Junia
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- May 17, 2020
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Goodness. I hit a barrier in a drive thru. It was one of those moments where you couldn't believe what just happened. I was avoiding the silly think and still hit it. I pulled into a parking spot to eat. Trying to stay calm, I couldn't. I sat my food on the dash and I just started to cry. Then I started breathing hard freaking out and I thought I was going to throw up. I had to calm myself down fast because I didn't have the time, so I just calmed down best I could. Ate. Went to my mechanic to pay for my car and he tried to see what he could do for that place on the truck bc I thought I was going to just let my husband find it himself. When he got home, I didn't tell him since his behavior sucks when he gets home. Later on after we picked my car up, I showed him and I was balling my eyes again before telling him. I'm always so afraid he's going to be mad at me. He's not even the mad type. He's the type who just wont talk to you. He told me he wasn't mad over the truck. Then he huffed and puffed in the house for 30 min and came back downstairs and laughed at me. He also made a joke about it yesterday and it set off that panic in me- I thought he was mad about it. Maybe I am too busy looking for perfect. He even said he didn't know why I would think he would be mad. I don't know what kind of person im getting when he gets home, so yeah, I was nervous as a cat! I tell my mom everything. She told me itll probably work out. We are working on it. It's been pretty good this weekend, but that doesn't mean I will have that sweet version one my husband tomorrow through Thursday.
This reminds me of someone. My mother. My fatehr mistreated my mother and us kids horribly. Sometimes there was physical abuse and often threats of physical abuse, (even with weapons and death threats) but also he was very good at yelling, belittiling, screaming namecalling. my m,other would get the panic reactions you described here over incidents liek with the barrier. in fact I remeber an incident when my mother did the same with her car and a barrier and my father actually asked God to curse her with death. He asked God to strike her dead.
You are being abused, like my mum was. even if in your case there is no physical stuff. You are Biblically allowed to separate. I am not sure if Biblically youa re allowed to divorce per se but you can leave and go to a refuge or move somewhere, (maybe to another state if possible?) to get far away from him. Best to not tell him where you have gone- jujst a pack bags and leave.
This man may have MH issues like narcissism, and that is a legitimate illness and yes, he is suffering, but so are you! Your own mental health is suffering (OCD and panic attacks). FWIW, i aldo have diagnosed OCD, panic and other MH issues. When I was around my dad they got 100x worse.
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