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Some of this I agree with (the reasoning), some of this I don't (the overall negative no-hope attitude). In regards to your little analogy: you wait for the bicycle. .___.The only advice I can give you, coming out from the same boat, is to go out and try to find girls who will sleep with you. You will have to forget the part "being pure", because in today's materialistic world (a world that lacks morality) the mass population doesn't care about your morals or mine, especially women. Things have been twisted a long time ago, good is bad and bad is good. Christian men don't date christian women and vice versa, it's only a small percentage that does. If you believe in the old fairy tail that God has someone "special" for you, then you've been lied to by the mass like many have been.
Let me give you an example, you want a bicycle, but you don't have money to buy that bicycle, and you're in a dilemma (tempted) whether you should steal the bicycle or wait in "God's time" for you to make money and buy yourself a new one. So what do you do when you have been poor your whole life? Do you still wait for a job to buy yourself a new bicycle or steal it? If you wait, you will only get tormented like you have been before and you won't know whether you will find a job to buy a bicycle or stay poor your whole life living with a false hope that you will someday get a bicycle.
It's the same with men and women. What are you going to do? Still keep waiting for God to gift you a woman from the heavens or are you going to make a sacrifice in order things to finally work out? For you to find a woman?
The only price you will have to pay is sacrificing your own emotions, that means by the time you will find the girl, your heart will be turned to stone, just like many. Both of you will be together because of some emotion, something that connects both but neither of you cannot experience what a virgin couple would experience in their life long marriage.
Maybe the first woman you will sleep with will be the "one", although the chances are 0.1% to none. Date a few and make sure you sleep with them. So you can gather experience on how to talk, flirt and sexually arouse women.
I don't know about the others what answers they have given you, but I can assume it's the "God has someone special for you, you just have to wait". Leave that nonsense behind.
One thing I can tell you is that, for a guy, if you come from a normal, healthy, caring, loving family, then you won't have many problems in your life, especially dating. But that's the case with many men. For women it's easy to find a man, even if they're "depressed, and in despair" saying "I will never get married, I will never find a man" in the end they always find a man.
You should also take into consideration that social media has ruined the dating market. Just leave it behind, don't watch it, don't have any thing what's said on social media on your mind.
It's hard in the beginning to notice the little things in dating, and I know, but that will pass quickly when you get experience. It's like any existing job that you don't know what the heck is going on prior to having no experience. And when you get experience, you're like "oh this it's easy".
Also I don't think I'd want to just sleep w/ any girl. I know a lot of men have that view but I do not. If there's not any meaning to it, it's just a waste of time, you might as well just watch a good movie or read a good book for something.
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