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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.
 

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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.

It they ask ... then tell them the truth ... How did you do on the math exam? 80%

Otherwise no reason to bring it up ... if they want to know they will ask you.

If you want to know what someone thinks about something ... ask them .... what you think they might be thinking is quite futile and often times wrong.
 
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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.

Is it a concern about pride?

This isn't something I'd particularly worry about, Jesus had supernatural gifts and had no shame in pointing out the One who gave them.

And you can do the same, for example: "GOD be praised as He gave me the gift of doing well academically, so that I can go on to do even greater things in His Name!"

Nothing wrong with pointing to God as the giver of a gift... :) we all have a testimony... sometimes they seem small, but they aren't.
 
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Is it a concern about pride?

This isn't something I'd particularly worry about, Jesus had supernatural gifts and had no shame in pointing out the One who gave them.

And you can do the same, for example: "GOD be praised as He gave me the gift of doing well academically, so that I can go on to do even greater things in His Name!"

Nothing wrong with pointing to God as the giver of a gift... :) we all have a testimony... sometimes they seem small, but they aren't.
I sort of feel embarrassed. Someone may say “I got 60% in that tough exam. I’m happy with that” then I say “Well done, it was quite tough questions” then they ask how did I do. Then I say “I got 95%”. It just feels very awkward for me saying that.
 
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I sort of feel embarrassed. Someone may say “I got 60% in that tough exam. I’m happy with that” then I say “Well done, it was quite tough questions” then they ask how did I do. Then I say “I got 95%”. It just feels very awkward for me saying that.

I was one like that, for me exams were always easy. But it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

I do believe in the scenario you posed that your going about the conversation incorrectly to begin with though, because when asked the direct question it appears your initial response was insincere at best, and only made to placate the friend.

Try just being honest to start. If someone walks up and leads the conversation with; "I got a 60% on that test", you could respond by saying "testing for me is reasonably easy so long as I put adequate time in to prepare, but not everyone has the same amount of ease with testing overall so you should be happy with that outcome."

That way your not coming across as insincere when asked the direct question about your score.
 
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I was one like that, for me exams were always easy. But it's nothing to be embarrassed about.

I do believe in the scenario you posed that your going about the conversation incorrectly to begin with though, because when asked the direct question it appears your initial response was insincere at best, and only made to placate the friend.

Try just being honest to start. If someone walks up and leads the conversation with; "I got a 60% on that test", you could respond by saying "testing for me is reasonably easy so long as I put adequate time in to prepare, but not everyone has the same amount of ease with testing overall so you should be happy with that outcome."

That way your not coming across as insincere...
Thanks. Everybody has different targets so if I said that type of thing it was to be nice to them as they probably reached their target. I set myself higher targets and I worry that people think I’m full of myself for sharing my honest results.
 
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Thanks. Everybody has different targets so if I said that type of thing it was to be nice to them as they probably reached their target. I set myself higher targets and I worry that people think I’m full of myself for sharing my honest results.

Nah... we aren't carbon copies of one another, and we weren't intended to be. Just be you.
 
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If they ask then do I say exact results?

Yes because by so doing you're being truthful. The moment they learn, of how you have excelled by far above them, it will have taught them a lesson not to pry too much next time.
 
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Yes because by so doing you're being truthful. The moment they learn, of how you have excelled by far above them, it will have taught them a lesson not to pry too much next time.
I don’t feel comfortable
 
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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.

I know what you mean, maybe. I always did well in school and learned quickly that some resented it. So, I became very evasive when asked. I would say, "Oh, I did okay." Or, some such thing.

In general, I had a favorite line I would say when I didn't want to tell someone something. I would say, "I couldn't tell you the truth." And, I would say it in some offhand way, as if to say, "Who knows?"

The other thing I learned to do was simply avoid people. I was socially distant before it was cool. That's not real helpful guidance, but true, nonetheless

It would help if people would simply rejoice with the success of others, but that's not the kind of world we live in.
 
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Listen...

God has been torturing me for 18 months.

You need to be prepared for this!

I was not and my life has been taken away from. Every day I believe will be my last though, All I can do is stay positive!

So, for a year and a half leading up to this happening, I had a handful of people trying to get me to believe that I was siding with the devil/Lucifer/Saten.

