It's in your control though, man. That's the point. You can't force somebody to date you, of course, but you can do those things that make you happy or otherwise feel like you are doing something with your life, even if you're doing it alone. And focusing so much on your relationship status doesn't seem like it's bringing you happiness anyway, so what do you have to lose by not doing that?
Also, I'm not sure exactly how to put this, so I'm going to try to tread carefully, but please, try to consider this in a helpful fashion: Since you are 29 and have not ever dated, it is
not unlikely that you have built up in your mind an idea of what being in a relationship is like that would be very hard to maintain if you were to actually get into one. I'm not going to say anything one way or another as to how you
should think of relationships, only that the idea that getting into one is by the very act of doing so some kind of life-changing thing that will make you feel like a winner or whatever might not actually pan out that way in reality. Can romantic relationships be really great? Absolutely. But honestly, my last one ended three years ago because by a certain point we just sort of looked at each other and said "I don't think there's anything here, actually. This is kinda boring. Wanna just be friends?" And actually since then, it's been really awesome! That's not without its complications, either, but on the whole I think we like each other a lot more as friends than we ever did as romantic partners. That can happen, too, though to be honest this is the only time "Let's just be friends" has ever actually worked out that way for me (I don't know exactly how she feels about it, but usually "We can stay friends" is the last thing you hear before you
never hear from them again...hahahaha
).
Anyway, point is, part of learning to not feel so bad about where you are in your romantic life (or I suppose anywhere else in your life, either) is to not build it up too much. I'd love to have someone to come over (after covid!) and watch movies, or listen to music, or watch Jeopardy together (wow...I really
am boring, maybe; whatever...any girl who is not down with Jeopardy is not for me anyway
), but my life isn't ruined because I don't have that right now, or haven't had it in a few years. Not having that doesn't make me a loser. In fact, in a lot of ways, my life is better, or at least less complicated, for not having that: I don't have to walk around on eggshells to avoid someone else's bad mood; I can go anywhere and do anything and I don't have to 'check in' with anybody or get anyone's permission first; if I want to blast the greatest hits of the 1970s because I'm feeling like enjoying some Stevie Wonder or Gerry Rafferty or whoever at maximum volume just because, then the only people I have to contend with are my neighbors, and if they don't like it they can turn down the Bollywood music coming from their place! Or turn it up, cos some of that is great, too!
People are lovely, but so is the freedom to be your own person. Ideally you'd find someone who accepts all your quirks, but in practice there's often a lot of accommodation that goes on, at least on some level.
