With feminism in the mix, a woman can take it on herself that she is "called". But if she is not called, she will be found out. Jesus guarantees us that if we learn to obey Him, "you will find rest for your souls." (in Matthew 11:28-30) I know there are a number of "called" women who have personality problems and not "rest for your souls", and they are stressed and burnt out. So, also are certain men who have taken on their own selves, that they are "called".
1 Timothy 3:1-10 gives what qualifies a man to be considered to "take care of the church of God". I notice how this is a family man; so I consider that his wife has been his helpmate . . . to help him get real with God and find out how to relate in their marriage and care for their children . . . while he has gotten his so needed correction (Hebrews 12:4-11) which has made him become "blameless", the way God's love makes us blameless with maturity. Therefore, his lady is essential to him becoming qualified to care for God's people.
He becomes "blameless", so he can help any married or single person, at all, as an individual with God. And he has hands-on experience with how God has corrected and matured him for caring for a marriage and family. And his wife, therefore, is included in his example > 1 Peter 5:3 < therefore . . . again . . . she is this essential.
Our basic calling is not only to serve Jesus. Jesus chose his twelve, "that they might be with Him and that He might send them out to preach," we have in Mark 3:14. So, our basic Christian calling includes first to be with our Groom Jesus, for sharing in sensitive intimacy with Him in His own love.
And we are called to share with one another in this love of Jesus who is "gentle and lowly in heart" (Matthew 11:28-30 >
"with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)
And we are all called . . . "in one body", our Apostle Paul does say > to be personally ruled - - - in our "hearts" - - - by God's own peace >
"And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful." (Colossians 3:15)
So, being "called" is not only about being a public minister or servant. I suspect there are people who take on themselves a ministry or service but do not even get started in how we share with Jesus, each "one spirit with Him" (1 Corinthians 6:17). And then they are controlling and rolling . . . like the men they want to be equal to!!
So, be careful about who you want to be equal to; because you could become like that person in order to have what he or she has. There are people who are big-name show-piece administrators who can speak, who can preach. And they impress people, so that ones of them want to become like them. And as they get into the controlling and rolling which can get them up there, they are not learning how to personally relate in love >
"with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love," (Ephesians 4:2)
"tenderhearted" > Ephesians 4:31-32, 1 Peter 3:8-9.
Anyone can learn how to get along with others who want the same thing, by the way. And we see how this can turn out, with code of silence and cover-ups, in various groups and professions. For Paul and Silvanus and Timothy, ministry was not an isolation with birds of their own feather >
"But we were gentle among you, just as a nursing mother cherishes her own children." (1 Thessalonians 2:7)
So, I see they were relating as family, very dear and intimate together . . . not making Paul and Silvanus and Timothy distant and separate. These were men, relating "as a nursing mother" . . . according to my translation
Also, note 1 Thessalonians 2:11.
Therefore, could we say that the Holy Spirit is able to have male ministers ministering in the best ways that both mothers and fathers care for their children? I see how there were mature senior ladies who were role models for how Paul and Silvanus and Timothy related in their ministering. So, yes those women were ministering, by their example through our Apostle Paul and Silvanus and Timothy ! ! !
Possibly, those ladies stayed with caring for children and young mothers, but their example taught even Paul more than any amount of preaching and revelation could.