Why do christian women only want tall guys?

VCR-2000 said:

If God isn't a cosmic tease, then why are we allowed to be alive on this planet and desiring something so bad that isn't really for us, with the implication that you will never ever be allowed to have it, even in paradise. Allowing somebody to have an existence of wanting something very much but not having it fulfilled sounds like teasing to me.

It isn't fair, it makes a lot of what you said above irrelevant.

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The survival of the species. Sexual desires must be very strong (similarly to self preservation and thirst/hunger) for the species to survive.

It may be seen in teenagers and younger adults, who do not have the rational part of brain developed enough, that this primitive, deep instinct manipulates them heavily. After 30's, its much easier to manage.

Not everything is about us as individuals (American style of thinking). Many things are about us as a species. Its given to (almost) all individuals to be driven to compete for mating, while they are young and fertile. In this way, the genes of the best quality will reproduce. Its really quite simple.

If you want to mate, but you are left behind in this competition, you simply lost in this specific biological/mating game, but it has no theological significance (like God teasing you). Such thinking is too self-centered.

VCR-2000 said:

If God isn't a cosmic tease, then why are we allowed to be alive on this planet and desiring something so bad that isn't really for us, with the implication that you will never ever be allowed to have it, even in paradise. Allowing somebody to have an existence of wanting something very much but not having it fulfilled sounds like teasing to me.

It isn't fair, it makes a lot of what you said above irrelevant.

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What makes you feel certain that you what you desire "isn't really for you"? Not only today, right now, but ever, for the rest of your life?

DragonFox91 said:

A possible lead I have is a few inches taller.

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Should I even bother? I do see some relationships where the woman is taller.

myst33 said:

The survival of the species. Sexual desires must be very strong (similarly to self preservation and thirst/hunger) for the species to survive.

It may be seen in teenagers and younger adults, who do not have the rational part of brain developed enough, that this primitive, deep instinct manipulates them heavily. After 30's, its much easier to manage.

Not everything is about us as individuals (American style of thinking). Many things are about us as a species. Its given to (almost) all individuals to be driven to compete for mating, while they are young and fertile. In this way, the genes of the best quality will reproduce. Its really quite simple.

If you want to mate, but you are left behind in this competition, you simply lost in this specific biological/mating game, but it has no theological significance (like God teasing you). Such thinking is too self-centered.

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AhhhhhH! This is what I don't like. This is the 'it's a numbers game,
some people are better than you b/c they got better genes, they can date & get married & you never will b/c you are not good enough.' Bad! This is NOT a Biblical perspective. It DOES have a theological
signifance b/c it means some people are in fact better. It also means some people are born mistakes or accidents. Not true!

Also I am in my 30s. I pray the want doesn't go away

DragonFox91 said:

AhhhhhH! This is what I don't like. This is the 'it's a numbers game,
some people are better than you b/c they got better genes, they can date & get married & you never will b/c you are not good enough.' Bad! This is NOT a Biblical perspective. It DOES have a theological
signifance b/c it means some people are in fact better. It also means some people are born mistakes or accidents. Not true!

Also I am in my 30s. I pray the want doesn't go away

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Its not only about health/genes. Its also about social situation, if one is an extrovert or introvert, about the specific culture/place etc. The mating game is composed of many variables.

Biblical perspective is "do not look for a wife", but its not a sin if you will marry. If you will marry, you will have more troubles with life. However, Bible does not care if specifically you will have children or not. The human population is growing, anyway. No individual is as important as he thinks.

myst33 said:

Its not only about health/genes. Its also about social situation, if one is an extrovert or introvert, about the specific culture/place etc. The mating game is composed of many variables.

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That means it's an accident & a roll of the dice & not annything you nor God can control. No, that is wrong\\

myst33 said:

No individual is as important as he thinks.

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Wrong. Everyone has value to at least one other person

DragonFox91 said:

That means it's an accident & a roll of the dice & not annything you nor God can control. No, that is wrong

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No, it does not mean that. Wrong conclusion.

myst33 said:

No, it does not mean that. Wrong conclusion.

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I concluded that based off youre dealt different variables

DragonFox91 said:

I concluded that based off youre dealt different variables

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I figured. But its a wrong conclusion. Many variables does not mean "its totally out of our control" or "its random" etc.

Competition in mating is a very effective strategy for the development of species. We are all descendants of successful lineages of humans.

myst33 said:

I figured. But its a wrong conclusion. Many variables does not mean "its totally out of our control" or "its random" etc.

Competition in mating is a very effective strategy for the development of species. We are all descendants of successful lineages of humans.

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No, that is not Biblical, nor even from a look outside your window perspeecctive

DragonFox91 said:

No, that is not Biblical.

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A mobile phone is also not biblical, but it still exists. Not everything must be explicitly mentioned in the Bible.

myst33 said:

A mobile phone is also not biblical, but it still exists. Not everything must be explicitly mentioned in the Bible.

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It should be obvious from reading the Bible & your every day life that just b/c someone 'mated', that doesn't mean they were successful, even from a secularist 'pass on your genes' mentality: b/c rapists can do that too.

DragonFox91 said:

It should be obvious from reading the Bible & your every day life that just b/c someone 'mated', that doesn't mean they were successful, even from a secularist 'pass on your genes' mentality: b/c rapists can do that too.

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Successful from the biological point of view. Not from a moral point of view. Most mating/dating and most sexual intercourse is quite immoral and shallow, from the Christian perspective, in fact.

myst33 said:

Successful from the biological point of view. Not from a moral point of view. Most mating/dating and most sexual intercourse is quite immoral and shallow, from the Christian perspective, in fact.

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I would be extremely hesitant in using the word successful you tossed around like you believe that's a real measure of success, But I am well aware that's the word secularists use.

DragonFox91 said:

I would be extremely hesitant in using the word successful. But I am well aware that's the word secularists use.

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I am not sure why to divide people to secularists or non secularists regarding how species procreate and grow their populations. Its more about facts vs romantic fictions.

myst33 said:

I am not sure why to divide people to secularists or non secularists regarding how species procreate and grow their populations. Its more about facts vs romantic fictions.

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Post 114. Clearly there's a moral & secularist perspective.

Do you really want to be with the secularists lumping rapists in w/ successful? That is what you are doing.

DragonFox91 said:

Post 114. Clearly there's a moral & non secularist perspective.

Do you really want to be with the secularists lumping rapists in w/ successful? That is what you are doing.

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What? You are not making sense anymore.

Do you understand the difference between facts and wishes? Between "this is how the world is" vs "this is how I wish the world to be"?

myst33 said:

What? You are not making sense anymore.

Do you understand the difference between facts and wishes? Between "this is how the world is" vs "this is how I wish the world to be"?

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"this is how the world is" = rapists aren't successful = FACT

DragonFox91 said:

"this is how the world is" = rapists aren't successful = FACT

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I find it weird that you started to mention rapists in every post. What is your point?

myst33 said:

I find it weird that you started to mention rapists in every post. What is your point?

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It makes you uncomfortable because you know it's a wrong perspective & you have that perspective.