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I asked this in request for Christian advice but didn't really get a clear answer...can I as a man, have long hair??? Or is it a sin??

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No, styling his hair in the manner a woman would do is "a shame unto him". The greek word "κόμα" means a lot more than simply "long hair".
Happy Sunday, pro'
If looking like a girl is more important than following the writings of Paul regarding long hair, it would seem that your hair and looks have become an idol to you.
Imagine the testimony you can give when your peers start asking you why you cut hair so short ?
 
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Happy Sunday, pro'
If looking like a girl is more important than following the writings of Paul regarding long hair, it would seem that your hair and looks have become an idol to you.
Imagine the testimony you can give when your peers start asking you why you cut hair so short ?
You know the saying about what opinions are like.
 
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Happy Sunday, pro'
If looking like a girl is more important than following the writings of Paul regarding long hair, it would seem that your hair and looks have become an idol to you.
Imagine the testimony you can give when your peers start asking you why you cut hair so short ?
What exactly did Paul say?
1 Cor 11:
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
Judge in yourself
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
No, "The natural man is the enemy of God."
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
It is glory to her?
16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
"We have no such custom, neither the churches of God."

You are right, that is 'Paul' talking. He does that occasionally.
Go back to 1 Cor 7:
6
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

Paul goes on for several chapters, (Which it seems are arbitrarily divided.) speaking for himself. That is not to discount his words, it is to differentiate between what he believes makes sense as far as rules for the church at Corinth. There is a lotta good stuff in there Yet he does not claim it to be direct commandment of the Lord. This is why he says,
"We have no such custom, neither the churches of God."

He has rules concerning;
Marriage and sex which I agree with, yet in todays world men are accused of spousal rape.
Chapter 7:4
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

He has rules for eating meat sacrificed to idols. If it convicts you, don't do it. But, it's all good. He states, I don't do it in front of those weak in faith
Chapter 10:31 Whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatsoever yo do, do all to the glory of God.

He has his rules on hair

Again this is not to diminish Paul's words, He himself distinguished between his and Gods. I appreciate that about him.
 
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What exactly did Paul say?
1 Cor 11:
13 Judge in yourselves: is it comely that a woman pray unto God uncovered?
Judge in yourself
14 Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him?
No, "The natural man is the enemy of God."
15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.
It is glory to her?
16 But if any man seem to be contentious, we have no such custom, neither the churches of God.
"We have no such custom, neither the churches of God."
The custom they did not have was of being contentious !
You are right, that is 'Paul' talking. He does that occasionally.
Go back to 1 Cor 7:
6
But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.
7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
13 And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

Paul goes on for several chapters, (Which it seems are arbitrarily divided.) speaking for himself. That is not to discount his words, it is to differentiate between what he believes makes sense as far as rules for the church at Corinth. There is a lotta good stuff in there Yet he does not claim it to be direct commandment of the Lord. This is why he says,
"We have no such custom, neither the churches of God."
He has rules concerning;
Marriage and sex which I agree with, yet in todays world men are accused of spousal rape.
Chapter 7:4
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
He has rules for eating meat sacrificed to idols. If it convicts you, don't do it. But, it's all good. He states, I don't do it in front of those weak in faith
Chapter 10:31 Whether therefore you eat, or drink, or whatsoever yo do, do all to the glory of God.
He has his rules on hair
Again this is not to diminish Paul's words, He himself distinguished between his and Gods. I appreciate that about him.
I will abide by what a man with the gift of the Holy Ghost advises.
 
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The custom they did not have was of being contentious !

I will abide by what a man with the gift of the Holy Ghost advises.
Of course you will.
I just quoted what he said.
And all believers have the Spirit of God indwelling.
Carry on.
 
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If you look up images of well respected pastors and theologians going back several centuries, several of them had long hair. Even long hair wigs. Long hair on a man didn't seem to be a point of contention until the 20th century.
 
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There's only one way to find out, in my opinion.
Cut it.
Do you feel differently about yourself with it cut.
Has your relationship with Jesus Christ changed at all.

You can always grow it back.
But I don't think you will ever find the answer by asking others.

