How did you manage to marry into a family that treats you this way? Did you meet them before you married? Were they the same or did something change?
The first recourse is prayer. You need to pour your heart out to God and admit your grievances and concerns. The second step is forgiveness. If you want to see His movement in a dramatic way you need to release your anger. It won't happen overnight. The best way to get there is through prayer.
Stormie Omartian has great prayer resources. I recommend
The Power of a Praying Woman and
The Power of a Praying Wife. She offers study guides (I'm starting one soon) to use with the books. It would help you with your mindset and stay centered on the Lord. I also like
Prayers of an Excellent Wife by Andrew Case. On the devotional end,
The Love Dare Day by Day is really good. It provides bite sized encouraging messages and small challenges. They're simple to do. I think you'll like it a lot. You can find them at the library or Amazon.
I don't need to restate the value of reading the bible. But I also encourage you to pour liberally into your spirit. You need uplifting messages.
Marriage Today is a great source for relational help. But you'll want to give equal attention to yourself.
Beth Moore and
Joyce Meyer have ministered on brokenness and the challenges women face when we're hurting. I think you'll be blessed by them both.
Don't forget the power of worship. Play Christian music often. Start and end your day with a time of praise. You'll see immediate results in your heart and spirit. Don't forget gratitude either. If you don't have a practice this is a great time to start. Acknowledging your blessings on a daily basis is therapeutic. Here's a good
one.
And don't neglect fellowship. You'd benefit from a prayer partner. If that isn't possible add your name to prayer lists and let others pray on your behalf. Google "online prayer request" and you'll see many churches and ministries provide the service. I encourage you to seek the company of wise women with solid marriages. You need to know what healthy love looks like.
Finally, don't forget you're seeing things from a limited vantage point. But God knows the end. Surrender your wants to Him and get on His page. Develop a servant mindset in your marriage as unto the Lord. Keep Him in the forefront of your thoughts and you can do anything.
May the Lord abide with you in the valley and restore your marriage. Bearing witness to His redeeming power through you and your husband. Stand firm and wait for Him.
Note: I've used everything I recommended and more.
~Bella