29 & Never Dated

[trophy33]

It makes me want to even give up on God or Christianity, except for the only other alternative is Hell and eternal damnation. Which is why I wish or like to think that God has some kind of console for me and other people like me that struggled in a certain area.

Actually, the alternative to bad women of today is to have no woman and to be single, to be free and to live an exciting, rich life without all these worries and problems women bring.

You have so much more time, energy, money and opporutunities, without them. Use it.

Not sure how God relates to it. For example the apostle Paul saw marriage as some kind of a necessary evil, if you burn with sexual passions, nothing more.
And his standards he set for a marriage are impossible to have with todays entitled, overeducated, overpriced, overweight, competitive, self-delusional women. Be glad that you are single. You are free of many problems and stress.

 

[pc_76]

Actually, the alternative to bad women of today is to have no woman and to be single, to be free and to live an exciting, rich life without all these worries and problems women bring.

You have so much more time, energy, money and opporutunities, without them. Use it.

Not sure how God relates to it. For example the apostle Paul saw marriage as some kind of a necessary evil, if you burn with sexual passions, nothing more.
And his standards he set for a marriage are impossible to have with todays entitled, overeducated, overpriced, overweight, competitive, self-delusional women. Be glad that you are single. You are free of many problems and stress.

What about yesteryear when the women weren't usually the way you mentioned?

 

[trophy33]

What about yesteryear when the women weren't usually the way you mentioned?

Well, we cannot return to past and find a woman there... so, we must find our way in today's world.

There are still some decent women suitable for marriage, probably (I do not know any), but they are so rare that, there is practically no statistical chance most of us will get them.
So we should leave dating and invest our time and money into something else.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

For the virgin "waiting game" for until marriage, keep in mind that even if you do eventually get married, you will most likely not get to be anybody's "first". And I know I am going to get a lot of hate on this, but I do believe that men experience this issue disproportionately more than women in the same stage.

Well, chances are, if you weren't someone's "first", like say you'd be husband #2 to a woman that's been divorced...it's not necessarily a BAD thing as opposed to a woman that had laid with many men, relationship hopping.

 

[bèlla]

According to Waiting Till Marriage, an organization that supports abstinence before marriage, around three percent of the United States population waits until they are married to have sex. While it's true that this percentage is small compared to those who don't wait, there's still around ten million "waiters" right here in America. —The List

US Population: 330,206,803 — rounded to 330,207,000
Virgins: 9,906,210 — rounded to 9,906,000
198,124 possibilities per state.

 

[trophy33]

According to Waiting Till Marriage, an organization that supports abstinence before marriage, around three percent of the United States population waits until they are married to have sex. While it's true that this percentage is small compared to those who don't wait, there's still around ten million "waiters" right here in America. —The List

US Population: 330,206,803 — rounded to 330,207,000
Virgins: 9,906,210 — rounded to 9,906,000
198,124 possibilities per state.

I wonder how many of those US virgins are actually attractive females suitable for a life-long relationship with a "normal guy". I think most of them are males, anyway.

 

[pc_76]

I am feeling existentially angry and depressed right now (doesn't have only to do with the dating issue). I just wish God will get it over with and put me out of this society if his plan is to fulfill the "end of the world" soon. I don't want to be alive to see the level of suffering and persecution the prophecy describes. And people think this is a good thing from God?

 

[trophy33]

I don't want to be alive to see the level of suffering and persecution the prophecy describes. And people think this is a good thing from God?

If the current evangelical view of eschatology gives you an anxiety, takes your energy to live away and does not make any sense to you (which is what I got from your post), try to look at preterism.

 

[( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)]

If the current evangelical view of eschatology gives you an anxiety, takes your energy to live away and does not make any sense to you (which is what I got from your post), try to look at preterism.

Things are going to happen just as God has explained in His word regardless. So why don't you tell people to look to Jesus thru it all? Peoples hearts are going to be failing them as time goes on and things get worse. That's why it's pertinent we pray and abide in Him.

 

[trophy33]

Things are going to happen just as God has explained in His word regardless. So why don't you tell people to look to Jesus thru it all? Peoples hearts are going to be failing them as time goes on and things get worse. That's why it's pertinent we pray and abide in Him.

Fear sells. I understand.

 

[EpicScore]

According to Waiting Till Marriage, an organization that supports abstinence before marriage, around three percent of the United States population waits until they are married to have sex. While it's true that this percentage is small compared to those who don't wait, there's still around ten million "waiters" right here in America. —The List

US Population: 330,206,803 — rounded to 330,207,000
Virgins: 9,906,210 — rounded to 9,906,000
198,124 possibilities per state.

Those numbers don't really work since they took data from the entire population of the country rather than the population of people who are avaiable for courting/dating/marriage. More than half of that 10 million people are probably either already married, underaged, or have incompatible gender and/or sexual orientation to those seeking to find a mate.

 

[Sketcher]

Those numbers don't really work since they took data from the entire population of the country rather than the population of people who are avaiable for courting/dating/marriage. More than half of that 10 million people are probably either already married, underaged, or have incompatible gender and/or sexual orientation to those seeking to find a mate.

Table 2 will provide a column of Never Marrieds for Male and Female, by age group if you want to do some math.
Age and Sex Composition in the United States: 2019
It doesn't take sexual orientation into account, but it's a start.

 

[DragonFox91]

I never make any progress.

 

[DragonFox91]

I feel lonely & hopeless today

 

[GospelS]

I never make any progress.

I feel lonely & hopeless today

His eye is on the sparrow and He is watching you!!

He is alive. He is good. He is your progress. He is with you. He is your hope. He is enough. He is real. He gave His everything. His very life for you. It hurts Him you say that.

Rejoice and be in awe! You have life and you get to love Him and know Him more. Do what Paul and Silas did when they were put in prison. All your chains will break and leave you.

 

[DragonFox91]

His eye is on the sparrow and He is watching you!!

He is alive. He is good. He is your progress. He is with you. He is your hope. He is enough. He is real. He gave His everything. His very life for you. It hurts Him you say that.

Rejoice and be in awe! You have life and you get to love Him and know Him more. Do what Paul and Silas did when they were put in prison. All your chains will break and leave you.

It hurts today.
I am sad.
I spin my wheels around & around.

 

[DragonFox91]

I feel like a loser. What else would you call someone who lost at their dream?

 

[GospelS]

I feel like a loser. What else would you call someone who lost at their dream?

Live for Jesus. There's no bigger dream. Nothing that you do for Christ will be lost. We lose when we live for ourselves and don't know the power and the love of God.

 

[DragonFox91]

Live for Jesus. There's no bigger dream. Nothing that you do for Christ will be lost. We lose when we live for ourselves and don't know the power and the love of God.

How do I do that?

 

[pc_76]

If the cultural and economic changes didn't occur over the last 50 years and our culture still hung on to the old standards for marriage and family, it would be less of an issue especially for men. Now that these shifts did occur and marriage is broken as an institution, what options are left? Its like suffering for years and years for a healing that might not even come or just come in a radically different thing that can't be comprehended at all.

I'd like to think God has some console for those who are struggling like me that is not just "Don't worry, you'll love everyone and you'll be happy" or any other stock or platitude kind of remark. If not, then frankly God may not be as worthy of praise and worship as many Christians believe he is.