Puregirl when did you beocme a christian and what about your husband, were you both virgins when you married? What about you dave.
Just wondering.
Did this affect your marriage.
My parents were selfish, they had me to look after them, its the chinese way. I cant get out of it. Its totally opposite to western thinking where you have children and then tell them to get lost when they turn 18.
I became a Christian at the age of 7. "Redidicated" my life in my teens, and periodically since then. My husband has a very similar story to mine. I was not a virgin (I was previously married...divorced due to abuse), my husband was a virgin. This did not affect our marriage in any way.
It is your culture in how you interact with family. It is not something I can understand as I do not live in that type of culture. But here, the "get lost" idea is more of wanting your children to live and flourish on their own. Some parents tell their kids they cannot come back, however there has been a vast increase in the number of adults living with their parents over the past few years in America.
Some people have nannies what do you married couples think about that. I think its an upperclass thing though.
Personally, I feel it is more of an upperclass thing as well. Many people do have babysitters who come when needed and leave when the parents get home. But I dont know of anyone with a live-in nanny. If i was a parent, I would want to raise my child myself, not have someone else do it.
What do you mean by wild and crazy.
Is there NO difference to what christians do in the bedroom to non christians. Do the neighbours have to stop you, i mean is it that noisy.
Honestly, the type of sex is not different from non-Christians. Both Christians and non-Christians can have "slow romantic sex" as well as engage in some very erotic and crazy sex. However, God created sex to be done within the confines of marriage. He created our bodies to respond to certain things, and I believe he loves it when we love each other in a variety of ways. Lol...our home is not close enough to our neighbors for them to notice...but if anyone heard I would like to think it would make them want to go home and be with their spouse.
No am not planning a marriage! I am just asking questions for edification. Without knowledge you perish so this is just to be forearmed really.
My situation is so different from everyone elses. My first relationship is with Jesus. Im in my thirties.
But i see a lot of older married couples in church just wondering HOW it all works for them since I never grew up in church, and my parents arent christian. There arent that many young marrieds these days. I was in a group with a few younger marrieds but that group disbanded. I didnt really get to ask them stuff and most were extremely busy with the business of having children or trying to have children. It doesnt occur to many of them to NOT have children.
Although actually one couple have just moved to this country so are just getting established first so I understand why they not having children straight away..but i think in her case she would like to have children and her husband not really. She does work in childcare though.
Ah ok, thank you for the clarification! I wanted to be sure I would respond in the appropriate way based on your age and intentions. In a Christian marriage, your first priority should be a relationship with God. As a couple, you should both encourage one another to be the best you can be, both craving time with God and working to have a relationship with him. I have used the triangle model for this.
God is at the point, the very top of the triangle. You are at one of the lower points, your spouse at the other. Your goal is an equilateral triangle. You should both be working to grow closer to God, and as you notice, when the lower points move to the upper point, they grow closer together...so is the same in a Christian marriage relationship.
It is a different culture there, on some points. In america, people are also getting married later in life. They are delaying for a variety of reasons. People are also having less children, as society is starting to place less pressure on couples to have children, and that it is ok to focus on a career or each other, or whatever they want.
It is likely your female friend wants children because she works with them all day...but it can work the other way around as well.
Its not wild to me. Just natural exploration. I wouldnt call it wild or crazy.
I supoose your interpetation is different but theres nothing crazy about it. Ive been around more explicit stuff, seen more explicit types of literature in libraries if you can call it that.
Hah maybe im jaded.
It does differ with an individuals interpretation...when I look at the meaning behind the words, I would call it pretty wild.
I think God enjoyes the innocence of it, for him a husband and wife getting to know each other is not even remotely dirty or crazy the way sex is shown these days as just this urge you have to satisfy.
Because in song of solomon its written to not awaken love till its time. So i never understand things like oh we have a sex drive. We have to do it now. Kind of thing. That to me is the devils way and probaly only lasts all of five minutes.
God enjoys the innocence of it, but also the pleasure and "dirty craziness" of it as well. This is how he created sex to be. If it lasts two minutes, it lasts two minutes. If it lasts two hours, it lasts two hours. It is not about the action, or the time frame...it is about the connection. It is about creating the intimate connection between a husband and wife. A sex drive is simply the desire for intimacy with another. It can become so intense that you have to do it, and that is ok. Why would the devil come into a marriage and give someone the desire to do something God created? If the devil did his job, it would be do drive a wedge between spouses, not bring them closer together.
