The date..guys only

[Rhamiel]

GoodBook
did you meet a guy dancing?
is that what this thread is all about?

 

[Goodbook]

But they were already there. That's no place special.
anyway. you meet this girl at a DANCE and you really like her and you already had some conversation AND a drink. So you decide the next date will be...?

 

[Rhamiel]

I said
fancy French bakery
rose park
maybe more park if she is into it
church (maybe?)

or
art galleries for free
street performers
tacos

 

[Goodbook]

lol.
this is the hypothetical single girl of your dreams. Also, at this dance she is wearing a really nice dress. Lots of guys ask her out, but she's refusing all suggestions of 'coffee dates', because she doesn't drink coffee and hates Starbucks.

 

[redblue22]

and when buying coffee and a donut costs more than the price of a movie ticket, then yes, it is a date.

 

[redblue22]

I don't like who I am in this scenario. I don't like her either.

 

[Rhamiel]

lol.
this is the hypothetical single girl of your dreams. Also, at this dance she is wearing a really nice dress. Lots of guys ask her out, but she's refusing all suggestions of 'coffee dates', because she doesn't drink coffee and hates Starbucks.

is this hypothetical single girl named GoodBook? and she posts on CF?

I don't like who I am in this scenario. I don't like her either.

I do not like who I am in most scenarios

 

[Victory of the Cross]

This thread reminds me why i avoid cf singles section with a passion
You have added so many qualifiers/conditions to the girl she moves way outta dream girl for many ya know,

We know she is fussy, snobbish, and alittle obsessed with dancing and avoiding coffee...

 

[morningstar2651]

I do have to agree with GoodBook. Coffee dates aren't all that creative or interesting.

My "dream first date" would be working together on a game jam. I'm attracted to women that are creative, smart, geeky, and able to get great things done under intense pressure. I seek a partner and a companion - someone who is my equal.

 

[morningstar2651]

I don't like who I am in this scenario. I don't like her either.

Why are you dating her then?

 

[Gnarwhal]

"Going to coffee" might not be idyllic, but at least in American culture you stand a better chance of both parties being on the same page when they show up. If you do something really different, there's no telling whether the girl thinks it's just two friends hanging out or two people on a date.

 

[Citanul]

But icecream is special and you don't get the choice of 31 flavours at home.

And you don't get the choice of the different types of coffee at home. Not to mention that some people don't eat ice cream, so an invitation for ice cream doesn't allow for an alternative, whereas an invitation for coffee does.

 

[Citanul]

why didn't you just say a drink then, thirsty man.

Because "drink" implies alcohol, which is an entirely different scenario.

 

[Citanul]

lol.
this is the hypothetical single girl of your dreams. Also, at this dance she is wearing a really nice dress. Lots of guys ask her out, but she's refusing all suggestions of 'coffee dates', because she doesn't drink coffee and hates Starbucks.

It doesn't have to be Starbucks. There are plenty of places which are classier.

I always thought that an invitation for coffee was generally understood to be an invitation for a non-alcoholic beverage (and possibly food as well), but not specifically coffee. So "I don't drink coffee" comes across as a rather lame excuse, and I'd possibly be a bit offended that she went with that lame excuse rather than a polite refusal.

And again, why at a dance? Asking where you'd go on a first date with someone you've met is a reasonable topic for discussion, but you've turned it into a bit of a strange one by insisting on the dance aspect.

 

[Citanul]

I do have to agree with GoodBook. Coffee dates aren't all that creative or interesting.

I'd accept that as a criticism of coffee dates, but that's different from not accepting them as dates at all or completely missing the point and dismissing them because of not drinking coffee.

 

[Awakened Sin]

First date, dinner then a walk in the park. I know, romantic.

 

[SnowyMacie]

As mentioned before, it's not about the coffee. The whole point is to spend some time with the other person, and a coffee date is a safe and easy option that doesn't have to last too long if things go badly, but can also be extended if things go well.

Whether or not either party actually drinks coffee is irrelevant as "coffee" is just shorthand for a beverage of their choice. No one's going to insist that their date only drink coffee, and places will serve other things. I don't drink coffee myself, so whenever I've gone on a coffee date I've had something else such as tea, hot chocolate, fruit juice or even a milkshake.

And why the emphasis on meeting someone at a dance and not at some function/event in general? Organised dances aren't particularly common (at least not where I live), and I wouldn't attend one anyway as dancing holds absolutely no appeal to me.

So assuming that I met her at something other than a dance, I would still opt for coffee as the first date. It's unlikely we'd have had the opportunity for any sort of lengthy conversation at the event since whatever the purpose of the event was would have taken up most of the time.

Exactly. When I ask a girl out to a date, I'm not really interested in the activity itself, but the girl.

 

[Rhamiel]

why do we keep arguing over coffee

yeah, I think coffee and conversation with a lovely young lady sounds like a great date

the OP does not like the idea, lets just move on

 

[Goodbook]

I just realised something.
All this time, when guys have been asking me for coffee, or some other drink, I should have told them the gospel cos what they were really thirsty for was Jesus!!

Doh!
Either that, or I shoulda learned to be a barista or something.

Its ok if you dont want to reply, you dont have to, cos, I dont like you very much either....now, if someone said you know what poor single dancing hypothetical dream girl, you dont need to be taken out cos Jesus loves you She would agree and say hey man, you got the right idea. Lol.

 

[Goodbook]

Some girls gives you coffee
Some girls give you vinegar


Jesus gives you the water of eternal life.
If i remember correctly, my first date with Him was not going to some cofee place or whatever. He didnt do that and bore me with talking about himself nor politics all the time. He simply told me about his Dad.
The next date, was some kind of pool where He dared me to go under the water.
The third date, He gave me his own book to treasure. And wrote me love letters in between times when He was away.
The fourth date, He invited me to a wedding supper and told me to get ready wearing my best dress. He said dont worry about what you will wear, as He had the thrreads which were more glorious than King .solomons mines. He gave me the fabric for this dress.