fun during a difficult period. You didn’t want to be there. If she relieved your stress and frustration instead of adding to it you’d notice. That might not lead to dates but you’d definitely make a point of working with the person who helped you pass the time in a better mindset.

Part of her probably thinks it does, because she thinks she is acting "spicy" or something.

Spicy? I’m going to regret asking.

She seems to throw everything at the dart board to see what will stick. Acting like "one of the guys", putting on a sad face and just being plain aggressive. She switches between these when one doesn't work and the cycle just continues seemingly forever.

She sounds like she hasn’t found her voice and isn’t aware of the men who’d find her appealing. She isn’t alone in that. Most were never taught how to draw their type. They have to deal with everyone.

At the end of the day today I thought I heard her tell me "I'm going to go to your house tonight".

Now you’re going to be an amber alert. I can’t!

Well I advice her to actually stick to a diet.. it won't help with me but her being skinny will probably make a world of difference for her dating life. She may have had somewhat of a dating life in the past but she's getting older now and she needs to start taking care of her body if she ever wants any hope of attracting a man.

Have you told her that?

 

[MehGuy]

This is very creepy behaviour for sure. Have you told her off for saying that? Making unwelcome "jokes" like that is not acceptable at all. Next time you should just tell her with a straight face that she is coming across as stalkerish. Maybe that will put a stop to it.

No I haven't told her off. I just give a nervous chuckle and ignore her. She usually says it with a smile and whatnot and she'll probably juts chew me out for taking her "joke" seriously. Today I was tempted to say something. I thought we were alone when she said it but one of her friends popped out of nowhere so I wasn't sure if it was directed at me or not. I didn't want to start a scene with her friend around.

Sad thing is.. I'm like 95% sure she knows where I live. I know we live in the same city.. and she's honked at me in traffic before out of the blue. Isn't really hard for her to follow my car home.

 

[bèlla]

If she’d honking in traffic she’s probably followed you home. But you didn’t know it.

 

[Isaiah 2:22]

No I haven't told her off. I just give a nervous chuckle and ignore her. She usually says it with a smile and whatnot and she'll probably juts chew me out for taking her "joke" seriously. Today I was tempted to say something. I thought we were alone when she said it but one of her friends popped out of nowhere so I wasn't sure if it was directed at me or not. I didn't want to start a scene with her friend around.

Sad thing is.. I'm like 95% sure she knows where I live. I know we live in the same city.. and she's honked at me in traffic before out of the blue. Isn't really hard for her to follow my car home.

It sounds like you're being too nice to her. Have you tried being mean? lol I dunno, man. I'm running out of ideas with this! I've never met a woman who is this pushy with the guy she likes. Super creepy that she honks at you out in the city. You only work together and barely know each other. Honking is for best friends.

 

[MehGuy]

Might doesn’t equal would. The bigger point was providing a source of comfort and fun during a difficult period. You didn’t want to be there. If she relieved your stress and frustration instead of adding to it you’d notice. That might not lead to dates but you’d definitely make a point of working with the person who helped you pass the time in a better mindset.

While I'm sad about losing my IT job and having to temporarily go back there, I actually really like working there. The people for the most part are friendly and the work is pretty chill. Her being friendly wouldn't really add to much.

Spicy? I’m going to regret asking.

Maybe that is not the right word. I'm terrible at describing things, lol. I just get the sense that she thinks men are attracted to women who rock the boat. Which can be true, but not in her case.

She sounds like she hasn’t found her voice and isn’t aware of the men who’d find her appealing. She isn’t alone in that. Most were never taught how to draw their type. They have to deal with everyone.

I think she's at least a 2 or a 3 in looks. Sadly I don't think there is a pathway for men to find her appealing, she just needs to find a man who's desperate enough to be with her. And as I said earlier, a lot larger and taller. At least from the perspective a man might find some "feminine" qualities about her. Feminine and masculine vibes can be somewhat relative.

Although hearing her talk to her friend before, she seems well aware of that.

Now you’re going to be an amber alert. I can’t!

Lol.. I've been thinking of the movie Fatal Attraction on the drive home.

Have you told her that?

No, I figure she already knows. She goes on about diets all the time. The only thing I've done is give her some advice on how to do it. Told her that getting liposuction is probably a bad idea and laughed at her when one day she said she was going to buy some type of sweat shirt that is supposed to shed the pounds off. Sadly though, she seems pretty stupid when it comes to knowing how to lose weight.

