Quality time? Joint task, where the member and you can work together and forge a deeper relationship. Something the other person would enjoy, be good at and can get some loving positive comments and a greater sense of purpose? Less time to do the unfruitful things then. There are a number of proverbs advising against being a sluggard. Not saying that the person is but the wisdom imparted in those could hold true to your situation. Have a think on the suggestion.
No, I am saying that in the core of human beings, there is an insatiable desire to control others. This is at the top of the list of things that we need to overcome.
So guys..........I am challenging you..........let's see what you know about how you are supposed to comport yourselves on this earth, in the Body of Christ and in your homes. Let's hear it gentlemen, please...........dying for thirst here on that subject! Famine in the land!
Do you have anyone in your life who can support you -- an understanding family member, friend, whatever? I don't mean help solve the problem; I mean give you, personally, emotional support while you deal with this? A listening ear, a hug, that kind of thing. It sounds like you're carrying an awful lot right now.
I once counseled a youth pastor about this very topic. The duty of the man in the relationship is to love our wives as Christ loved the church. And how did he love the church? He took responsibility for her wrong-doing, and he laid down his life for her. The woman's duty is to obey. The man's duty is to bear her iniquity and die for her if need be.Bringing this over from another thread:
I am a woman who believes what is written in the bible, and I pop something on my head even in my private prayer time, as well as believe in male headship. However, I would love for once to see just one post teaching Christian men how to be Godly men...........the fact that in the more than 30 years I have known the Lord, time and time again I have heard sermons and seen posts concerning women submitting to husbands and covering heads etc, but almost nothing to teach men what God asks of them. It tells me that almost nobody understands what God requires of the men, since they never bring it up. It gets even more concerning especially when we consider that oft reminding is always needed on all things biblical, much less initial teaching. Since men have GOD-GIVEN leadership......it follows that if they had been living according to God's standards as men, there would not be so many problems that we see concerning women in the church nowadays, since the tail on a Body naturally tends to follow the head when it's going somewhere, most of the time at least.
(And I would add that Hillsong's and the whole church's problems go way deeper than a woman on stage having her hair shaved hair or not, so to solve outward symptons, why not focus on the root problems first.)
So guys..........I am challenging you..........let's see what you know about how you are supposed to comport yourselves on this earth, in the Body of Christ and in your homes. Let's hear it gentlemen, please...........dying for thirst here on that subject! Famine in the land!
Well its all a matter of self.
From the context about the woman's desire is for her husband, I think the apostle meant that women will seek to please their husbands and since women want to please their husbands, the husbands ought to be pleasing God. The man's desire is to please God, the woman's desire is to please her husband and a godly family is presented.
You should read Hosea. That whole book disagrees with you. God acts every bit like a man in every respect. He even demonstrates a streak of spitefulness towards Israel after he divorced her. Nor do I see any evidence of women being superior to men. I'll allow that they have their own strengths that men do not have, just as men have strengths women do not have. But I see no evidence of feminine superiority.
We have lost the whole idea of correction in both church and home, due to political correctness......to our detriment. Women have weaknesses and tendencies that we need not to be permitted to rule over us, for example, in this society we might tend to want to over-feather our nests in this life, just one example that comes to mind off the bat.....for some reason. That can stem from being too anxious to please, as we women can tend to be, but husband can help put the brakes on that with reassurance and teaching about not being covetous, about being content with such as we have, and that neither God nor husband is worried about having the home look as polished as people of the world. That's just one example.......hard to explain, but it's like if the husband steps up and takes the responsibility for things like that, the wife feels covered and not so open to potential criticism of her home-making. But then again, it's up to the wife to submit to him doing that, and with this world teaching women to be like men, and that submission is weakness and abdicating of power, etc, it can be challenging.........time, patience and prayer are needed.......it's not easy to put the toothpaste back into the tube once it's been squeezed out........but thankfully nothing is impossible with God.This is my point exactly. If we take it literal, a female can not be a Son, a female must submit to a male, and a female should not speak in church. But if we try to look for the meanings of these passages, they come to life. We pick and choose what to take literal and what not to...all based on our carnal minds.....which cannot understand the things of the spirit.
