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If you're talking being single the percentages are rising. I would say close to 50% are single nowadays. I even go to Bible studies now, and what it was two decades ago, I find more single people. My New small group someone was talking to me yesterday that was my age and she asked me if I was married or kids, common question, and I said no and she said herself also but she has a kid. Another gal that was sitting next to me probably never married or kids either. Both of them probably would have felt very alone since the house was crowded with 15 to 20 kids. 20 years ago in the church I found it a lot harder to be in the never married crowd and no kids, but I'm serious in saying that a lot of that has changed now. My status does not make me feel weird anymore and I don't get as many questions about it.When my parents raised me, they never told me I'd be in the minority. I honestly think they thought I'd be in the majority.
I actually meant Christian.If you're talking being single the percentages are rising. I would say close to 50% are single nowadays. I even go to Bible studies now, and what it was two decades ago, I find more single people. New small group that I'm part of right now someone was talking to me that was my age and she asked me if I was married or kids, common question, and I said no and she said herself also but she has kids. Another person that was sitting next to me probably never married or kids either. Both of them probably would have felt very alone since the house was crowded with 15 to 20 kids. 20 years ago in the church I found it a lot harder to be in the never married crowd and no kids, but I'm serious in saying that a lot of that has changed now. My status does not make me feel weird anymore and I don't get as many questions about it.
A lot of people my age value drinking & drugs. Men & women both.
Ahhh, gotcha.I actually meant Christian.
I think most people still identify as being Christian in the country, but let's be honest, that's the 'attend church on Christmas only, maybe Easter if I'm feeling it' type.
Maybe they really are Christian, I won't judge them based on church attendance, but let's be honest again, those are the same types of people who embrace the world's view on things. Plus nowadays a lot of churches just teach what the world's teaching. 'An atheist debated those churches & it turns out they agreed on everything.'
Not so normal. I plan on calling tomorrow. Thank you for your prayers.
Maybe they really are Christian, I won't judge them based on church attendance, but let's be honest again, those are the same types of people who embrace the world's view on things. Plus nowadays a lot of churches just teach what the world's teaching. 'An atheist debated those churches & it turns out they agreed on everything.'
Right now, if my life wasn't so predictable. Seems like I do the same thing every day now. Almost down the minute.
Maybe you need a hobby. Something that gets you out of your comfort zone that isn’t the norm. There’s a lengthy list of suggestions (for men) I saved in the past. I’ll see if I can find it. Maybe you’ll see something there that strikes a chord.
~bella
Yeah. Maybe I should. Just seems right now... I mostly work and sleep. With a few brief hours of free time in the middle. Which I just spend browsing the internet.
I'm actually feeling a lot better today. Was able to get a good shower in as well, which improved my mental well being quite a bit.How are you feeling today? Any progress with the doctor?
Sounds hard. What about cooking something new every other week? Having something that you look forward to might break things up just a little bit. Maybe even trying take out from a new restaurant.Yeah. Maybe I should. Just seems right now... I mostly work and sleep. With a few brief hours of free time in the middle. Which I just spend browsing the internet.
I'm glad that you're feeling better today and mental too. Congratulations on the weight loss. Do you have a follow-up appointment with your doctor?I'm actually feeling a lot better today. Was able to get a good shower in as well, which improved my mental well being quite a bit.
Already down 11 pounds, 99 pounds total!
I'm actually feeling a lot better today. Was able to get a good shower in as well, which improved my mental well being quite a bit.
Already down 11 pounds, 99 pounds total!
These are some great thoughts that I hadn't even considered the mental aspect. It's weird because last Saturday when I was talking to my strength trainer, he shared with me that he was 400 lb when he was 16 years old. I think he's in his early 40s now and an avid baseball player. Besides being the wellness director at that YMCA. I looked at him and said "that had to be hard the mental aspect". He agreed and said that it was mind-blowing because people who were not his friends before were now his friends and people who would not give him the time of day were suddenly giving him the time of day. I think all of that makes him the person that he is today and how he cares for each client that he has on helping them to lead a better life. Talking to him it sounds like he works with a lot of older individuals in their 60s and seventies. Which I think is pretty amazing. I also like how he integrates encouragement, I think we all can use some of that. Anyways, good thoughts Bella.There were groups on SparkPeople when I went there long ago. I’m sure there’s more now. Encouragement is an important part of the journey as is a safe space to share your concerns. People who haven’t wrestled with the same are unaware you’re carrying things within and without and a lot will come up.
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