My heart is broken

You don't have to feel defeated. God loves you!

1 Thessalonians 5 16-18 reads, "Rejoice always, Pray without ceasing, and in everything give thanks, for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus." This is my favorite Bible verse, because to me it gives the assurance that we have a reason to rejoice. The Bible also promises (somewhere in John, I'll find if you need) that God will listen to our prayers. Rejoice!

God bless you,
Grace

Im sorry you're hurting, Xaira...
i recommend reading some psalms.
they often talk about how great God is..
and God is great.
That sounds like what you need to be reminded of.

I like what Alyssa said.

Another book you might want to look at is the book of Job. Job was going through a really hard time, but in the middle of a long lament, he said,
"I know that my redeemer lives,
and that in the end he will stand on the earth.
And after my skin has been destroyed,
yet in my flesh I will see God;
I myself will see him
with my own eyes—I, and not another.
How my heart yearns within me!"
I really like that verse, because in the middle of all his sorrows, Job knew that his Redeemer lived. And in the middle of our struggles, we can know that our redeemer lives

graciesings said:

I like what Alyssa said.

Another book you might want to look at is the book of Job. Job was going through a really hard time, but in the middle of a long lament, he said,
"I know that my redeemer lives,
and that in the end he will stand on the earth.
And after my skin has been destroyed,
yet in my flesh I will see God;
I myself will see him
with my own eyes—I, and not another.
How my heart yearns within me!"
I really like that verse, because in the middle of all his sorrows, Job knew that his Redeemer lived. And in the middle of our struggles, we can know that our redeemer lives

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Yes, I agree with Gracie.


Also, Remember all Jesus went thru?

We all go through troubling times in our lives, but how you deal with it this second will decide how you will feel days weeks, months from now.
You need to remain positive.

Sure, crying may seem like the best option for right now, and I'm not saying crying is bad.
(Id be a major hypocrite if i said that because i cry a lot)
But don't let your emotions consume you to the point of you forgetting about how God can wipe your tears AWAY. FOR GOOD. Okay,? <3 .

Exciting eh? I bet he was dreamy.

Chin up and all that. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Sorry that your heart was broken. But if he was not good for you, then it's better for this to happen now, rather than later when you get even closer and more involved with him.

It's never easy to go through these things, and often times there's not really much one can say to make it feel any better. But if you ever need someone to just talk to or listen, let us know.

xaira said:

Hello, I haven't posted a lot on this forum. Just a little background info. I'm 31 female in canada. My faith is still very new and not very strong. I came back to Christianity after leaving for a long time as I converted to Islam.

My heart has been broken by a man this past week. I'm utterly devastated. I know deep down he wasn't the best influence in my life but he was exciting and made me feel good about myself. And well now that's abruptly over.

I guess I'm here to ask for some comfort. I'm not part of any local Christian group. I feel so lost in my sadness. I struggle with depression that can make life challenging in the best of times. Now I just feel defeated.

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You are not defeated, sister. Just grieving. Let yourself grieve. Tell your Father in heaven all these things on your heart, hold nothing back...not even the 'ugly' parts. His Spirit stands by you through all of this. You are not alone.

There are two physical forces at present that exist in atoms as well as our emotions, they are positive and negative. As Christians, we see that the positive spiritual force of Jesus in our hearts becomes our constant companion and conqueror versus the negative spiritual force of sin from Satan that can create false information or misjudgements about our Lord Jesus Christ:.
Satan uses what I call faith-logic in that atheistic science believes or uses faith in logic, so for example, Mother Nature is the force of creation from destruction of all forms of complex molecules of life that form the complex genetic material in insects, for example, where advanced predatory genes are created for the survival of the species, such as the female wasp injecting it's eggs into living larvae of another species of baby caterpillars.:
Sometimes I wonder if God is deliberately allowing Satan to deceive the world as the television news is dominated by human violence and mother nature's violence of deadly natural disasters:.
Revelations uses Greek-like mythological prophecies to describe future events where doom and gloom in both the global economy and mother nature are just the beginning signs of Satan's game of Monopoly against our Lord Jesus Christ, and I constantly wonder what his cunning move will be as he plays against Jesus, such as the barcode on our grocery products that could turn out to be the "barcode on our foreheads -
or 'foreheads' might even mean something more towards 'what's on our minds all the time' as we consumers of our modern world use mobile phones, tablets or other portable computer devices to purchase goods online: for example, I used a 7 inch tablet to purchase a 60 inch 3D plasma TV and a 3D blu ray 500GB HDD recorder in January 2014 - that's just last month and sometimes I wonder if sin made me do it, and if it did then Jesus would somehow find a way to forgive me by making me record/watch Christian ministry early-morning programs such as Benny Hinn, Joyce Meyer or Creflo Dollar who are all very clever pastors that reveal thought comments about the Word of God which they know in their hearts are true as Jesus would know is true in his heart about our Creator of heaven and Earth .;'*';. Rev 21:2

xaira said:

Hello, I haven't posted a lot on this forum. Just a little background info. I'm 31 female in canada. My faith is still very new and not very strong. I came back to Christianity after leaving for a long time as I converted to Islam.

My heart has been broken by a man this past week. I'm utterly devastated. I know deep down he wasn't the best influence in my life but he was exciting and made me feel good about myself. And well now that's abruptly over.

I guess I'm here to ask for some comfort. I'm not part of any local Christian group. I feel so lost in my sadness. I struggle with depression that can make life challenging in the best of times. Now I just feel defeated.

