juliegirl said:
juliegirl said:Broken Arrow...," my husband refuses to post in this forum anymore. Obviously, he doesn't like things that have been said in this thread. Here's an update...I would like to say that we are doing much better. It seemed that for a couple of weeks that we were. BUT, I goofed up and "talked" to "cyber boy" again as he calls the guy I met over the Internet. I have blocked and deleted the guy from my MSN, AOL, etc...But, because I messed up and said hi to the person, it has caused weeks of fights, accusations, and downright mean things being said....things he's said to me, and things I've said to him...I don't want anything to do with this other guy...I've thrown his phone number away...and the guy has tried to instant message me several times, and I've either ignored it, or blocked it...I have told my husband that I repented for what I did...by having an "online affair" with somebody else...The "ministry" part has not changed...he's still doing "what God has called him to do..." We had another huge fight a couple of days ago, and he told me that if "the ministry is going to destroy our marriage, then fine, because I'm not quitting it..." I told him I still want a separation. I don't want a separation because of "cyber boy" as he calls him...I never wanted a separation because of him...I've tried to tell him that things with that guy are OVER WITH...I regret ever having talked to the guy...I was wrong in what I did..I want a separation because I can't stand this constant arguing, yelling, accusations, mistrust, and not believing in one another...I don't know where to go from here...but all this fighting is no good...and I'm no innocent....I have not been nice at all for a while now...it takes very little for me to go off on him...and as far as me getting involved with "his ministry.." It's extremely difficult for me to want to get involved in ANYTHING he's doing when we have spent several hours screaming and arguing with one another...I can't just walk in a church and put on a happy face and pretend I'm just all fine and I can help save the world...In fact, I feel like I'm living a lie to walk in a church and act like a "happy, Christian family..." when this stuff goes on at home...Broken Arrow" sees that I posted this, and I'm sure it will cause a lot more discussion and fighting...(nothing unusual, had 2 to 3 hours of fighting yesterday) but I had to get this out...still hurting, and still in need of a lot of prayer...
juliegirl Im so sorry that your husband has not made any changes yet. I PMed him about three weeks ago and he never responded. I gave him my personal telephone number so we could talk, but it appears that he and I (was) a lot alike VERY PRIDEFUL! Im not sure which version of the Bible he is using, but the ones I reference tell me that my family life must be in order before I can be in ministry. As a matter of fact, both my wife and I stepped down from ministry when we separated our church suggests it and I totally agree. We have no business ministering to others when we cant minister to each other.
Regarding you separating I would strongly suggest that you reconsider (unless there is physical danger for you or your children) The statistics are grim only one in eight marriages that separate return to their marriage. It was my wifes decision to separate. For the first time since, there is a glimmer of hope that the walls may be coming down between us and that her heart is starting to soften (please keep us in your prayers Michael and Laura). Thank you.
I will keep praying for you and bokenarrow (and the family) Michael
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