JRichard68
There is too much butter on those trays
I know I'm late in posting, but I wanted to comment that much of what you might have heard about marriage, the role of women, submission, etc. is a rather skewed view of what's actually taught. If you're being told that a 1st century Christian ethic can be brought forward into the 21st, without a consideration of the culture and environment of that time, then you're probably being led wrong. Let's start with everyone's favorite, Ephesians 5. Vs. 21 gives an explicit command for Christians to "submit to one another out of reverence for Christ". That's the foundation. The word "submit" in vs. 22 actually isn't in the Greek - it's brought forward from vs. 21. So Paul's direction for husbands and wives draws from vs. 21 and his command to submit to one another.This may not be a debate, but first time poster here and I'm curious on your thoughts. Please feel free to move if need be.
Struggling a lot in my marriage, was getting pastoral counseling through our church. I've always been a Christian, but not much of a Bible reader. Recently I've rectified that. I was honestly shocked at how women were treated in the Bible. And how they are commanded to behave.
I won't get into details except to say during our counseling sessions, I have repeatedly been told to submit, Ephesians 5, yada yada. I have done that. My husband was told to work on some things and he didn't. I showed frustration in a session and was told, "You should be grateful your husband is coming home every night. That he's not with other women."
I spent 2 days after hearing this pouring over every time women were mentioned in the Bible. My takeaway is a complete challenge to my faith. I do not see love for women in the Bible. I see women offered up to be raped, women held as "less than", and told to submit at all times, even when husbands are cruel or unfair. It appears to me that a suffering woman is pleasing to God. So that is my debate question: Is a suffering woman pleasing to God? Is that His desire?
You'll also notice (and some husbands don't) that the instructions for husbands to wives takes up much more space on the page. "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for it". Again - foundation. How do husbands do that?
Ephesians 5:28-30 said:...husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.
Now, I don't know about anyone else, but that's a huge responsibility. And the more husbands occupy their mind with how "well" their wives are submitting and following the directions to women, the less they are occupied with their own responsibility. And that's not loving one's wife as Christ loved the church. Christ "gave Himself". He did confront sin, but did it in mercy and forgiveness.
I would suggest a study of women in the bible, and especially their role in the early church. And I would also examine a bit more about the culture at the time these instructions were written. Sometimes they were written to address a specific problem, such as a wife living with an unbeliever, or disruptions in church assemblies. It's also okay to examine the historical understanding of these passages. Get some context other than what you're being told. Invest in a good bible commentary to help understand these things. This is one I use that is excellent. Very straightforward, but full of information that breaks down culture, context, and meaning:
IVP Bible Background Commentary, The: New Testament: Craig S. Keener: 9780830824786: Books - Amazon.ca
Hope this helps!
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