smaneck said:
So do you believe women should be allowed into the ministry? Are they allowed to preach at your church? Are women considered equal in the marriage relationship or are they expected to be submissive to their husbands?
Every religion has an authority for what it teaches. It is that authority which forms the basis of the main doctrines of the religion in question. As a fundamental Christian, my authority is the Bible and I believe that it contains the fundamental truths of God, life and salvation.
In answer to your questions:
1. Women are active in the ministry of my church, but they cannot hold the offices of pastor or deacon. This is black-letter Bible, that both offices are reserved for men. Many protestant denominations do not follow that rule, which they are free to ignore. I would not belong to such a church, nor would I participate in a service featuring a female pastor.
2. In a Christian marriage, women are called to submit to their husbands, and men are expected to lead the household. But I'd say the pressure is actually on the man, as it is he who has the most difficult job. Here's what the husband is directed to do:
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husband ought to love their wives as their own bodies. ... However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians ch 6)
Wives are called to submit to their husbands as they do the Lord, and, in return, the husband must love his wife in the same measure as Jesus loves him.
What wife would not want a husband who loves her in such a Godly manner? What wife really wants a husband who will not lead and protect the family?
I also believe the linkage is so complete, that the violation of one part violates the other as well. If they both perform their roles, there will be a happy marriage; if not, there will not. No woman is required to submit blindly, against all reason, against all her Christian beliefs to a man who does not accept his responsibilities as well. The marriage must match the biblical ideal or the whole deal is off. Both husband and wife must fulfill their assigned roles, and must work as one flesh to do so.
As to equality, we need to remember that all men and women are equal in God's sight, and his love, though he does make distinction between the saved and the lost. For the saved, God sees them as his children; for the lost, he sees them all as under condemnation, but his free gift of eternal life is always held out to them.
Finally, I think the Biblical doctrines noted above are also rooted in our genetics. Examine the difference between the genders and you will start to see that they are designed for different things. Feminists used to claim that, aside from the sexual differences, men and women were the same. We now know that the claim is quite false, and men and women are genetically prepared for their roles in God's world. I'd suggest the book
Why Gender Matters, by Leonard Sax as a place to start if you are interested in that topic.
If you have any further questions, please let me know. Cordially, Skip.