Single and lonely.

[Lost Witness]

I will never be able to date & get married

I'm telling you man,
It's about what environment your in and how you present yourself
Most Importantly.
TRUST IN GOD,
It'll take Longer than 1hr and 9minutes tho lol
I can assure you some of the ladies take longer than that to get ready

Who knows though, You could've missed her while typing up the above quoted post



May The LORD Bless You and Keep You

 

[DragonFox91]

I can't ever see myself having a girlfriend
i wonder why God made dating so hard

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I blame my autism for being single. I keep trying to socialize with women, but conversations always fizzle while other normal men forum deep friendships with woman. It's not just in the church, it's like that everywhere I go.

 

[RileyG]

I can't ever see myself having a girlfriend
i wonder why God made dating so hard

May God lead you to the right woman. Amen.

 

[RileyG]

I blame my autism for being single. I keep trying to socialize with women, but conversations always fizzle while other normal men forum deep friendships with woman. It's not just in the church, it's like that everywhere I go.

I'm in the same boat. I find it difficult to socialize with anybody. I always feel awkward.

 

[peaceful-forest]

I have trouble with socializing too. Some of it is from stuff that's happened to me growing up (like trust issues).

 

[RileyG]

I have trouble with socializing too. Some of it is from stuff that's happened to me growing up (like trust issues).

God bless you.

 

[peaceful-forest]

I blame my autism for being single. I keep trying to socialize with women, but conversations always fizzle while other normal men forum deep friendships with woman. It's not just in the church, it's like that everywhere I go.

Have you thought about dating a woman that has Asperger's Syndrome also or have you done that already?

 

[peaceful-forest]

God bless you.

After your so-called friends spill secrets about you, you learn to hide certain information. This may seem trivial to some, but one of the things I like to hide (because of untrustworthy friends) is who I have a crush on. Why? Because whenever a friend told some guy that I liked that I liked him, the results were negative.

 

[RileyG]

After your so-called friends spill secrets about you, you learn to hide certain information. This may seem trivial to some, but one of the things I like to hide (because of untrustworthy friends) is who I have a crush on. Why? Because whenever a friend told some guy that I liked that I liked him, the results were negative.

I'm sorry to hear that. That's completely uncool.

 

[timewerx]

I'm telling you man,
It's about what environment your in and how you present yourself

There's a limit in how I will indulge myself to adapt to the environment.

If I don't like the 'character' I have to slip into just to attract the ladies, I won't do it. Because I won't be able to sustain it and I might only attract women who isn't into the 'real' me.

I'm into the 'numbers' game. But a different kind of numbers game. I look at the statistics. I see many divorces, I see many unhappy marriages, couples getting more miserable while shrinks are getting richer. What are the chances of a hellish relationship? Huge! Don't want any more heartaches, don't want regrets. So I have to be very careful. Change myself into what I what I also want to see in another person and I'd rather be single if I can't find such person.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Have you thought about dating a woman that has Asperger's Syndrome also or have you done that already?

I have not found any from the Church or anywhere else with AS. I am literally the only person.

 

[LoveDivine]

I'm not sure this would help, but after reading through the last few comments, I have a suggestion. Perhaps, one of you could start a private group chat for those who do struggle with making conversations/socializing to get to know each other. I think you can improve your social skills just by talking to others regularly. If you aren't getting the chance to do that in your daily life, this could be a good option. Plus, it might be less threatening and easier to put yourself out there if you know the others in the chat also struggle with the same things. It won't solve the singleness issue, but it might help to make some friends and gain some confidence. Just a suggestion.

 

[mojoboy31]

I'm not sure this would help, but after reading through the last few comments, I have a suggestion. Perhaps, one of you could start a private group chat for those who do struggle with making conversations/socializing to get to know each other. I think you can improve your social skills just by talking to others regularly. If you aren't getting the chance to do that in your daily life, this could be a good option. Plus, it might be less threatening and easier to put yourself out there if you know the others in the chat also struggle with the same things. It won't solve the singleness issue, but it might help to make some friends and gain some confidence. Just a suggestion.

I can make the group, I think. Post in here if you want an invite.

