Women attend church in greater numbers than men. Especially when they’re younger. Socialization usually happens in classes and small groups. There’s not a lot of opportunity during the service. If they don’t participate in activities for singles (if they’re available) or events for both there’s less options for engagement.
A lot of people go to church and leave afterward or they’re involved in activities and ministries beyond its walls. They may go to a small group elsewhere that suits their needs. Or serve in a capacity that isn’t offered in their church.
For example, the college and twenties group at my former church met in the evening during the week. But the others met on Sunday. Our women’s study met in the morning during the week. There was another on a different day in the evening and one after service. You’ve gotta have the numbers to accommodate the realities of different schedules.
Agreed. It appears that @DragonFox91 has tried this but there are simply more guys in these activities. I'm 46 years old so I'm probably out of range since most singles activities are geared to young adults. I was actually kicked out of one back in 2013 and I was 37 years old at that time.
bella said:Dating apps and sites didn’t remove anyone from church. They started using them because the pool is larger. You’re no longer limited to the people in your environment. You can meet others in your vicinity or elsewhere willing to move.
Most people in the demographic under discussion are looking online. That’s their primary source for connections. The rest are maybes. There’s no guarantee they’ll meet someone they’re interested in.
If there was no Internet most of you would be married or en route. Because there’s less to choose from. You don’t know what you’re missing and take what’s available. But the net feeds the grass is greener syndrome. There’s always something better and that’s what many are chasing. Their ideal.
Agreed, but I would put a qualification. Most guys are not meeting women online but are getting ignored. If a guy is not married it's because he's not meeting anyone period, not because there is too much choice. I think perhaps that the types of guys that women are meeting online are probably very attractive and are not the types that would want to commit or settle down. This leads to a distortion of reality that leaves most guys, like the OP out, who would like to meet someone and get married. It it was more equitable then there would be more marriages.