aiki
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I personally don't think that's how it was meant to be, and I think we unduly suffer because of it. I think the church has abandoned us in this area.
I didn't marry 'til I was 39. Prior to my wife, I had not been in any serious romantic relationship with a woman. I have not kissed any woman (besides my mother and grandmother) other than my wife. So, from the time I was old enough to find sexual relations with a woman very desirable until the time I married, I had no romance at all with any woman. I'm a perfectly healthy male, however, and did not lack for interest in women. I wanted to be married very much. But I couldn't find a woman who really loved the Lord and who I found attractive and vice versa. I began to despair in my mid-thirties of ever being married. The prospect of being a perennial bachelor made me extremely unhappy. In the midst of my unhappiness and frustration, however, God confronted me: How could the God of the universe not be enough for me? If the Creator of Everything could not be enough, how could I expect a mere woman to satisfy me? I had told myself that my happiness hinged on being married, but God showed me that such thinking was exactly what would make me a very poor husband. I was deluding myself in thinking a relationship with another fallen, self-centered human could accomplish for me what a relationship with the perfect omnipotent God could not. My view of God was far too small and my relationship with Him showed it. When I realized these things, I began to invest in my relationship with God as I never had before. Eventually, the time came when I could honestly say that God was truly enough and that if I was to remain a bachelor for the rest of my days, I could be perfectly content to be so. And then, a year later, I was married. I don't think the order of events here was mere coincidence.
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