The linked article said very clearly that: "for all those years, Frers said her husband abused her—physically, sexually, emotionally, and spiritually."
ok, then divorce him. But only on the grounds of physical or domestic violence. Emotional abuse is not a grounds of divorce unfortunately, but grounds for separation and counseling. In which case she did not trust the pastor it sounds. But what I am wondering now is if she refused sex for ten years and you just have one ticked off husband. But I don't know the situation. But when people hurt other people it's rarely completely isolated, and is from some inward trauma. If he was violent, it could be due to alcohol, or some other chemical, in which case the proper thing to do is seek drug rehab. If the violence was from some childhood trauma (being beaten by father), then perhaps a psychiatrist combination with a christian counselor would help. So you can't just go and say the pastors are wrong, without knowing both sides of the story. What did the pastors say to defend themselves, do we even know? pastoral counseling for example gives equal weight to both witnesses as important. Typically if one is in error, it will show up in the counseling session. But it's easy to point to the 'physical abuse' and avoid that the wife was just not into sex (which is very common with women. And the fact that the pastor mentioned "sex" means that the husband felt she was holding out. (I am not saying that she should stay in an abusive situation, but typically an argument involves two people). So if she desires reconciliation, then submitting to him physically would be one requirement for marriage. If she chooses to leave him out of safety of her self and family, that is up to her. But I don't believe she can remarry. I believe the only remarriage possibility is if the spouse cheats on you.
1. BELIEVER & BELIEVER:
Divorce is not right. If divorce occurs, reconciliation must be sought (the alternative is to remain in an unmarried state). If the divorcing party does not seek reconciliation, he/she should be brought into the order of church discipline. If there is no repentance, the divorcing party should be ex-communicated as an unbeliever (i.e., treated as a heathen and tax-collector) and so the situation would change to...
2. BELIEVER & UNBELIEVER:
Divorce is not to be sought by the believer (under the new covenant, the grace of God is stronger than under the old; in the Mosaic covenant the foreign wife made her husband unholy -
Ezra 10:2,
3 - but in the new, the believing spouse sanctifies the unbelieving). If the unbeliever desires divorce, it can be granted. And then, the believer is free to remarry.
3. IN THE CASE OF ADULTERY:
If the adulterer repents and falls into the grace of Christ, his/her spouse is not obligated to stay, but is not eligible for remarriage (
1 Corinthians 7:11). If the adulterer does not repent, he/she should fall into the hands of church discipline by which he/she will either prove Christian and repent (allowing the victim to divorce sans remarriage) or prove unbelieving, by which listing #2 comes into effect."
Remarriage after Divorce - Study Resources
Here are some more links for more studies on divorce from blue letter bible:
Study Guide for Matthew 19 by David Guzik
Study Guide for 1 Corinthians 7 by David Guzik