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Hi. It IS a gut wrenching experience when that happens and ive gone thru it a few times in my life. Theres a few things that you can do at this point to ease the pain in addition to God working in you to bring peace and a feeling of wellbeing back to your life. My suggestions :

1. Get alone with God ALOT starting asap. Several times during the day opening your heart to him. Pour out your hurt. Invite him to walk with you thru this turmoil time in your season.

2. Do introspection. Look back on the relationship and see if you can identify areas that you BOTH contributed to the breakdown of the relationship. Learn from your failures so you can avoid them in the future.

3. Hang out with your lady friends a lot now. Let them pour into you their love and compassion. Do things of interest with them and enjoy the time as much as its possible. Do not do anything with a man, one on one for a few months at least. This is a time for healing in your life and you want it to be deeply felt .

3.a. Go to places that have lifted your spirit in the past. Go to beautiful areas for scenery...maybe the beach/mountains for sunsets/see some live music bands/art museum/ art festivals/ etc... Receive the beauty that you are surrounding yourself with thru these venues . Let it minister to you.

4. DO get involved in CHristian Groups, whether they be a Singles Ministry for fellowship or doing events with other Christian Singles.

5. Count on Satan to tempt you into worldly things during this time you are emotionally weak....such as : Turning to a lot of alchohol , being desperate for male attention , making things Idols to help bring you good self esteem, spending a lot of money on things you don't need in an effort to bring happiness into your life. Read up on Spiritual Warfare in Ephesians chapter 6 so you can defend yourself against these things and bad thoughts... as well as take the offensive to ward off Satans attacks. Pick up a book on HOW to implement the Armour of God for Spiritual Warfare which you can use during bad times and good times cause Satan never rests.

6. Spend more time with your Parents and Siblings for emotional support.

7. Get into a Womans Small Group for additional love and to pour out your feelings.

8. Read Gods Word daily .

9. Take comfort in knowing that even Christ himself suffered great rejection from close people like his family, friends, a Disciple , and the Public .

10 . Consider a Grief Support Group if you don't feel your progressing . Choose a Group that's just not for loosing a loved one to death . There are many similarities though.


Remember, this is something that your Brothers and Sisters go thru each and every day around the world so you are in good company.

Regards. David.

Heartache is VERY painful. I think most people go through it at some point. Sorry to hear you're facing it now. I think the idea of reading the book of Psalms is good--there is lots of comfort there. Over all, I think it would be great if you tried to study the Bible now, and hopefully that will keep your mind off of the heartache.
Hope you feel better soon!

What helped me the last time I was heart broken? I cried and felt a lot better afterwards, then I realised God was behind it all and I moved on.
I hope you feel much better soon, try having quiet times with God, this can help build your inner strenght and help heal you emotionally. Many of us have been there before and I assure you, it does get better (Hugs)

I agree with the posters who said to grieve it out before the Lord. Don't feel you have to withhold anything from Him. He wants intimate relationship, and if you let Him fully in, He can work this for good. 1Cor 12 tells us His power is perfected in weakness. Earlier Paul said he knows how to be abased. It's not by a stiff upper lip, it's by resting in His power. Faithful and True will see you through.

Sometimes, the best thing to offer is...

I'm sorry I know what it's like to at least lose a friendship abruptly. Praying for you!

Remember that God will never leave you. Okay?

i am sorry.. i can understand the pain that accompanies loss, in a relationship.. years ago i screamed at God over the same issue.. i felt so absolutely alone and betrayed... the pain at the time was unbareable.. but, over time.. a lake or two of tears later.. the pain is just gone.. the truth is.. that looking back in retrospect was a good thing.. i can see now how that particular relationship wasn't tailored to suit a man of God.. you see. God saw my life down the road and being gracious, He saved me from my own bad decisions.. now i cannot thank Him enough.. i would be so unhappy if i had gone down that road.. it was a path that was in utter defiance to God's wishes for my life..
i know that words don't really help right now.. but in time you are going to look back and chuckle at the wonderful memories that you shared..
you are considered God's best.. do you really want to settle for a relationship that is perfect for you in God's righteous and tender loving plan for your life.. you are better than that.. blessing sister.. and know that i along with multitudes love you...

I understand you feel emotionally deprived at the moment. But from a Spiritual perspective you couldn't be better. You accepted the Saving Grace of Christ and God is removing unhealthy influences from your life. You'll look back on this event in years to come and realise you were exactly where The Lord wanted you to be, at that point.

There was a sign in a Church near where I lived, it read:- Is God your co- pilot? Why not change seats?

Good advice.

Don't worry. Unless you happen to be dead without really accepting Jesus, it's never too late. Okay?

xaira said:

On top of that I sometimes am filled will fear that I was wrong for leaving Islam and I'm doomed for eternity for that. So many people on here are just so sure of what they believe. For me I want to believe but it's so difficult.

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Leaving Islam is never wrong.

The Bible says that faith comes by hearing the Word of God. You want to believe more? Read the Word of God more and listen to it being preached. You really need to find a good church to go to.

Until you get the Word into you, you will be blown around by ever gust of wind life hits you with. We've all had our hearts broken at some point. Use this time to realize that everyone will eventually fail you. No one on Earth is perfect.

However, God Almighty will not fail you. He loves you very much and has already given His Son Jesus as a sacrifice for your sins. Trust the Lord to help you and He will.

This world is a very disappointing place. Run to God, for His love never fails. Talk to God about your problems and ask Him to help you. Thank Him for what He has done for you.

I pray God blesses you Xaira, in Jesus name, amen.