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[faithmom]

Glad to see you. I'm hoping Mare's hubby is doing o.k. She was on a couple of days ago, saying he was doing better and coming home. Man has she had her plate full.

 

[marezee]

my CF character was taking time off while my DH was in the hospital!

head task-mistress of the mansion!! Too funny!

this was so funny...but you had to be there i guess:
Stephen was looking for a toy of his, and i told him i saw it last in the dinning room. well it was 7pm, and the light was off and it was dark in there. He said "mommy, this is how you look for something in the dark (and he put his hands around his eyes--like binoculars)! hehehe!
then Jake said oh! what's that?! and Stephen said "comeon Jake...this is how you see in the dark!"
and they both proceeded into the dinning room with their hands around their eyes!! i cracked up!

 

[faithmom]

I love it. Some days I wish I was a kids with my kids, and didn't have all my grown-up stuff to do.

 

[Lena75]

my CF character was taking time off while my DH was in the hospital!

head task-mistress of the mansion!! Too funny!

this was so funny...but you had to be there i guess:
Stephen was looking for a toy of his, and i told him i saw it last in the dinning room. well it was 7pm, and the light was off and it was dark in there. He said "mommy, this is how you look for something in the dark (and he put his hands around his eyes--like binoculars)! hehehe!
then Jake said oh! what's that?! and Stephen said "comeon Jake...this is how you see in the dark!"
and they both proceeded into the dinning room with their hands around their eyes!! i cracked up!

That reminds me of the movie Open Season where the buck "Elliot" cups his hooves over his eyes as binoculars....hilarious!

 

[marezee]

SAHMs!
Hope everyone is well today.

My son Nick had a hard time getting ready for school today. He said school made him "nervous."
I think his PDD is starting to show through now.
Any suggestions?

 

[.chrys.]

Wow. I really don't have a good suggestion for that. School made me nervous sometimes too; and I know my son loathes it--and for the most part, he's homeschooled!

Anyway, just wanted to drop in and wish you a good day as well!!

Happy Thursday ladies!

 

[marezee]

Wow. I really don't have a good suggestion for that. School made me nervous sometimes too; and I know my son loathes it--and for the most part, he's homeschooled!

Anyway, just wanted to drop in and wish you a good day as well!!

Happy Thursday ladies!

thanks CW!!

 

[faithmom]

I became the mean mom last night and this morning.

So, this is a about my kids vent.

Don't worry, I have it handled. But I just need to blow off SAHM steam....because I am in charge of keeping this ship afloat, and some days.......

So, I planned a relaxing night with baths, fun TV, desert for the kids last night, the only condition was that they get their after-school chores done. So, I assumed that they were really done when they said so.

Well.

It was time for bed, and young son who wants a chapter book read to him by his sisters the past couple of nights got his wish.

As it is being read, I find they haven't
cleaned their stuff out of the truck...in fact they've been stuffing about a weeks worth of unfinished snacks and wrappers under their seats!

Then I walk into the bathroom, not only didn't they put away their clothes, and towels, but there is blue toothpaste smeared all over the wall (come on! I get that it was an accident as they were all trying to brush teeth at once, but grab some tissue and wipe it up!)

Then I hear young son playing with his little computer toy while his sisters are reading (after all that whining that we didn't have time to read the past couple of nights, he is not even listening.) I tell him to put it away and listen to the story....a couple minutes later, he is still playing! So, story time ended with him pitching a fit because I told him to go straight to bed, and his sisters could stay up and read on their own for their efforts.

THEN it all broke loose. Middle daughter can't find her library book that she loaned to older daughter...and it is due Friday. So, older daughter goes looing everywhere for it (still missing BTW!), in the mean time, I start going through her room, and find out that room cleaning measures have consisted of stuffing everything in her closet and under her bed.

So I send middle daughter to clean the bathroom while I help older daughter hunt, and let her know she won't be up reading, she'll be up cleaning her room. (She starts to cry, because she wants to read).

THEN as we are going through her backpack, we find a paper she forgot to turn in.

ARGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!

I woke up planning for a better day, but that they would have to clean out their junk in the truck before we left.

As they are about to leave, I find older 10year old daughter, dressed fine EXCEPT her shirt, which she was supposed to give to younger sister, is above her navel and is showing her budding...ahem!