 

[MehGuy]

It sounds like you're being too nice to her. Have you tried being mean? lol I dunno, man. I'm running out of ideas with this! I've never met a woman who is this pushy with the guy she likes. Super creepy that she honks at you out in the city. You only work together and barely know each other. Honking is for best friends.

I've called her out on her bad behavior in the past, and defended other people against her. Although I think she's one who likes aggression and I don't feel like it's done anything to back her off from me. In fact it would probably have the opposite effect if I really pushed it.

 

[bèlla]

While I'm sad about losing my IT job and having to temporarily go back there, I actually really like working there.

That’s good. I’m glad it worked out.

Maybe that is not the right word. I'm terrible at describing things, lol. I just get the sense that she thinks men are attracted to women who rock the boat. Which can be true, but not in her case.

Oh dear.

I think she's at least a 2 or a 3 in looks. Sadly I don't think there is a pathway for men to find her appealing, she just needs to find a man who's desperate enough to be with her. And as I said earlier, a lot larger and taller. At least from the perspective a man might find some "feminine" qualities about her. Feminine and masculine vibes can be somewhat relative.

Her friends are probably supporting this craziness instead of telling her the truth.

Lol.. I've been thinking of the movie Fatal Attraction on the drive home.

The obsessive types will usually get violent. Lose their head and chop you up. *lol*

 

[SarahsKnight]

This must have been before my time as well. Though I think Nickelodeon is a cable channel, and my parents never had cable TV in the house growing up.

Oh boy did you and Dragonfox miss out on this show. And possibly many other greats like Kenan and Kel, the original few seasons of All That, Hey Dude, etc.

 

[bèlla]

It sounds like you need a bodyguard.

 

[MehGuy]

It sounds like you need a bodyguard.

Lol.. sad thing is.. I think she could beat me up.. I'm not the biggest guy in the world.. but even with an average/semi-larger guy she could probably give him a run for his money if a confrontation occurred.. lol.

 

[bèlla]

Lol.. sad thing is.. I think she could beat me up.. I'm not the biggest guy in the world.. but even with an average/semi-larger guy she could probably give him a run for his money if a confrontation occurred.. lol.

If she overpowers you...whoa nelly. Gonna be a long night. *lol*

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I'm like legit invested in this work saga you have going, @MehGuy

Just don't end up on Dateline with Keith Morrison narrating your murder story.

 

[MehGuy]

That’s good. I’m glad it worked out.

Yeah.. I know they have an IT position but the chance of that opening up and me getting it is a long shot.

Oh dear.

Yeah it's sad. It works with her getting female friends, so that probably just encourages her.

Her friends are probably supporting this craziness instead of telling her the truth.

Probably a little bit. Her main friend seemed confused for the longest time and was slow to realize she had a crush on me. Her friend would always just say that it was weird she was around me a lot and seemed to know so much about me.

I don't blame her for being slow to realize, like I said before we would look silly together. Her friend probably just figured I didn't have a relative "manly" body compared to her larger body.

The obsessive types will usually get violent. Lose their head and chop you up. *lol*

I will be honest.. there are times I'm slightly worried she'll take a swipe at me when I ignore her. Of course I can't go to HR over imaginary scenarios like that.. unless there was some history for me having those legitimate fears.

 

[MehGuy]

I'm like legit invested in this work saga you have going, @MehGuy

Just don't end up on Dateline with Keith Morrison narrating your murder story.

Lol, hey I'm happy people are invested.. I do feel like I talk about her too much on here..

She did succeed at one thing.. she did manage to get me to have her live rent free in my head. Lol.

 

[MehGuy]

If she overpowers you...whoa nelly. Gonna be a long night. *lol*

Lol.. I know for a while she was harping on me to switch to the night shift.

 

[bèlla]

Her friend would always just say that it was weird she was around me a lot and seemed to know so much about me.

She might not tell them everything. People with obsessive personalities usually become friends. Their behavior is too disturbing for others.

I will be honest.. there are times I'm slightly worried she'll take a swipe at me when I ignore her. Of course I can't go to HR over imaginary scenarios like that.. unless there was some history for me having those legitimate fears.

Your concerns are valid. She loses control. Luckily, you’re not seeing someone on the job. She’d blow up.

 

[Faith712]

Nothing much. I had a long day and am ready to hit the hay.