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I believe that God loves women equally to men, but I believe that the Bible has been re-written and interpreted and translated by men who wanted women to be less than men. Anyone who tells you to be grateful that your husband comes home and doesn't stay out all night should not be counseling *anyone.* You might say the same thing: your husband should be grateful that YOU are there every day. Where does such nonsense get anyone? Marriage shouldn't be based on gratitude that the normal courtesies of daily life are observed by either party. It should go a lot deeper than that.This may not be a debate, but first time poster here and I'm curious on your thoughts. Please feel free to move if need be.
Struggling a lot in my marriage, was getting pastoral counseling through our church. I've always been a Christian, but not much of a Bible reader. Recently I've rectified that. I was honestly shocked at how women were treated in the Bible. And how they are commanded to behave.
I won't get into details except to say during our counseling sessions, I have repeatedly been told to submit, Ephesians 5, yada yada. I have done that. My husband was told to work on some things and he didn't. I showed frustration in a session and was told, "You should be grateful your husband is coming home every night. That he's not with other women."
I spent 2 days after hearing this pouring over every time women were mentioned in the Bible. My takeaway is a complete challenge to my faith. I do not see love for women in the Bible. I see women offered up to be raped, women held as "less than", and told to submit at all times, even when husbands are cruel or unfair. It appears to me that a suffering woman is pleasing to God. So that is my debate question: Is a suffering woman pleasing to God? Is that His desire?
Do your own study, read around and please think about getting counseling someplace other than this, because this sounds to me like one of those men who interpreted the Bible so that he could rule over women, rather than live in peace with her.
This kind of thing is why I don't even call myself a Christian any longer. Because many facets of Christianity simply appall me.
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