Emotionally Abusive

Wait a few days until you feel less on edge. Then apologize to him, saying you now realize that you were unfair to him with your words, that you know that words can hurt, and that you are very sorry about having done that. If he takes that straightforward admission as you hope he will, count your blessings that you dodged a bullet, meaning a damaged relationship that was too far gone to be saved.

Your entire life is not submitted to God and is entrenched in sin, as evidenced by the fact that you are potentially pregnant with a man's baby who is not your husband. You're conflicted over whether you want to serve Christ or sin- and until you die to sin and surrender to Christ to be His disciple with no conflict of interest, you're going to have the instability of one who is double-minded and you'll lack confidence before the true God knowing you are guilty before Him and outside of His righteous boundaries. You have to really believe that sin ends in death, that you cannot serve sin and Christ at the same time, and that God withholds nothing good from those that walk uprightly. We have a responsibility to keep our heart with all diligence, to ponder the path of our feet, to withdraw them from evil, and to follow after that which God defines as good in His Word. You have to break your commitment to your flesh which has led to this in repentance towards God and bow to Christ to serve Him with no conflict of interest. Until then you are in the realm of darkness and bondage to the devil's lusts. The true good news of the gospel is that through Christ's redeeming death and saving life you can be delivered from the guilt and power of sin which leads to God's wrath- if you'll cooperate with the true grace of God which He offers you. Praying for you.

Titus 2:11-14: "11 For the grace of God that bringeth salvation hath appeared to all men, 12 Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; 13 Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Saviour Jesus Christ; 14 Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a peculiar people, zealous of good works."

You need to repent of all sin, and follow Christ, and let Him help you, dear.

The main reason this relationship seems to be falling apart is that you as a Christian should not be in it, and there is a conflict. God is trying to tell you something. Pre-marital sex is emotionally and spiritually damaging, and wrong. It hurts both parties.

Will pray for you, friend.

Have you spoke to your pastor about this situation? Especially the pregnancy and not being married to the man who may be the father?

I agree with the above posts, they offer you good advice.
Repent from the heart, pray and remember you are now responsible for your precious unborn baby.
I will pray for you also.

My apology, I misread that you were pregnant not realising that it is only maybe.
My advice is the same, more important than getting right with your boyfriend is getting right with God. I think you must know this.

blueberribear88 said:

I'm hurt. I've been mean to him. I should've kept the things I said to him to myself. His mom posted something about emotional abuse. I think she is talking about me. I know i get moody at times and text him things that hurt him. But now I'm super depressed about the whole thing ( ugh I feel like a horrible person and dont deserve anyone

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I can see why you would feel bad. However you may have larger issues now that you might be pregnant. If this be the case I highly recommend you seek out your church ministry team to help you work through the conflict and support for the potential pregnancy.

I agree with the people above. The real problem is not that you were emotionally abusive though of course that is not good. The real problem is that you are distraught and have no peace and are leading a lifestyle that will lead to more distress and heartache. You haven't turned your life over to the Lord to let Him help you. He wants to help you! But He wants to, and will only, do it HIS way, as in the ways described in the Bible.

I'm not saying He will have no mercy for you. He will. But you will never get all the blessings and protections He wants to give you unless you start walking with Him instead of walking in the world's ways. Keep praying for help and guidance and direction.

blueberribear88 said:

I'm hurt. I've been mean to him. I should've kept the things I said to him to myself. His mom posted something about emotional abuse. I think she is talking about me. I know i get moody at times and text him things that hurt him. But now I'm super depressed about the whole thing ( ugh I feel like a horrible person and dont deserve anyone

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All of this is upsetting to you, of course. But you have a chance to rectify the situation now that you understand that you were off-base and how it hurt them. Be straightforward and apologetic in your explanation to him, without making excuses for yourself or recounting how miserable or horrible you feel. Doing that could make it seem like you want to play the victim yourself. Then see how it is received. That's about all you can do.

And do not wait much longer to do all of that, if you want to follow this advice.