Male Accountability Thread

[Yasserp]

I don't know how a message system works here, but I'm available if someone needs somene to talk with.

 

[Achilles]

I'm not sure how this works either but I am looking for an accountability partner

 

[Walsinghsm Way]

Greetings everyone

I have/had/am in the process of working through consequences of sexual brokenness and sin (I hesitate to use the word "addiction" because it creates identify issues that I think I would short-circuit my continued transformation in Christ) before and within my (approaching first anniversary) marriage. This recovery is complicated by my wife's own PTSD resulting from past sexual offenses committed against her, and from what I am coming to see as a continued partial isolation in my struggle, outlined below.

I am currently involved in a men's recovery group called Walking Free that utilizes Building For Freedom: Allowing Christ to Reconstruct a Life Broken by Sexual Sin by Troy Haas. However I don't feel really connected to the men on either the small group I was placed with, or the group-at-large, for while it is non-denominational in make-up and intent there is still an undercurrent of theological difference that I classify as too Protestant for my comfort. This is not to cas aspersions on the group, I wouldnt be where I am today without them.

Amother problem is the nature of my own sexual acting out is not encouraged to be fully shared because of potential triggers for others, bit in a nutshell it involves the use of hentai - Japanese animated pornographic material video and graphic novel form. Simply put, it's hard to talk about it with others in the group (rather it is discouraged) or identify the pull of that particular form on my life.

I am searching for an accountability partner who is sensitive to the pull of this material, even of he hasn't been exposed to it as I was.

Thanks in advance for your advice, counsel and Prayers.

 

[FanTheFlame]

Walsinghsm,

This step that we "Men Of Christ" take towards freedom from sexual immorality is very important in reaching out to others. So, first off, I am happy that you, like many others, have reached out and decided to become accountable to others and desire true freedom from this sin that is heavily pressurized on through our culture.

I pray that whatever deep brokenness you have or had, that affected/affects you negatively be completely healed in the name of Jesus. I pray that you are restored wholly and become strengthened in your walk in Christ.

For myself, I realize that I lack the focus of simplicity of faith and action. If I can continue to dig in the Word of God, Pray, Take time out of this busy schedule and Give time to The Lord, I believe I would struggle much less.

I am familiar with hentai, I too was involved in that material as well and that definitely destroys and affects our minds. I went through many counselling and different conferences of Godly Purity and Freedom from Sexual immorality, and the information greatly helped knowing how our minds work. But in the end it comes to our own ACTION and APPLICATION of what we've learned to break the chains and become free. For me i have to consistently take measures and notice my vulnerability anytime i get on a computer (which i work with computers on a regular basis). Thus the reason I recently decided to purchase and use an accountability/ Filter software for my electronic devices. Its called Covenant Eyes. It is a monthly fee but to me the Fee is worth my freedom and protection, Along with accountability to my wife and the Lord. You should check it out. Also if your using chrome browser, get the addon "block site" and add the word hentai or anything else that's not on the "adult" list. I hope some of these suggestions help and give you confidence in a step towards victory.

 

[Marked.]

Hello Everyone,

I'm new here and I'm looking for an accountability partner. I've been struggling with sexual thoughts, masturbation and sexual impurity. Though recently I have taken a stand, I realised I need to take it further by getting an accountability partner.

 

[Marked.]

Greetings everyone

I have/had/am in the process of working through consequences of sexual brokenness and sin (I hesitate to use the word "addiction" because it creates identify issues that I think I would short-circuit my continued transformation in Christ) before and within my (approaching first anniversary) marriage. This recovery is complicated by my wife's own PTSD resulting from past sexual offenses committed against her, and from what I am coming to see as a continued partial isolation in my struggle, outlined below.

I am currently involved in a men's recovery group called Walking Free that utilizes Building For Freedom: Allowing Christ to Reconstruct a Life Broken by Sexual Sin by Troy Haas. However I don't feel really connected to the men on either the small group I was placed with, or the group-at-large, for while it is non-denominational in make-up and intent there is still an undercurrent of theological difference that I classify as too Protestant for my comfort. This is not to cas aspersions on the group, I wouldnt be where I am today without them.

Amother problem is the nature of my own sexual acting out is not encouraged to be fully shared because of potential triggers for others, bit in a nutshell it involves the use of hentai - Japanese animated pornographic material video and graphic novel form. Simply put, it's hard to talk about it with others in the group (rather it is discouraged) or identify the pull of that particular form on my life.

I am searching for an accountability partner who is sensitive to the pull of this material, even of he hasn't been exposed to it as I was.

Thanks in advance for your advice, counsel and Prayers.

Hello Walsingham, since we're both looking for accountability partners, I guess we could work with being each other's partner. Whatdya say?

 

[Marked.]

Hello Walsingham, since we're both looking for accountability partners, I guess we could work with being each other's partner. Whatdya say?

Mind if I messaged you?

 

[KeithSA]

Hello, I'm a married man who goes for awhile living life according to God's word. Then I spiral into gay porn and nothing will satisfy my hunger until I have a gay hookup. Restroom, park, you name it. I go through this stage of craving a man not just for sex but to touch, hold and caress. Then it's like I wake up from a dream state and realize once again I've failed God. I know I cannot ever move forward without an accountability partner. For now, at least, I need someone rooted and grounded, and someone who has struggled with gay sex. <staff edit> Thanks.

 

[RedeemedtoManhood]

I haven't masturbated for 14 days now... Praise you God, the Lord Jesus! Thank you Lord and I declare victory for the days to come, for me and for all of my brothers and sisters here in this thread.

