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[sampa]

@sampa ,

Also, what do the A's stand for?

I keep getting the A along with the four other letters.

Is it "assertive"? I've been looking, but can't seem to find it. Thank you.

I don't know much about Enneagram, so I couldn't answer what that letter means. Sorry.

 

[MehGuy]

Woot I lost some weight.. been falling off the diet wagon.. but still..

 

[Tone]

I don't know much about Enneagram, so I couldn't answer what that letter means. Sorry.

No, I believe that's the Myers-Briggs...

I did a bit more research and found that it is A for "Assertive".

I don't think that everybody's Brigg's letters come with an additional letter at the end. That's why I thought it was notable that the Assertive (A) is the one letter that remained the same, even though all the others changed.

The other letter you can have at the end is 'T' for "Turbulent".

Your results didn't have an A or T at the end?

 

[Tone]

Oh yeah, in case anybody's interested:

Identity: Assertive vs. Turbulent | 16Personalities

 

[bèlla]

Never seen it.

What did these millionaires look like?

Average guys for the most part. Just really successful. She chided many about chasing looks and unrealistic expectations. She wanted them to focus on fit. Otherwise, they might have someone with them for the wrong reasons. She had male and female clients. The women were sensible.

 

[bèlla]

One thing I have noticed most of my life is that anywhere I go, it's not uncommon for someone to want to speak with me.

I don’t mind small talk. I shop during periods when stores aren’t busy and most are at work (pre-Covid). If I see my lady (customer ideal) I talk to her. Or I chat with employees. They go unnoticed and I like to add a human element.

Long-winded conversation is another matter. It depends on the setting. In a store, no. I want to get in and out. I’m situationally sociable.

 

[sampa]

Your results didn't have an A or T at the end?

Nope. At least on the test I've taken I haven't seen it.

 

[sunshineforJesus]

I cannot believe its less than a week till Christmas,Everyone is all set with Christmas shopping except for my dad.

 

[Tone]

Black Beauty...where are you...?

You know I've been looking...

Can't find you so...I've been asking around...

But you know this here's a big ole town...

Anyways, I still remember our days...

And how we met on the corner of F and 8th...

Yeah, that's Fate...


--T1


*I miss you Pili...

 

[TenthAveN]

I don’t mind small talk. I shop during periods when stores aren’t busy and most are at work (pre-Covid). If I see my lady (customer ideal) I talk to her. Or I chat with employees. They go unnoticed and I like to add a human element.

Long-winded conversation is another matter. It depends on the setting. In a store, no. I want to get in and out. I’m situationally sociable.

Customers usually come up to me to ask where something is, or reach something that’s up high, as I am fairly tall (I work at WalMart, by the way). However, there’s this one gentleman and his son(?) that come in there, and they talk to me like we’ve met before (maybe we have). Other customers make small talk once in a while. It is nice to chat with someone.

 

[MehGuy]

Average guys for the most part. Just really successful. She chided many about chasing looks and unrealistic expectations. She wanted them to focus on fit. Otherwise, they might have someone with them for the wrong reasons. She had male and female clients. The women were sensible.

Those types of reality shows are often heavily edited and like most mainstream media it often has feminist propaganda to peddle. In reality women often have unrealistic expectations of what they want in men too.

Sorry given that I'm not going to watch that show. Unless one of my favorite anti-feminist podcasts chooses to cover it in order to rip it to shreds, lol. Really.. they often review like literally 2 minutes of something feminist shown on TV/online shows and they can easily spend 2 to 3 hours discussing what is wrong with it. I'm not even exaggerating.

 

[bèlla]

I finally resolved the slow cooker issue. After two videos my daughter wanted a sous vide and air fryer. We don't fry and the sous vide takes awhile to cook! I opted for a larger Instant Pot and a Bread Proofer with a Slow Cooker (built in) as a gift.

Now I can focus on school supplies.

 

[MehGuy]

Glad I only work 3 days this week.. although I still have annoying health insurance stuff to straighten out..

 

[bèlla]

Those types of reality shows are often heavily edited and like most mainstream media it often has feminist propaganda to peddle. In reality women often have unrealistic expectations of what they want in men too.

