The problem I see with today's churches and the religion of their so-called Christianity in general is that they have the rulebook but are living new age lives with lessened morals. I agree completely that most if not all have a social club vibe. The mark is missed on a good life because many are too worried about making a good impression. Years ago, the last church I went to I was even hit on in front of my wife at the time while I was holding our baby and the woman had no regard. I don't go to church now and if I do go back it won't be learn it will be because I feel called to change someone's way of thinking. Of course there's a double standard, I learned a while back that everyone is a hypocrite at one point in time but if you focus on that it'll consume you. You just have to accept that as a fact. Everyone has faults, you need to forgive. As for looking for someone and judging the outside I was happily married and had what I wanted then divorced and dated. I've never really had a wandering eye. I don't really do that superficial junk and think all things done today is overkill. But I will say this. If you're too busy staring at a person in front of you to read a verse then your priorities are in the wrong place.