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

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[TedB91042]

Hello, I'm a married man who goes for awhile living life according to God's word. Then I spiral into gay porn and nothing will satisfy my hunger until I have a gay hookup. Restroom, park, you name it. I go through this stage of craving a man not just for sex but to touch, hold and caress. Then it's like I wake up from a dream state and realize once again I've failed God. I know I cannot ever move forward without an accountability partner. For now, at least, I need someone rooted and grounded, and someone who has struggled with gay sex. <staff edit> Thanks.

Keith, I understand the struggles you describe and would be open to talking about it as well.

 

[Redeemed20300]

Please. I need an accountability partner to further help and stop masturbation. Please anyone willing to do that? God bless you.

 

[Redeemed20300]

I haven't masturbated for 14 days now... Praise you God, the Lord Jesus! Thank you Lord and I declare victory for the days to come, for me and for all of my brothers and sisters here in this thread.

Congrats bro. I'm so happy for you. edit

 

[Ajoj]

I struggle with masturbation, this summer been free of it for 80 days, there were things that helped in that like girlfriend, job, sport.
Right now i have nothing of those things, so its a lot of free time. The feeling i get when im finished with that is despair, cant believe
I cant stop with this, and scrupulolisity that goes with that is makinv things harder. I overcame a lot of problrms and sins with Gods help, but this, cant believe i cant stop something that i hate

 

[Cartesian12]

Hi folks,
Single male, 37, never married, virgin, no girlfriends . . . porn/masturbation since 13 . . . been free from looking @ porn for about 9/10 months now, but still touch about once a week.

Let's see . . . I've done Celebrate Recovery, EMB, Counseling (group/individual), and had some accountability partners on and off. I do the Paul Cook devotional & studies (porn-free.org); those have really helped. There is no secular alternative.

Some of the worldly consequences include being fired from a job, lying and lack of trust, general fear/anxiety, & money spent on filters and movies. I'm pretty miserable most of the time . . . because of other things too, but a lot because of this.

The antidote is the same as it ever was: be killing sin or it will kill you . . . not so easy.

Best,

ct

 

[st831]

I've never tried an accountability partner...not sure if it works or not. Not a topic I can talk about with men I know.

 

[Caleb_M.]

Hello, I'm not very familiar with how an accountability partnership works, but I've been dealing with problems involving sexual immorality (masturbation, porn, homosexual thoughts and fantasies). I don't know if this thread is very active anymore but I feel as though I need to get this out here and just try asking if anyone would care to be my accountability partner. If anybody can help me I'd be truly thankful.

 

[Southernscotty]

Hello brothers,
Let me offer to be your accountability partners, I am a pastor in Ar and I will be here for you, We can pray about this or just chat about ways to strengthen and encourage you.

Just please know men, that we have an all loving and forgiving God who desires to see you happy. He does not enjoy seeing you discouraged and let down by these constant desires and He can and will deliver you from all unrighteousness.

We have promises through His Word and there is much strength in accountability. Message me and let's stand together in this battle.
Please feel free to message me day or night by clicking on my Avatar and clicking "start conversation" for a private message.
May God bless and keep you during this journey and know that YOU are much loved by God.

 

[Blessed2day]

Greetings everyone

I have/had/am in the process of working through consequences of sexual brokenness and sin (I hesitate to use the word "addiction" because it creates identify issues that I think I would short-circuit my continued transformation in Christ) before and within my (approaching first anniversary) marriage. This recovery is complicated by my wife's own PTSD resulting from past sexual offenses committed against her, and from what I am coming to see as a continued partial isolation in my struggle, outlined below.

I am currently involved in a men's recovery group called Walking Free that utilizes Building For Freedom: Allowing Christ to Reconstruct a Life Broken by Sexual Sin by Troy Haas. However I don't feel really connected to the men on either the small group I was placed with, or the group-at-large, for while it is non-denominational in make-up and intent there is still an undercurrent of theological difference that I classify as too Protestant for my comfort. This is not to cas aspersions on the group, I wouldnt be where I am today without them.

Amother problem is the nature of my own sexual acting out is not encouraged to be fully shared because of potential triggers for others, bit in a nutshell it involves the use of hentai - Japanese animated pornographic material video and graphic novel form. Simply put, it's hard to talk about it with others in the group (rather it is discouraged) or identify the pull of that particular form on my life.

I am searching for an accountability partner who is sensitive to the pull of this material, even of he hasn't been exposed to it as I was.

Thanks in advance for your advice, counsel and Prayers.

Hello brothers,
Let me offer to be your accountability partners, I am a pastor in Ar and I will be here for you, We can pray about this or just chat about ways to strengthen and encourage you.

Just please know men, that we have an all loving and forgiving God who desires to see you happy. He does not enjoy seeing you discouraged and let down by these constant desires and He can and will deliver you from all unrighteousness.

We have promises through His Word and there is much strength in accountability. Message me and let's stand together in this battle.
Please feel free to message me day or night by clicking on my Avatar and clicking "start conversation" for a private message.
May God bless and keep you during this journey and know that YOU are much loved by God.

Hello brothers,
Let me offer to be your accountability partners, I am a pastor in Ar and I will be here for you, We can pray about this or just chat about ways to strengthen and encourage you.

Just please know men, that we have an all loving and forgiving God who desires to see you happy. He does not enjoy seeing you discouraged and let down by these constant desires and He can and will deliver you from all unrighteousness.

We have promises through His Word and there is much strength in accountability. Message me and let's stand together in this battle.
Please feel free to message me day or night by clicking on my Avatar and clicking "start conversation" for a private message.
May God bless and keep you during this journey and know that YOU are much loved by God.

 

[Blessed2day]

Hello Southern Scotty I myself am struggling with masturbation and do need help breaking these spiritual chain. I never had an accountability partner but look forward to it. Even if you have an accountability partner more then one is always better, just in case you can’t reach one you have the other.