As someone else said, "We are all sinners." If you thought that you were setting yourself up for this perfect marriage, think again. You will have many more issues in life, many more disappointments. You must be willing to take the good with the bad and in time, you will both work towards being Christ-like.
He met you and you captivated him, he liked you a lot and then fell in love. Obviously, he needed to impress you. He showed his best qualities to win you over. It is typical in new romantic relationships to do this. You present your best. You hide your flaws and idiosyncrasies, and are in agreement with each other on all issues: religion, politics, goals, family, etc. You don't want to show your temper, impatience, you watch your language, don't pick your nose, etc. You open the door and show manners AS IF that's been part of your being. The women is impressed, " Wow, this guy is a perfect gentleman, the man of my dreams"! Let's get real, every girl wants that fairy tale knight in shining armor, but when you look close, oops, he's not so shiny. Look at a beautiful garden from a distance and it looks like paradise. Move closer and closer and see bug infested plants with holes and rotted leaves, some diseases and lots of defects. Hey, we will all get perfect bodies someday and live in a perfect environment without sin, but until then, it's all around us. I'm not perfect and neither is my wife or my daughter or my dog.
Do you think your parents never lied to you? Mostly, to protect you or for your own good. My mother has carried a lie with her that she'll probably take to her grave. When you have kids, they will lie as soon as they can talk. "Did you break this lamp Johnny?" "No, my sister did it." They will test you, manipulate you, lie to you, to get what they want. You'll catch them, punish them and they will be good for a while, then later will do something else. Wait till you here them cuss or come home with a tatoo or hopefully you won't have to get that call, Mom, I'm in jail, can you bail me out."
Backing up a bit.
After about 1 1/2 - 2 years, when you have become comfortable with each other and have spent lots of time together, you begin to relax and some of those flaws begin to show themselves. "Ah, what the heck, I got her now ... I'm gonna pass gas or swear if I feel like it or whatever ... or let her get that door herself - what is she crippled ... Or Now it's time to tell her who I really am, Im not a virgin! Oh and by the way, I not the owner of a company, I don't have lots of money, I actually have a huge debt, while I've been treating you and buying you all those gifts ..." The truth is, people can only hide their flaws for so long. Eventually you will see them. Even Dr. LAURA used to advise couples to at least two years of courtship before marriage, to allow enough time to see who they really are - for the flaws to surface.
If this is the only thing he kept from you, you can forgive and be hopeful - He might be closer to a saint then most guys out there? Just tell him to put everything on the table now ... "Is there anything else you need to tell me?"
What about You? You aren't perfect. What flaws have you been hiding? Time to reveal them too.
I hate liars though, more than anything. Let's hope he doesn't open up a chest full of lies. I would rather know the flaws and have a person present themselves honestly up front, but people either have a hard time doing that or are just in denial of their own sinful state.