Just cut it and see what if anything changes in your life and your relationship with God.

Just my humble opinion.
 
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If you look up images of well respected pastors and theologians going back several centuries, several of them had long hair. Even long hair wigs. Long hair on a man didn't seem to be a point of contention until the 20th century.
Sometimes you can recognize disobedience with one glimpse.
Men with long hair are an affront to Christianity.
 
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It is written that he that is spiritual judgeth all things, in 1 Cor 2:15.
Saying that you recognise disobedience because of the length of someone's hair is making a snap judgment based on nothing but appearances.

Would you have said the same about Samson, John the Baptist or Jesus?
 
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Saying that you recognise disobedience because of the length of someone's hair is making a snap judgment based on nothing but appearances.
That is right.
Would you have said the same about Samson, John the Baptist or Jesus?
Of course I would.
If I didn't, I would be double minded.
Had I met Samson, I would have asked him why his hair was long.
If he replied that he had taken a Nazarite's vow, I would have prayed for/with him.
John and Jesus must have known that even nature shows that long hair on a man a shame.
Paul knew it, when he wrote 1 Cor 11.
 
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That is right.

Of course I would.
If I didn't, I would be double minded.
Had I met Samson, I would have asked him why his hair was long.
If he replied that he had taken a Nazarite's vow, I would have prayed for/with him.
John and Jesus must have known that even nature shows that long hair on a man a shame.
Paul knew it, when he wrote 1 Cor 11.
are you trying to say the Nazarite vow. The thing LITERALLY bestowed upon Samson by the LORD is something unholy...?!
 
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That is right.
MAN looks at appearance, but God sees the heart, 1 Samuel 16:7.
Looking at someone and judging them to be a certain person based on their looks is just the kind of judgment we should not be making.
John and Jesus must have known that even nature shows that long hair on a man a shame.
Paul knew it, when he wrote 1 Cor 11.
How does "nature show" that long hair on a man is shameful?
It may have been in Paul's culture, but it's not today. It is merely a matter of taste and has nothing at all to do with faith or salvation.
 
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I suffer from anxiety and OCD so yeah I do. lol
That is the real issue.
No answer to this or the next controversy you are shaken by will appease your OCD. It is better to face it head-on by
  1. seeing a psychiatrist, not just a psychologist, &
  2. going to a church that is better at dealing with mental illnesses.
 
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That is the real issue.
No answer to this or the next controversy you are shaken by will appease your OCD. It is better to face it head-on by
  1. seeing a psychiatrist, not just a psychologist, &
  2. going to a church that is better at dealing with mental illnesses.

There's balance. I imagine that being OCD or having anxiety doesn't necessarily mean that a faith related question is related to the mental illness.

Being saved, being Christian, means we want to please God in all we do.

So while someone with existing mental illness will have to take some caution and weigh the severity of illness when seeking answers to life related questions they will still have legitimate questions.

Someone who struggles with mental illness usually is better off in taking a middle and balanced path in Faith

In this, I don't imagine that God worries about the length of a man's hair so much as his character and relationship with Christ. Just base level here.

Then if we need, we face the next question head on in Christ as His Body to help the weaker brethren.

This is just my thoughts from seeing people with mental health issues online.
 
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Not at all.
The vow of the Nazarite is the only excuse for long hair on any man.

Give a definition of long hair. Use any form of measurement you want, inches, centimeters, fractions of a cubit, I don't care. Just provide an objective definition of long hair.

-CryptoLutheran
 
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MAN looks at appearance, but God sees the heart, 1 Samuel 16:7.
Looking at someone and judging them to be a certain person based on their looks is just the kind of judgment we should not be making.
Seeing someone dressed counter to God's will, or otherwise countering God's will, is enough for a righteous judgement to be made.
But only God can reward such rebellion, not us.
How does "nature show" that long hair on a man is shameful?
By showing one lusts after the looks of a woman, he manifests that he is still walking in and after the "flesh".
It may have been in Paul's culture, but it's not today. It is merely a matter of taste and has nothing at all to do with faith or salvation.
The only thing that has changed since Paul, is the world.
I will stick with Paul's POV, and reject the world's POV.
 
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