Juan777
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I browsed through this thread and read some of the advice that has been shared. I think that you are being too hard on yourself and feeling shame about your lack of experiences. The shame can be crippling. There is really no reason to feel embarrassed. I think the shame is holding you back. You are not a " loser," because of your relationship status.
As a Christian woman, I have never cared about a guy's lack of dating experience. If he is secure in himself and doesn't make it an issue, it isn't an issue for me. I would be far more concerned about a guy who was sleeping around with women to validate his manhood ( as was pretty much suggested by one in this thread). The worst thing you can ever do as a Christian man ( or woman ) is to give yourself to immorality to impress others. What have you gained then? Even if you should impress a few foolish women, you could end up throwing away your own soul.
Not to mention that the quality of those relationships ( with those who are impressed by immorality ) will be very poor.
Instead of allowing your mind to dwell on negative, hopeless thoughts that are not based in truth, I would seek God for help and wisdom in this area. Also, I would try to take practical steps to work on communication skills, etc and give yourself a plan for putting yourself out there
The brother Christian incels on here are not concerned about sleeping around with women to validate manhood. We are concerned that we are not talking to any single women in the first place or there are no healthy social interactions period. For example, my only contact with a real live woman is my mother. Nobody else. It's the lack of social interaction, period, that makes one feel like a loser or just sick.
No Christian incel on here is interested in giving themselves to immorality because that requires a woman to like them in the first place. However, with the prevelence of the internet, and the temptations that come with having access to the internet, specially in a vacuum of not interacting with any women, temptions for the brother Christian incel lie in secret sins and vices that can rare its ugly head. That's why it's very important to bring these types of secret sins to the forefront of this discussions. Apart from this, the Christian incel might think about visiting a prostitute (ie as they don't have to like you and are just taking your money) as a passing thought, but that has been discussed also in this thread as a VERY BAD IDEA, so all bases have been covered.
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