They would do very small things, but make it very clear that was their intention.

I knew what they were doing though and I did not accept.

Fast forward to a 19 months ago.

My ex S/O passes away and at her funeral, her mother puts some of her hair into a ziplock bag and puts it in my backpack before I get on my flight back home.

Within a couple of days her voice starts appearing out of nowhere. I was curious and also happy, who wouldnt be?

Someone who I cared about so much who is gone from this world but I can still talk to them as a ghost?

Well, then it starts getting strange, because her mom starts popping up in our conversations.

And then She wants me to sell my soul!

I would have never believed any if they would have told me this before!

She then tells me have to pick a god

If I would have breathed hard, the name 'Lucifer' would have come out my mouth. However I do not do it!

After that, I start hearing other voices, From God, asking me to 'let Jesus in my heart' and to give my wil over to god and he will give it right back. This is done in the voice of my step father BTW.

Like [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]?

Throughout the last 19 months I have had my thought taken from me, my self taken from me, my feelings taken from me, My motivation taken from me. I have made to feel like I am being controlled from a computer. I have had my ability to feel joy taken from me. I have laughed under 10 times in 19th months and I was the happiest person in the world before this happened. Like, the happiest person in the world!

This has been done to me, I believe in the name of God.

I belive that since i was not openly a christian, despite being confirmed. And, after a year of this my sisters first communion happened and I did not go up to communion because i thought that followers of God were trying to get me to admit that I worshiping the Devil???

NOne of this is true though. I have an instragram that is, like commentary on society with the 'geez' in the title. That has Disney occult stuff and a picture of red and green fireworks.

I am an artist. I use myperspective to deliver messages. People either see things or they do not. I also created a piece with the backdrop of detroit with the lyric' City is my church, In rainbow. Which could go either way.

But, I was being made to feel that I actually was worshiping the devil.

I do not know why.

I am just telling you. Be prepared. If anyone ever asks you if you are hearing voices. SAY NO!!! If people ask you to choose a god in strange way, even if you are a christian, do not answer them.

There is no reason to go down this path.

I had just gone thorugh 5 years of addiction and was 31 when this started. It my last chance at fulfilling my dreams. I was trying to start a family. I was trying to start a compnay. I am 34 now and I have since relapsed after almost 2 years of clean time, have been evicted from my apartment, and have not dated anyone. Despit always beingwithsome for the previous 10 years.

It is torture. Pure hell. And I do not know what to do. I have stress being created in my head when i wake up in the morning which starts my day, then the rest of the day is hell. I can not work. I can not have fun. It is the worst thing. I would not wish this on Osama and I am not even kidding.

Please just be careful

I would never had believed this before. You do not have to know, but if anything wierd starts happening to you, just do not say anything and then avoid the people, even if they are family members, which is really hard. But it was my family that pushed this on me.
 
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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.
In this situation, as a college student myself, this is something that I think about as well. If you don't want to come off as bragging, then just say you passed the exam. If you have pride in your score but don't want others to feel bad, then just say you did well. I don't think there is any issue in saying that you got above a B on the exam or that you got 'above passing' marks on the exam(Its a true statement and its easier for other people to accept). That's what I generally tell my friends when they get curious. Its a nice balance because it tells others you did well while showing some consideration and humility as well. But at the end of the day, it isn't your responsibility to be concerned about another person's insecurities. Just focus on doing well and if it makes you feel better give conservative and vague responses about your score. I hope that helps!
 
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When you get exam results should you be telling other people what you get in them? I normally do quite well in exams and because of this feel awkward telling people my results.
I’m remain quiet about how I perform at college and wonder do people think I’m secretive in an odd way.
Any help about how to deal with this issue I appreciate as I’m not very good at deciding what to do in social situations.


Years ago I too pulled straight A's in math and those around me often struggled. I remember sitting in the hall and hearing "I got a d", "at least I past, barely" and comments like that, and I had gotten and 100. So I understand. I even once had a math professor call out in the halls, "YOU!" I looked around confused then asked if he meant me and he said, "How much is 3 plus four?" I answered "seven why?" He said, "You wrote twelve, you multiplied. Had you added that you would have gotten the only A."

So keep it secrete, if you can. I tried, but sometimes teachers made made it clear I was one of their best students.
 
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