It's like having Children and making rules, and a Fathers way of handling it, versus maybe a patient Mothers way of handling it...
Say your kid (Tommy) (we'll call him) hits his brother (or sister) hard with a toy out of anger (wrath) and really hurts them and makes them cry... And let's say you have a "rule" "no hitting each other with blunt objects", Now a Father could get wrathful himself and angry and want to beat Tommy with a belt across his but, and maybe then put him in "time out" for a little while to make him think about it, and (the Father) saying to the boy (angrily) I told you no hitting your brother with blunt objects"
But Another approach (with the Mother maybe) would be to go to the boy and tell him, "Now remember I told that you "shouldn't" hit your brother or sister with blunt objects, especially out of anger, you know Jesus says that anyone who gets angry with their brother or sister is the same as wanting to kill them, and what if your brother or sister would have got seriously injured by your actions and wound up in the hospital and maybe even died, how would you feel then Tommy?" "Now what I want you to understand is that we made those rules for good reasons, and I'm asking you to trust in that" As I said how would you feel if your one act of an outburst of anger leading you to hit your brother, would have seriously injured him or even killed him... You'd feel pretty bad wouldn't you? And think of the pain and anguish that would have cost "us", your parents and your other brothers and sisters and your family in general...
All's I'm trying to tell you Tommy is that we made our "rules" for good reasons, and were asking you to trust in that, because your not yet old enough or mature enough to realize that our rules are to protect you and us, and everyone you love, now you "do" love your brothers and sisters don't you? (Tommy might say "Yes") and the mom might say and you really wouldn't want to seriously hurt or injure one of them would you? (And he might say "No") then the mom might say, so Please Tommy just "trust" in our rules, at least until your old enough and mature enough to understand them, OK? And please, don't do it again, can you promise me that Tommy, (and he might say OK, Mommy, I won't)
Now this doesn't gaurantee that it will never happen again, but my point is that "Dads" are usually more strict and want to immediately resort to punishment, whereas Moms are (generally) (in a traditional normal family anyways) are more likely to resort to explanations and sometimes making the child feel very "guilty" about what they've done, but hey, whatever works, it has to (after all) be handled somehow...
And you might go on to tell the child, that "Tommy, when you break our rules, that are meant for your (and our) own good, It could carry with it consequences that your just not ready or prepared for at such a young age to accept." "You could bring pain and anguish and suffering and guilt and shame and hurt, not only upon yourself, but with those you love, your friends or your family, so just "trust" us OK, Tommy, my dear boy, OK? (and he might say "OK, mommy")
I think all this amounts to, is fear the Father, and respect the mother, but really love and respect and admire them both, because both are just two different ways of looking out for our best interests...