We go to find something else, and I find she isn't putting her clothes, that I have folded for her, neatly in their various drawers (sox, underewear, play wear, dress wear, pajamas and activity clothes forswim and dance)....she is grabbing the whole pile and shoving it all in one lump into her drawers.

MAN!!!!!

I almost started to rant, but then told her I wasn't about to let her ruin the day for all of us. (Yes, she knew she had done it on purpose....she admits these things and tells me she just does it because she just wants to.)

So, today she will arrive home to find that shirts or anything that is too small or reveals too much is gone, so is anything I haven't seen her wear in a year. Done asking, done showing, done suggesting, and done getting mad about it.

She will also find any stashed clutter waiting for her to pick up in the middle of the floor, or thrown away if I see fit.

We'll give young son another chance on the reading/listening, I think tomorrow.

And middle daughter, well, she did already clean that bathroom, and was in on car cleanup.


Done venting. Needed to, really really needed to.

 

[Lena75]

SAHMs!
Hope everyone is well today.

My son Nick had a hard time getting ready for school today. He said school made him "nervous."
I think his PDD is starting to show through now.
Any suggestions?

I would ask him what it is that makes him nervous and get in touch with his teachers to see if anything is going on out of the ordinary. How old is your son? Has he seen a specialist yet? Been tested at all?

for you! I know it can be nerve-wracking, worrying about the kiddos.

 

[marezee]

wow faith!! you are a ROCK! I probably would have flipped out!

Of course, I don't know what it's like to have my boys clean their room yet, but i know it's frustrating when i ask them to pick up their toys and they don't do it!

good for you for putting the law down, gracefully!

 

[marezee]

I would ask him what it is that makes him nervous and get in touch with his teachers to see if anything is going on out of the ordinary. How old is your son? Has he seen a specialist yet? Been tested at all?

for you! I know it can be nerve-wracking, worrying about the kiddos.

thanks Lena! Nick is 5yrs old and in Kindegarten. It's an all day K. There is a teacher, an aide, and a student teacher in his classroom. And he takes speech therapy 3x/wk. He saw a specialist when he was 4yrs old, and the specialist did not seem to think Nick had any disorder along the autism spectrum, or asberger's. He did say there may some attention issues, but not ADD or ADHD. These "attention issues" were directly related to his age. Meaning Nick was age-appropriate in his attention span.
So Nick was not diagnosed with anything. However, his speech teacher at the time was concerned he may have PDD (pervasive developmental disorder). And recommended Nick continue with speech in Kindegarten.

As background, Nick was a late talker and started taking speech therapy at 2 1/2 yrs old. He also had some social issues, which he has outgrown now.

I keep a journal with Nick's teacher so we can communicate to each other about Nick's days/nights. There has been nothing out of the ordinary. So, I'm at a loss. I hate that Nick feels anxious about going to school. I did too. Perhaps it's just a personality trait, and nothing to be concerned about. who knows.

 

[CoolMom6]

You never really know when they are smaller.
My second son talked late, too, and had a lisp, but even though he still has a slight lisp, he is in all advanced (and GATE) classes in middle school.

I was even worried he had hearing and/or vision problems when he was two. I had him tested and retested.

 

[Lena75]

thanks Lena! Nick is 5yrs old and in Kindegarten. It's an all day K. There is a teacher, an aide, and a student teacher in his classroom. And he takes speech therapy 3x/wk. He saw a specialist when he was 4yrs old, and the specialist did not seem to think Nick had any disorder along the autism spectrum, or asberger's. He did say there may some attention issues, but not ADD or ADHD. These "attention issues" were directly related to his age. Meaning Nick was age-appropriate in his attention span.
So Nick was not diagnosed with anything. However, his speech teacher at the time was concerned he may have PDD (pervasive developmental disorder). And recommended Nick continue with speech in Kindegarten.

As background, Nick was a late talker and started taking speech therapy at 2 1/2 yrs old. He also had some social issues, which he has outgrown now.

I keep a journal with Nick's teacher so we can communicate to each other about Nick's days/nights. There has been nothing out of the ordinary. So, I'm at a loss. I hate that Nick feels anxious about going to school. I did too. Perhaps it's just a personality trait, and nothing to be concerned about. who knows.

