RaymondG
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I do not see controlling in the behavior you stated. The fact that he gives exceptions for you to drink, proves this. If he was dead set against it and didn't care what you thought about it, he would say no drinking period.. But the exceptions were only to compromise and please you......because Im sure he would rather you not drink at all.
I think there are pinkish flags in your actions.....not quite Red yet. The fact that you drink multiple glasses a night.....your hiding drinking in the house even though you are given ways to drink freely outside of it......You are finding excuses why you should be able to drink....You are looking for problems with your husbands so that you can be allowed to drink more.
All this seem unhealthy to me. I drink a glass of wine often....but I would have no issues not drinking it if my wife had an issue with it....I have no time period inwhich I feel that I have to have a drink....and I've never felt the need to have more than one serving in a day...... But I wouldnt mind not drinking it at all......because it is not that important to me...
The question is, why is it that important to you? Let's say you could never drink again.....Would you feel hurt by that? Would that be a devastating lose? If so, I think your need for a drink is too great.
I think there are pinkish flags in your actions.....not quite Red yet. The fact that you drink multiple glasses a night.....your hiding drinking in the house even though you are given ways to drink freely outside of it......You are finding excuses why you should be able to drink....You are looking for problems with your husbands so that you can be allowed to drink more.
All this seem unhealthy to me. I drink a glass of wine often....but I would have no issues not drinking it if my wife had an issue with it....I have no time period inwhich I feel that I have to have a drink....and I've never felt the need to have more than one serving in a day...... But I wouldnt mind not drinking it at all......because it is not that important to me...
The question is, why is it that important to you? Let's say you could never drink again.....Would you feel hurt by that? Would that be a devastating lose? If so, I think your need for a drink is too great.
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