29 & Never Dated

[ThisIsMe123]

This may be true but it's just plain rude.

Yeah rude, but...it's perception. People look at me odd and wonder why I never got married. Same wheel house.

 

[DragonFox91]

I haven't tried dating sites in 2 years. They are completely worthless for me. Apparently that's how you get girls now but I never got anything.

If you're still a virgin or haven't been "close" with a woman by that age, you're seen by other women as flawed or there must be something mentally wrong with you that you may actually be doing something to turn women off.

Women don't know you're a virgin. But if a girl were to find that out, & if a girl thinks that, she isn't worth it. You're right, tho, a lot of girls will think that. But you don't want that kind. One problem is since less girls are virgins, more will think that.

Why do you care so much about a girls virginity? Single guys place so much value on it, but it doesn't really mean anything. All it means is there's probably less of a chance she shares my value system & that's important to me. If a girl doesn't see a point in being godly in that regard, what other areas might she not be? Is she biblical? Is she even trying? It's scary.

 

[trophy33]

Actually, a lot of women are no longer traditional in their thinking as they've become more indepedent and don't have any real use for men anymore. They are more self-sufficient than ever, some have even opted out of not only marriage, but having a man in their lives (romantically) whatsoever. The drive isn't there for some of them.

Its easy for women to be self-sufficient in 20's and early 30's.

In 40's, they seem to panic, though, if still without a family.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Its easy for women to be self-sufficient in 20's and early 30's.

In 40's, they seem to panic, though, if still without a family.

Meh, 20s, not so much. Most are living with their parents or numerous room mates until their mid 20s.

 

[DragonFox91]

There should be bigger frustrations in regards to this than a girl's virginity. Like finding a girl who's actually not insane for starters. & 1/2 way compatible. (although it seems the 2 go hand-in-hand w/ virginity).

I've heard it before (on here maybe?) Most girls aren't even worth dating.

 

[DragonFox91]

The Living Arrangements Of People Aged 25-34 Have Changed Drastically Since The 60s - Digg

 

[tobyw]

I am 29 & never dated. I have always wanted GF but fail every time. Does anyone have any advice or can offer insight? It hurts. Today I feel like crying.

Here's my opinion: Nobody's sad because they don't have a partner. People are sad because they think they need something they don't have. It's a matter of perception. For example, we are raised with ideals about what a happy life looks like; when our lives don't match this ideal, we feel sad, like we're losers or something. It's all in the mind. Garbage in, garbage out. There's no reason why being single should, in itself, cause sadness. We live in a society (lol) that is constantly telling you that happiness is one more purchase away, one more experience away, etc. Don't fall for the carrot on the stick.

This all said, when you say you "fail"... do you mean you got rejected? You should know that there are a lot of reasons why a person might turn you down for a date, and many of them might not even have anything to do with you. What a person finds attractive is subjective, they may have other things in their life they want to focus on, etc. The way a person reacts says at least as much about them as about you, if not more. Be wary of leaping to conclusions in the way you interpret a rejection.

Again, everything I've said are just my opinions. I can't cite anything to support them, so take it with a grain of salt. If you feel you need professional help or counselling, I'd recommend seeking that before taking too much advice from online forums.

 

[MehGuy]

I feel like both sexes are increasingly becoming less satisfied with the dating choices they have. Many factors are in play. More women are getting college degrees compared to men, leading to women having better economic prospects. While both sexes are gaining weight, women are more likely to be in the severe obesity category compared to men and women's sexual market value is based heavier on looks compared to men. Coupled with the fact that women are waiting longer to get married when their youthful glow has faded or is rapidly fading away.

This is a recipe for disaster. One cannot blame one side; it is much more complex. Both sexes are failing at their masculinity and femininity respectively. Men and women are looking at their dating prospects with smiles quickly turning into frowns, lol.

What does a man have to look forward too? Settling down with an overweight old woman who looks down on him because she makes more money than he does? Likewise, is a woman going to be happy being with a man she knows deep down doesn't view her as pretty and thus is less motivated to want to provide and protect for her? Assuming he actually has the means, which is increasingly less likely, lol.

I do wonder what impact this will cause on society. I've read men put more into the tax system and use fewer social services compared to women. With more and more men opting out of going into higher education and wanting to get married and become fathers; this might make for some interesting future economic consequences. A nation with unstable family structures and more single mothers cannot be a good thing, no matter what a feminist might claim, lol.

 

[tobyw]

Edit. I think married couples could probably give a better response based on their real world experience than I can.

 

[MehGuy]

edit.. I guess I won't continue this conversation either.

 

[angelsaroundme]

 

[trophy33]

...leading to women having better economic prospects...
... an overweight old woman who looks down on him because she makes more money than he does...

vs.

I've read men put more into the tax system and use fewer social services compared to women

 

[christiansoccerplayer]

If you're still a virgin or haven't been "close" with a woman by that age, you're seen by other women as flawed or there must be something mentally wrong with you that you may actually be doing something to turn women off.

That might explain why I'm single and have not tried too hard to get a date since 2009. Since I'm 44 and never even had a serious relationship, lol

 

[ReesePiece23]

No one actually needs to know you're a virgin anyway. It's irrelevant for so many reasons - PLUS, when the moment happens with the right person, the inner instincts take over and you'll naturally do all of the right things. Dopamine is a super power in that regard.

In the dating stages, it's absolutely no one's business. Any Christian worth their salt should know better than to judge your worth on it. Whether virgin, divorced, or otherwise.

 

[MehGuy]

I'm sorry for my rude post. I've tried to clamp down on such behavior. I just wandered to some bad portions of the internet where they were making fun of short men and I wanted to let off steam.

 

[Somber]

I'm sorry for my rude post. I've tried to clamp down on such behavior. I just wandered to some bad portions of the internet where they were making fun of short men and I wanted to let off steam.

I don't understand why anyone would make fun of short men, some parts of the internet are so annoying, makes me so sad when I see it. To me height has never affected my interest in someone.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

I don't understand why anyone would make fun of short men, some parts of the internet are so annoying, makes me so sad when I see it. To me height has never affected my interest in someone.

Well, if short men aren't being made fun of, there are a lot of single women out there that find height being an important physical factor in a partner.

 

[trophy33]

Well, if short men aren't being made fun of, there are a lot of single women out there that find height being an important physical factor in a partner.

Sure. Height, weight, income, hair, teeth, clothes, car, house...

Even totally average women chase after/respond only to the top 5% of men. Its backed up by dating apps data.

Therefore there is no meaning in being on a dating app, for average guys. You will get no response or just one word responses.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Sure. Height, weight, income, hair, teeth, clothes, car, house...

Even totally average women chase after/respond only to the top 5% of men. Its backed up by dating apps data.

Therefore there is no meaning in being on a dating app, for average guys. You will get no response or just one word responses.

Exactly, there's this hefty gal on a local social media singles group that has all these expectations in a guy, including that he be handsome...and I'm looking at her and thinking (has she looked in a mirror lately?) Best that she stay in her own lane.

 

[trophy33]

Exactly, there's this hefty gal on a local social media singles group that has all these expectations in a guy, including that he be handsome...and I'm looking at her and thinking (has she looked in a mirror lately?) Best that she stay in her own lane.

Thats because today's young women in the West grew up hearing "you are special and you deserve only the best". Nobody tells them truth until its late for them.