Ah, ok. I see now. My son was diagnosed with autism, one of the disorders that branches off of PDD. Good to hear he's getting early intervention! It could be just a phase, too. Sometimes kids get anxious over minor things and then suddenly get over it.

 

[Melbelle]

You never really know when they are smaller.
My second son talked late, too, and had a lisp, but even though he still has a slight lisp, he is in all advanced (and GATE) classes in middle school.

I was even worried he had hearing and/or vision problems when he was two. I had him tested and retested.

Wow your kid sounds like seth, we thought he had hearing problems, but he can hear fine he is just stuborn lol. But he was a late talker, and is 4yrs old and is still having ahard time talking, he has a bad lisp.

 

[marezee]

Ah, ok. I see now. My son was diagnosed with autism, one of the disorders that branches off of PDD. Good to hear he's getting early intervention! It could be just a phase, too. Sometimes kids get anxious over minor things and then suddenly get over it.

I am hoping that is what it is. that he will soon "get over it."
This morning he said "I'm afraid to go to school."
But then again, once he's at the bus stop, he's fine.
Last night he said "i'm afraid to eat dinner."
I think he has a problem with verbally expressing himself.
Maybe he cannot find the words in his head to get them out when he wants to.

 

[faithmom]

good for you for putting the law down, gracefully!

I don't know if I would call it grace....there was ANGER spashed all over my face, and that big shaming mom finger I used to hate as a kid was waving in all it's glory.

Better day today.

I am hoping that is what it is. that he will soon "get over it."
This morning he said "I'm afraid to go to school."
But then again, once he's at the bus stop, he's fine.
Last night he said "i'm afraid to eat dinner."
I think he has a problem with verbally expressing himself.
Maybe he cannot find the words in his head to get them out when he wants to.

Hmmm...I think you may be right. It can also be that he and a couple of friends have picked up on "afraid" as a "power" word. But I agree, you need to explore further just in case.


It makes me think back to my son's pre-school. He had a new pre-school teacher, and he and several kids missed the old one. So they decided together that they didn't like Mrs. _____ _____. They had heard she was coming, and they figured it was her fault thier old teacher was gone (the former teacher was so good she actually openned her own day care was all.) Well, it was a fairly large preschool, and had several assistants.

When the new teacher started, she went by a shortened version of her first name, not her full name with the kids. She came with a son of her own that they were all great friends with.

Her son was quite upset and confused, all the kids said they loved ________, but they hated Mrs. ________ _______. LOL they didn't know they were the same person. Little did we know, they were still waiting for the new "teacher" to show up, and they were going to give her a piece of their little 3 and 4 year old minds. They thought ________ was just another new assistant.

As parents we couldn't figure out why our kids were saying they hated Mrs. ______ ______. But at the end of the day we'd always hear how great ______ was. It all got sorted out in the end, and the kids all found out why their beloved old teacher left.

Uf tah! It took nearly two weeks to figure out what was going on! -And her poor son!

So, in your shoes, I would er of the side of caution and be sure there isn't something "bad" going on, but be ready for the potential of a good laugh.

P.S. I hope it made sense, that I used blanks rather than a real name.

 

[marezee]

thanks faith!

Nick has been a complex individual ever since birth, to say the least!

I used to think it was just me and my naievete (? spelling). Being a new parent and all, I just had the expertese of the pediatrician to tell me what was going on with him. And she always made me feel "less than adequate" as a parent. We don't go to her anymore.
But now that i have a bit of experience under my belt, I am slowly realizing how the little ones manipulate their world...even at 5yrs old!

But I will certainly keep my eyes and ears open for other possibilities with Nick. He's such a sensitive boy!

 

[CoolMom6]

Your Nick sounds a lot like my Vanessa. She has infinite knowledge about what she is interested in, but when you try to tell her about what you need her to do, she suddenly does not understand. And she gets stuck on a word or phrase that sometimes she does not get the complete meaning on.

 

[faithmom]

Have a great weekend all SAHMs!

 

[marezee]

Your Nick sounds a lot like my Vanessa. She has infinite knowledge about what she is interested in, but when you try to tell her about what you need her to do, she suddenly does not understand. And she gets stuck on a word or phrase that sometimes she does not get the complete meaning on.

yup...that's Nick alright!
It makes me so frustrated when he does that!
What do you do?