The date..guys only

[Citanul]

Its very hard to get excited to go out and have coffee. a girl could just have it at home.

As mentioned before, it's not about the coffee. The whole point is to spend some time with the other person, and a coffee date is a safe and easy option that doesn't have to last too long if things go badly, but can also be extended if things go well.

Whether or not either party actually drinks coffee is irrelevant as "coffee" is just shorthand for a beverage of their choice. No one's going to insist that their date only drink coffee, and places will serve other things. I don't drink coffee myself, so whenever I've gone on a coffee date I've had something else such as tea, hot chocolate, fruit juice or even a milkshake.

And why the emphasis on meeting someone at a dance and not at some function/event in general? Organised dances aren't particularly common (at least not where I live), and I wouldn't attend one anyway as dancing holds absolutely no appeal to me.

So assuming that I met her at something other than a dance, I would still opt for coffee as the first date. It's unlikely we'd have had the opportunity for any sort of lengthy conversation at the event since whatever the purpose of the event was would have taken up most of the time.

 

[SnowyMacie]

I repeat, coffee does not count as a date.

If a girl that I ask to coffee don't really know rejects my date because coffee "is not really a date", I would lose all attraction for her, I don't date spoiled princesses.

 

[morningstar2651]

Ok this is for guys only.
You are taking out a girl you met at a dance for your first date together. What have you got planned?

Ps. Do not say you just gonna skype her or txt her. That is not a date. A date means going out somewhere together.

Depends on the girl really - I'm not going to ask a vegetarian out for barbecue. I'd like to take a girl to volunteer for Feed our Starving Children sometime. We can spend a couple hours talking while packaging food to be shipped to starving children. I volunteered for them once earlier this year and had a great time doing some good. If I take a girl there and she doesn't have a good time doing good for others then I don't think it's likely to work out between us.

I took a girl out to Denny's at midnight for breakfast once. That was fun and we followed it up with swing dancing downtown the next week. She is a much better dancer than I, which is rare for me (I used to compete). I learned some fancy new moves from her.

 

[MarkSB]

Other people don't really get to decide what "counts" as a date anyway, lol. The people who are involved in said "date" are the ones who get to decide whether it was a date or not. It could just be 2 friends hanging out, or it could be a date.

 

[morningstar2651]

There is a difference between asking a girl out for coffee and asking a girl to come over for coffee...

 

[morningstar2651]

Are places even open for breakfast on a Sunday??

Maybe not in small midwestern towns, but yes. My favorite breakfast restaurant is open Sundays

 

[Citanul]

Its very hard to get excited to go out and have coffee. a girl could just have it at home.

Ice cream is always good in summer.

But you can have ice cream at home as well...

 

[Rhamiel]

maybe out dancing again?

like you know the girl likes to dance, because you met her at a dance
so yeah
do that again


I dunno

 

[Rhamiel]

my earlier post had better ideas

 

[morningstar2651]

Why ask a girl on a date if you dont know or have any idea where to take her...

Maybe he's more interested in her than the activity.

 

[Goodbook]

But icecream is special and you don't get the choice of 31 flavours at home. Also you get to choose toppings. And maybe you can tell a lot about a girl by the icecream she likes.

I don't know what is special about coffee. African slave labour to make the coffee? Coffee for the addicted? Maybe the guy is real cheap and just wants to use up his coffee card.

 

[Goodbook]

I'm sorry, coffee is really boring date to take a girl too. All she knows is you just gonna ask her a heap of questions and then talk about politics. meh.

 

[Goodbook]

I think a guy asked me out for coffee once at work. I'm like, we have coffee in the staff room.

 

[morningstar2651]

I'm sorry, coffee is really boring date to take a girl too. All she knows is you just gonna ask her a heap of questions and then talk about politics. meh.

Don't date. Sounds like you are more interested in the date than the person.

 

[Goodbook]

There is a difference between asking a girl out for coffee and asking a girl to come over for coffee...

do tell.

 

[Goodbook]

nah I didn't date him.
He could just talk to me at work if he wants to. Also, we could have talked politics while we were working.
I'm sure if he was genuinely interested, he would have asked me out somewhere a bit more exciting. oh well. We could have gone for a walk in the park!

 

[morningstar2651]

do tell.

I'll just say I don't own a coffee pot and leave it at that.

 

[Goodbook]

maybe out dancing again?

like you know the girl likes to dance, because you met her at a dance
so yeah
do that again


I dunno

yes could be.
maybe you find out she's like this professional dancing girl. But she only wants to dance with you now and refuses all other partners.

 

[Goodbook]

As mentioned before, it's not about the coffee. The whole point is to spend some time with the other person, and a coffee date is a safe and easy option that doesn't have to last too long if things go badly, but can also be extended if things go well.

Whether or not either party actually drinks coffee is irrelevant as "coffee" is just shorthand for a beverage of their choice. No one's going to insist that their date only drink coffee, and places will serve other things. I don't drink coffee myself, so whenever I've gone on a coffee date I've had something else such as tea, hot chocolate, fruit juice or even a milkshake.

And why the emphasis on meeting someone at a dance and not at some function/event in general? Organised dances aren't particularly common (at least not where I live), and I wouldn't attend one anyway as dancing holds absolutely no appeal to me.

So assuming that I met her at something other than a dance, I would still opt for coffee as the first date. It's unlikely we'd have had the opportunity for any sort of lengthy conversation at the event since whatever the purpose of the event was would have taken up most of the time.

why didn't you just say a drink then, thirsty man.
Jesus was always meeting women at wells...

 

[redblue22]

With all the qualifiers and storyline, I've forgotten who I am.