 

[Andromeda00]

Hello brothers and sisters in Christ. First of all thank you all for your answers and your personal messages. Thank you also for your prayers. I am very sorry for each of you who feels sad and desperate, I can understand those feelings as I write here a few months ago. When I wrote this thread I was feeling hopeless for a long time. In November I took part in a spiritual conference of my church in Germany. This experience changed my whole world and helped me understand many things in my relation with God. I feel much better spiritually and more steady in faith. So allow me to express a few things that I understand all these months.

First of all I clarify that following Pentecostal church is my choice and none of anyone business. So any question about it is not accepted. My choice, my decision, respect it. End of story.

I want to say that I feel kind of relieved that there are many fellow Christians who feels the same with but I am also very worried because I realized that there is a common motif of sadness, desperation, low-esteem etc. All these feelings leads on faithless and make us bitter to God and to other people. We are destroying our lives and souls with all these negative feelings and same questions like, why no one loves me, why not me etc. We take our lives in our hands without asking God and the results are really bad. We also make the mistake to hear other people, their advices or lectures instead of God's voice and Word.

God gave His promise about marriage in His Word. It is a promise for everyone and it is in our hand how we will handle this information. My mistake is that I idolized marriage and made a series of mistakes. The promise is valid and God is faithful in His promises. God is not a trade shop and marriage is a gift of God's grace. We don't deserve it but God is merciful.

I had to experience the loss of my dear aunt to understand that what is matter in this terrible world is God. Through this loss I understood the value of our soul, my family's souls and all the people's souls. If have to weight the value of the soul and marriage, what is the most important? Our Lord saved us, gave us hope. What about the people who hasn't hope in Jesus Christ, His sacrifice for us on cross, His gift of Holy Spirit. Tell me honestly, is marriage more valuable than these gifts that God gave us? I wish I would understand these values and privileges earlier. My life would be different.

I know that I will get marry, maybe sooner than I thought. I know it because it is in His Word and because He personally told me in many ways through His Spirit. It is in my hand to honor and thank my Lord and Savior and do His will, love Him in all my heart. Sadness, desperation and bitterness are enemy's feelings. It is my choice to accept his lies of failure and self-destruction or fight it in Jesus Christ name.

Lastly, I want to say something to have in your mind, especially for men here. I had personal messages from guys. When I say that I want to marry it doesn't mean that I am forced to accept any offer of random people. Don't confuse kindness from my side with signs from God for being your wife. Don't offend me because I rejected offers of marriages and dates or other things. Rejection is in life, I've been there too but I never offended the side who rejected me. Please be respectful and don't embarrass yourselves.

Sorry for any English mistake. Lord bless you all.

 

[DragonFox91]

Have you thought about dating a woman that has Asperger's Syndrome also or have you done that already?

It's rare in women

 

[Tony Ramirez]

Just now I was talking to a woman in Yoga class. It was going good until she mentioned her husband. Thats how it is in Church. Park Slope and Carol Gardens Brooklyn nine out of ten women have boyfriends or husbands literally.

So they are no single woman at Church or anyplace else.

 

[mojoboy31]

Just now I was talking to a woman in Yoga class. It was going good until she mentioned her husband. Thats how it is in Church. Park Slope and Carol Gardens Brooklyn nine out of ten women have boyfriends or husbands literally.

So they are no single woman at Church or anyplace else.

Instead of being crushed she isn't single, you should focus on the fact you had a conversation with her, and build on that. You have to walk before you can crawl, and if you can get more comfortable talking to women, and successfully have good conversations, then when you do meet one who is single, you'll have skills and experience to help you.

I would advise you stop looking for single women, and just start trying to talk to women. And that goes for all the single and lonely guys here.

 

[Lost Witness]

Just now I was talking to a woman in Yoga class. It was going good until she mentioned her husband. Thats how it is in Church. Park Slope and Carol Gardens Brooklyn nine out of ten women have boyfriends or husbands literally.

So they are no single woman at Church or anyplace else.

I'd Quit looking,
Mojos Advice is Pretty Sound.
I've done basically the same myself my entire life,
I don't recall ever having to chase anyone and still was able to practice flirting along the way.

I do suggest making yourself more available within the community,
through your local churches and community outreach programs.

 

[Tony Ramirez]

I do suggest making yourself more available within the community,
through your local churches and community outreach programs.

I am pretty involved with my church. My new life group I joined possibly has three girls who are single I said possibly as they never mentioned a boyfriend or husband.