You read feminism in everything. But in this instance you're wrong. Wealthy women aren't usually feminists. They don't have to be. They're privileged. And they aren't looking for a stud muffin because they're rich. She's more likely to get someone in her sphere. Similar wealth and social standing or better.

 

[MehGuy]

You read feminism in everything.

When I see something in media that paints only men in a bad light, it's pretty understandable to be suspicious of feminist clowning around afoot.

But in this instance you're wrong. Wealthy women aren't usually feminists. They don't have to be. They're privileged. And they aren't looking for a stud muffin because they're rich. She's more likely to get someone in her sphere. Similar wealth and social standing or better.

I'm not really putting the blame on the wealthy women. More the producers, editors and perhaps host of that program.

Rich men and women do act differently. Men are more concerned with youthfulness and looks and women socioeconomic status. Both parties are acting according to their biology and as far as true love is concerned I can see disaster with both parties.

 

[bèlla]

When I see something in media that paints only men in a bad light, it's pretty understandable to be suspicious of feminist clowning around afoot.

Most of her clientele who agreed to be filmed were male. You'll see greater disparities for that reason.

Rich men and women do act differently. Men are more concerned with youthfulness and looks and women socioeconomic status. Both parties are acting according to their biology and as far as true love is concerned I can see disaster with both parties.

Financial differences are challenging in any relationship. Whether the primary is male or female. The one with the largest means often holds the purse strings. The greater the gap the larger the shift.

I don't agree with inequitable partnerships. I prefer a power couple. The collective talents and resources benefit the union. One person isn't doing or providing it all.

 

[MehGuy]

Most of her clientele who agreed to be filmed were male. You'll see greater disparities for that reason.

I do not really see why that matters? Did they at least have a few women who was also not sensible? From reading your post I got the impression they did not.

Financial differences are challenging in any relationship. Whether the primary is male or female. The one with the largest means often holds the purse strings. The greater the gap the larger the shift.

For the average person I do not agree with that. A male making less than a female in a relationship will produce more psychological problems for both sexes than the other way around.

I don't agree with inequitable partnerships. I prefer a power couple. The collective talents and resources benefit the union. One person isn't doing or providing it all.

Similar social wealth and standing or better though. Curious what you mean by better?

 

[bèlla]

I do not really see why that matters? Did they at least have a few women who was also not sensible? From reading your post I got the impression they did not.

As I recall there were only a couple. You're advertising your wealth by appearing on the show. That's a private matter for most.

For the average person I do not agree with that. A male making less than a female in a relationship will produce more psychological problems for both sexes than the other way around.

Power couples aren't average people. They're high net worth earners.

Similar social wealth and standing or better though. Curious what you mean by better?

Greater.

 

[MehGuy]

As I recall there were only a couple. You're advertising your wealth by appearing on the show. That's a private matter for most.

So what.. zero women were presented as unreasonable compared to how many men presented as unreasonable relative to the number of men shown?

This is not even going into questioning the show's narrative of what is being presented as unreasonable and reasonable.

Power couples aren't average people. They're high net worth earners.

That's fine. There is still an average within that select group of people. The same really applies to couples from lower and higher end wages. No matter the money a couple makes, a male making less will produce more problems than the other way around.

Greater.

Greater is a given, I am wondering how much greater a socioeconomic position you'd accept from a man compared to yourself?

 

[bèlla]

So what.. zero women were presented as unreasonable compared to how many men presented as unreasonable relative to the number of men shown?

Most of the participants were level-headed. The ones who weren't were advised to take a different approach. Some listened and some didn't.

This is not even going into questioning the show's narrative of what is being presented as unreasonable and reasonable.

I didn't psychoanalyze the show. Nor does gender or feminism cross my mind very often.

Greater is a given, I am wondering how much greater a socioeconomic position you'd accept from a man compared to yourself?

All relationships have expectations and consequences. Irrespective of station. The healthiest ones are practical. Don't agree to things you're unable to perform. Fit is my barometer.

Money isn't a big deal. It's the other stuff that causes problems. Our lifestyles and personalities have to mesh. I like positive go-getters. I don't need someone stressing me out or upsetting me.