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And you appear to be the champion to insist I fit into something that would work for most, but wouldn't necessarily given circumstances. Also, that's bit of a backhanded "compliment" Suggesting I just go into something and disregarding other factors that would make it difficult is putting a square peg in a round hole and expecting it to fit.By allowing your life to go to hours that they are not awake or available, you have chosen to not be available to "be close" or even interact with them. If you want to be independent, you need to change to dayshift hours because that is where the majority of jobs are...and the jobs that are night shift are not really practical for a person who walks in a less than safe area (though my brother did it for years). Also, if you want to interact with your parents, you need to be available when they are available. They can't change their jobs to suit your personal desires...especially, since those jobs are not luxury items but the real life reason that your electric bill gets paid and food gets put in the kitchen.
You are the champion for making excuses on why you are not able to this or that. Too bad you don't bother to turn some of that energy to trying to actually solve some of your problems. You don't seem to get that you can actually sit next to your mom and fold towels even if you do your own laundry at a different time.
At my house we also do our own laundry...but if you want to see me smile, it is when someone even just folds the towels that seem to fall under my "chores" because I am the "mom". Other items, include when they clean the bathroom or put away the clean dishes so I don't have to do that. Guess what? Completing the chores that I am normally stuck with opens up time to do other things...including spending time with my kids or going places with them. (WOW...moms have needs too and don't really enjoy doing all the chores they do without complaining...) And trust me, I am a lot less likely to want to spend time with my kids if I am feeling taken advantage of. (However, note, my adult kids do most of the grocery shopping and run errands without a complaint for me all the time...which I really appreciate because my job is seriously exhausting - mentally and physically).
Not sure where I'm implying I expect them to change their schedules, it's as much that we've drifted apart and I don't know where to start in regards to that, since such a thing would require group therapy of some kind, most likely
I don't know when she's folding laundry, you keep assuming we're close in that sense, but if we were, it wouldn't be the situation it is.
Wow, let's just assume someone's being intentionally malicious or spiteful about something rather than it being a matter of communication in some meaningful sense
So much of this can just as much boil down to, if you had more information, essentially putting the blame more on my parents in terms of how they've treated me, or at the very least, split the responsibility to both sides rather than reducing this to just me, even if I fully admit I contribute to it in some fashion.
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