Cuckolds??

[GQ Chris]

Okay, so tell me how I'm being sexist and how I am coming off as offensive because the few who are really bothered are in the minority.

 

[GQ Chris]

I am engaged to be married, have never been married before, I have never cheated and as far as I know I have never been cheated on. So I don't fit your mold

But there's got to be some reason then as to why you are so bothered by this thread, because the majority of the people aren't bothered, the very few who are so bothered are trying to paint me as the bad guy.

 

[Hackett]

How do you continue on with a woman that does this? I personally couldn't.

Now that the discussion of the word and its origin has been handled....
The husband should behave the same way he would expect his wife to behave were the tables turned. Unfortunately, it is far more often that we hear of wives forgiving unfaithfulness than husbands. Of course, it may also be that men don't discuss it as openly.

 

[Linnis]

Are you really 30 years old? She's trying to point you out as the bad guy...oy...

I think she thinks you sound sexist because you seem unwilling to discuss cheating happens with both wives and husbands. You seem so focused on that word and the fact you couldn't forgive a woman if she cheated on you but you never explain why and so I understand why some are confused. This seems like a rather one sided conversation.

You couldn't accept a woman(your wife I'm assuming) for cheating on you, you could frogive but not accept and try to work past it so why do you need this thread. If you've mad up your mind, what's the point?

 

[GQ Chris]

Actually, I did earlier mention that I recognize the fact that both sexes cheat, but this thread was about cuckolds.

 

[Linnis]

For the love of mike, I think you just like using that word.

 

[llghoney]

I have already forgotten what the word means! Not really a part of my terminology!

 

[RooMama]

For the record, I've never cheated or been cheated on, but I find your repeated use of the word "cuckold" insensitive and offensive.

 

[4jacks]

the very few who are so bothered are trying to paint me as the bad guy.

first off, if you count the people telling you to stop saying cuckold it's not a few

Second, your actions are painting their own picture...

Third, I hope your not trying to imply that me or my wife have been unfaithful. Cuase that would be against the rules. Plus it would show that you have absolutely no clue what you are talking about or who you are talking to.

 

[GQ Chris]

Actually, I feel very attacked right now and am responding like someone cornered, so the more you guys keep throwing punches, the more I respond. And I already said in the beginning that I was not out to, nor did I intend to offend anyone, but a few of you keep coming back for more, hurling more attacks.. so who's the badguy here.

 

[llghoney]

IBTL!!!

Isn't this a christain forum & aren't we suppose to love our brothers & sisters!!!

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

I think she thinks you sound sexist because you seem unwilling to discuss cheating happens with both wives and husbands.

I've stayed out of this thread jes watchin the silly bickerin goin back an forth, I really don't see why some of the women folk are bent at the fact that men an women cheat an why it's bein hammered home so much, ok I understand that, both sexes cheat... but ummmm.... what's that got to do wit this particular thread bout cuckolds? Perhaps some direction in this thread to the OP topic is in order an enough of the silly fussin an what not.

To the OP, I git it, I understand what your sayin an I understand this particular thread is bout men who stay wit their wives after havin been cheated on, I don't find it sexiest... infact half the time I don't know what the word means but anyways. I've not been cheated on by my wife but have had it done wit girl friends an what not, some I stayed wit some I didn't, does it make a man any less of a man to stay wit a wife who cheated on em? No an I personnaly think it takes more of a man to stay wit a wife that cheated then to bail out cause the waters got rough, each to his own though.

The reason we are given the choice to divorce is because God said, we are a stiff necked people.

[BIBLE]Matthew 19:8[/BIBLE]

We demand it an God in His mercy gives it to us, but it's not sumthin He wants, it's not His wish that any marriage should break up because one fails. We are married to God in a sense right now, an boy howdy I'm glad He doesn't divorce us anytime we totally tank it. It's through His forgiveness that gives us the ability to forgive a spouse, sure trust is broken feelins are hurt the world goes to hell in a hand basket when sumthin like this happens, an if you maintain that you by yoursef could not er would not forgive a spouse for such a thin that's your buisness but bare in mind, if you don't forgive, neither will God. An if you hold onto such feelins of hurt etc were it to happen to you, then you'd not only hurt yoursef but all those round you as well. That's why we're sposed to let go of these sorta thins an give em to God.

[BIBLE]Matthew 6:14-15[/BIBLE]

Through all the hollarin goin on in here I really don't know what your lookin for as responses I've gotten lost through em all, but I think if'n I recall you said sumthin to the effect, how does one do it? How does a man stay wit a wife that has cheated. To me it's simple, he loves er enough to work through the difficulties, he relies on God to heal his hurt an to give em the ability to forgive his spouse. Is it his choice to bail out? Sure... but like I said it's not God's will for any marriage to end in divorce.

[BIBLE]Matthew 19:6[/BIBLE]

 

[Linnis]

He said he can forgive but not accept being cheated on, so what if there really to discuss?

 

[Leanna]

Yeah, really..... Chris just take care of your kids and don't dare use this as an excuse to not do so. It would be a shame to let your own issues hurt a child's young life and future.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

Hmm.... I must be missin sumthin altogeather here.... what's wit the ^ post? Did I miss a post in this thread that has sumthin to do wit the OP's kids? Gonna go re-read em, but I don't recall seein anythin like that here, are you talkin bout another thread?

 

[Leanna]

He had two threads called "cuckolds" which is exactly what I have been talking about.... I'll see if I can find it for you

 

[Leanna]

http://www.christianforums.com/t2345855-the-pain-of-cuckoldry.html

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

Ahh... I'm not sure we're sposed to talk bout 'other' threads like that really, I got nailed to the wall last year for that one, not to sure though. But maybe that's what I'm missin here in that this is another thread bout the same topic er sumthin.

 

[Leanna]

See link above. I think that would be true if it werent the exact same subject by the exact same user. I don't think double threads are allowed either in the same area, marriage ministry

 

[GQ Chris]

Well the first one I posted in the singles, but then I posted in the marriage ministry because someone said it was more appropriate there.