- Jan 2, 2019
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I've known this girl for about a year, and she's had feelings for me for about 9 months. We go to college together, and we're both 21 years old. Having just been a rebound for someone else, I decided not to date anyone for the first 5 months (last semester), just so I wouldn't inflict the same pain on someone else as was dealt to me. The beginning of this current semester I was still uncertain at first, but I finally went on a date with her a couple of weeks ago. We both enjoyed it. We were planning a second one this week, but then something happened Sunday night that really bothered me.
Sunday night was an event that I was a part of, and she decided to show up with her dad to support me. During this event, my dad was filming and photographing. It turns out that she and her father are extremely sensitive when it comes to photography (she most likely got it from her father). For some reason, as my father was taking photographs of the crowd and the performing group, they assumed that he was taking pictures of THEM specifically. In response, they left the event early, then texted me demanding that we delete all the pictures "we took of them." There ended up being only ONE picture of the crowd, where you'd have to zoom in very far to even see them, which I explained to the girl through text. She responded saying she didn't believe me. These things really bothered me.
Today she confessed her longtime feelings for me, but we ended up just remaining friends. It was a hard decision because I have started gaining a bit of feelings for her, and I know that she is a good, Christian girl. But after Sunday night I could not help but feel weird about us and uncertain. She did not apologize for Sunday night. Because I was uncertain, I just decided, with pain in my heart, to remain friends. She's such a genuine, kind person, and we have a lot of things in common. However, Sunday night was a real shock to me, and I was hurt. I feel terrible because I do care about her, and I know she must feel heartbroken.
I've really been praying for God to give both her and me comfort and clarity. I also trust that if it's God's plan for it to work out, then it will. It's just so hard in the mean time, you know?
Do you all think I made the right decision? How might I tell if God wants or does not want this relationship for us both?
TL;DR: I went on a date with a girl who's had feelings for me for a while now. I have been starting to gain feelings, but then Sunday night she and her father demonstrated somewhat disturbing behavior, accusing my father of photographing them without their permission, demanding the deletion of those pictures, and accusing me of lying when I attempted to explain that that was not the case. Today she confessed her longtime feelings for me, but because I was feeling uncertain, we decided to just remain friends. Did I make the right decision?
Sunday night was an event that I was a part of, and she decided to show up with her dad to support me. During this event, my dad was filming and photographing. It turns out that she and her father are extremely sensitive when it comes to photography (she most likely got it from her father). For some reason, as my father was taking photographs of the crowd and the performing group, they assumed that he was taking pictures of THEM specifically. In response, they left the event early, then texted me demanding that we delete all the pictures "we took of them." There ended up being only ONE picture of the crowd, where you'd have to zoom in very far to even see them, which I explained to the girl through text. She responded saying she didn't believe me. These things really bothered me.
Today she confessed her longtime feelings for me, but we ended up just remaining friends. It was a hard decision because I have started gaining a bit of feelings for her, and I know that she is a good, Christian girl. But after Sunday night I could not help but feel weird about us and uncertain. She did not apologize for Sunday night. Because I was uncertain, I just decided, with pain in my heart, to remain friends. She's such a genuine, kind person, and we have a lot of things in common. However, Sunday night was a real shock to me, and I was hurt. I feel terrible because I do care about her, and I know she must feel heartbroken.
I've really been praying for God to give both her and me comfort and clarity. I also trust that if it's God's plan for it to work out, then it will. It's just so hard in the mean time, you know?
Do you all think I made the right decision? How might I tell if God wants or does not want this relationship for us both?
TL;DR: I went on a date with a girl who's had feelings for me for a while now. I have been starting to gain feelings, but then Sunday night she and her father demonstrated somewhat disturbing behavior, accusing my father of photographing them without their permission, demanding the deletion of those pictures, and accusing me of lying when I attempted to explain that that was not the case. Today she confessed her longtime feelings for me, but because I was feeling uncertain, we decided to just remain friends. Did I make the right decision?
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